Zhang Zetian angrily criticized netizens: Take charge of your own life and don’t always point fingers at others. Do you support her?

As a public figure, it has always been difficult to be alone; being slandered without explanation is said to be arrogant or guilty; after explaining, one is said to be unreasonable and not honest; perhaps even the best linguist cannot guarantee Every day's public news can satisfy the public's aesthetic requirements, and finally turns his social platform into a public message board.

Once Jiang Yiyan was scolded on a hot search for an award-winning picture; when Shirley passed away, Victoria Song did not post on Weibo and was questioned by netizens. Sister Milk Tea traveled to the UK when she was a student and was accused of "not studying seriously". The milk tea sister didn't remain silent and directly shouted back.

Although Zhang Zetian, the milk tea sister, is not very old, she has always been a woman with structure and wisdom. In the case of Liu Qiangdong, when everyone was waiting for a good show, she chose to withdraw from the hustle and bustle and go to the UK to study and improve herself. Some people say that when she returns, she will be Niu Colu Zetian, starting a journey to becoming a god. The statement is an exaggeration, but the praise for her is true.

She posted photos of her travels across the UK on a social networking site, and some netizens rushed to comment: "It turns out that studying abroad means playing every day." "What you need to do when studying abroad is to study. It’s not just wandering around that counts as studying.”

Faced with the unfriendly comments from netizens, Zhang Zetian did not choose to remain silent, but responded rudely: “I spend the days when I don’t post photos reading. If I remember correctly, today is the weekend?”

Polite but unceremonious language, reasonable and well-founded, wins beautifully. There is really no need to accommodate people who make trouble out of nothing, criticize other people's lives, do not understand the situation and have no moral integrity.

I have always felt that the most important thing for a person is to be responsible for his own life, rather than dictating the lives of others. And a person's words also have great power. It can be the warm sun in winter, driving away the cold of winter; it can also be a kind of violence, directly hurting people's spirit; and how to speak and how to treat others is a choice. I hope we all choose to be gentle with the world.

1. No one is the yardstick of society, please don’t judge other people’s lives casually

In fact, verbal violence has become common in recent years. Alyssa Chia's two daughters participated in the program "Mom is Superman". The interesting interaction between mother and daughter attracted many netizens. However, some netizens used their own paranoid views to accuse and attack the two children. In fact, these are verbal violence.

All living beings are mortal. The ruler of the country is the law, and no individual can be the ruler of society, so don't use your own standards to impose your own standards on others, and then comment on other people's lives and make fun of them maliciously.

Just like there is no real "empathy" in this world. If you have not experienced what he has experienced, you are not qualified to evaluate him. There is such a sad saying: Don't just say that I have changed, you don't know what I have experienced in these years.

Sometimes the violence of language does not necessarily come from malice, but may come from stupidity.

The complexity of the matter itself and the development of human thinking determine that many times we are unable to see the whole picture of the matter and cannot understand the truth of the matter. So when we don’t know anything, please remain silent. If you must say something, say something encouraging. Because it’s better to bring hope and comfort than blame and criticism.

2. In the face of malicious or stupid accusations, there is really no need to accommodate them

Many public figures inevitably face the supervision and criticism of public opinion every day. But this does not mean that you do not have your own personal life and personal choices. Many times, some netizens' irrational comments have seriously affected their personal quality of life, and some are even malicious.

When I was writing about Jiang Yiyan, some netizens left a rude message saying: Public figures are used for everyone’s supervision and entertainment.

He unabashedly expresses his attitude towards entertaining others. Such malicious people should never be avoided or accommodated. No one can live someone else's life for someone else, and no one should take entertaining someone else's life as their own pleasure. Accommodating without a bottom line can only lead to more harm.

Because Yi Nengjing posted about her daughter taking probiotics, the child was cursed by netizens with "corns". Li Xiang posted a picture of Wang Shiling and was criticized by netizens for being fat and round. This kind of person who has no bottom line and bases his happiness on the pain of others should never be forgiven. Not only should we not forgive, we should also fight back.

Nowadays, there are many “keyboard warriors” on the Internet, and online comments are mixed. In the face of various evaluations from the public, we should also have a strong heart.

As it is written in the book:

There are two pieces of news in the words of others, one is good news and the other is bad news. The bad news is: you can’t get others to like, “love,” approve, accept, or treat you well, and you can’t control others. The good news is: it doesn't matter.

So, in the face of verbal violence on the Internet, what we have to do is to ignore it with contempt, or fight back mercilessly. But I hope that all commentators can evaluate others with a "positive, warm, and friendly" heart. After all, words have warmth, and maybe a piece of warm text can melt a frozen heart. And all causes and effects also become blessings.

Today’s topic: In the face of verbal violence, do you think you should remain silent or resolutely fight back?