"Henan Beauty" was mysteriously killed while hiking in Tibet: Poetry and distance are not as important as it

Today's society is developing at an ever-increasing speed, and people's lives are filled with various elements closely related to economic life: every day they have to think about how their work can go smoothly, how to maintain family and kinship relationships, You have to think about how your life should develop in the future...

As a result, many people's lives have become very routine and even boring. Therefore, in such an environment, there will always be some people who "escape" from the stereotyped life and pursue themselves in nature and travel.

Especially in recent years, with the development of some tourist areas, more and more people have appeared traveling to distant places.

Among the many routes, the most popular one is the Sichuan-Tibet line. This route is far away from most provinces and can better achieve the purpose of "long distance travel"; on the one hand, the altitude of the Qinghai-Tibet Plateau is It is higher, which makes people feel closer to the sky and purer; secondly, the Tibetan Buddhism that is popular in the area makes people feel very pious.

Among these people traveling far away, there are many who travel by car, cycle and even walk. We know that there are many dangers involved in traveling thousands of kilometers away by car, let alone on foot.

As a result, in recent years, the number of unfortunate deaths on the Qinghai-Tibet line has gradually increased.

For example, the girl who died in Hoh Xil last year and the "Adventure King" who disappeared on the Qinghai-Tibet Plateau. These tragic cases seem to have happened yesterday. On August 21, 2021, another tragedy occurred during the trip. "Meimei", a girl from Henan, unfortunately died in a car accident on the Qinghai-Tibet line.

This has aroused heated discussion among many netizens: Why are there always people obsessed with using their own strength to travel to Sichuan and Tibet? Compared with my only one life, is the so-called "distant place" so beautiful?

This girl set out for Tibet from her hometown in Henan in May this year. During her journey, in addition to her own strength, she was accompanied by a non-motorized vehicle that relied on her own manpower. Driven "RV". But only three months after leaving home, he encountered misfortune.

What is regrettable is that according to clues provided by the local police, the reason why Meimei met with misfortune was precisely because the "RV" lost control on the ramp and crushed her to death.

It is so regrettable that the person I originally relied on as a helper on the journey eventually became the murderer who took his own life.

Meimei’s unfortunate experience tells us a truth: even if you want to travel far or do other things, you must do it according to your ability.

In the previous frequent cases, many relevant people said that they must not use this kind of non-motor vehicle modified transportation, because there are always unexpected road conditions and emergencies on the long road. Condition.

So when we really want to do some "escape" travel, we should make sufficient plans, or use modern transportation, or drive some RVs or off-road vehicles. This is the only way to ensure your own safety.

In addition to the points that should be paid attention to from a practical perspective, there is also a question that should be considered, that is, whether you really need this trip. If it's just because you're envious of others or "fashionable", then there's no need to do it.

In fact, regarding these unfortunate accidents, the focus of discussions among netizens is also focused on this contradiction: life is very tiring, and a lot of time and energy must be invested every day, and it is real, "punch to the flesh" ; and the so-called "ideal" often gives people an unrealistic sustenance, causing people to have unlimited reveries about things that have not happened.

To give a simple example, for many young people restricted by the "996" work system, life means doing work that they are not good at every day and dealing with the same life. In fact, don’t they have their own ideals hidden in their hearts?

Maybe the programmer who works hard at coding wants to be a pilot; the guy who works as a clerk wants to be a professional football player; and the girl who works in HR dreams of becoming a fashion designer... ....

I believe that everyone has ideals. The function of these ideals is to reenergize oneself when you are confused and to be enthusiastic about life again; when you are overwhelmed by work, Sometimes, if you think about your original ideals, you may become more powerful.

Even if the ideal is illusory and temporarily far away from oneself, as long as it exists, one can find some solace in the busy life. This is the meaning of ideal existence and real life.

However, as a practical person, we always have to find a balance between ideal and reality. As Sigmund Freud said, there are three types of individuals: "ego (completely subconscious)", "id (mostly conscious)" and "superego (partially conscious)" Different levels generally.

We who live in ideals are relatively unrealistic, but we can inspire ourselves in reality; and the reason why we are the most practical in reality is because human life is practical. Unless we can Achieve absolute economic independence, otherwise people will have to run around every day for life. This is determined by the objective laws of society.

However, for many people, making "dreams come true" is not unrealistic. How can we find our true self and catch up with our “ideal self” in real life where we have to work hard?

In fact, there is no other way, which is to make time in real life, improve your quality of life or related skills, and then live the life you want.

For example, Xiao Zhang, who has always wanted to improve his academic qualifications but had to stay in a company to make ends meet, his ideal life is to enter a university and continue his research on history that he is interested in. Therefore, Xiao Zhang sacrifices a lot of leisure time after work. Throughout the year, he had almost no time to rest. When he returned to his rented apartment, he would take out relevant materials, read them with concentration, and even wrote a paper, which was accepted by a core journal.

Finally, after hard work, he passed the application for the doctoral examination, successfully returned to the life of academic research, and continued his ideals.

It is good to have ideals, but it is not rational to pursue them blindly. What we should do more is to become more comfortable in our current life, and then we can make time for ourselves to pursue our ideals.

Ideals must be pursued, but life at the moment cannot be given up. From a physiological point of view, life is a necessary way to continue oneself; on the other hand, life in reality must be maintained.