Do you want to travel and get married without a bride price? See what people who have been there say.

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There are fewer girls who marry naked these days, mainly because everyone has a better life and is cautious about emotional marriage. Of course, part of the reason is that there is a comparison mentality.

For a girl who wants to marry love, she may not care whether the boy has money, how much bride price the other parents give, or even whether she can hold a banquet, but for the girl's parents, she may not agree.

Moreover, there are times when girls compare with each other. For example, it is good to marry their former good sisters, the banquet is beautiful, and the bride price is rich. Most girls will show envy.

Face has always been valued by China people.

Therefore, marriage is not a matter for two people, because there are too many aspects involved, not just love.

A reader told me that she had planned to marry her boyfriend in a month, but recently, parents of both sides disagreed on the issue of bride price and wedding banquet, which directly affected their feelings.

The reader said that she was not sure whether to continue to marry her boyfriend, because she said that she was afraid that her boyfriend would compromise under the oppression of her parents and her marriage life would be controlled by her in-laws. She said that she would rather not get married.

I can understand the readers' concerns. For a bride who is about to get married, once she gets married, it means that she is a part of the family and the hostess of the new home, and many things can be decided by herself.

I have a friend who got married without a bride price or a wedding. What my in-laws meant at that time was that money was just a form, and the key was tiredness and meaninglessness, so I didn't advocate the vulgarity of young people's bride price and wedding, and asked my friend if he would like to take his son to travel and get married.

To tell the truth, friends themselves hate all the complicated things of weddings, so when future in-laws propose to travel and get married, she agrees with both hands. However, when it came to her parents' house, she resolutely opposed it. The reason was that not getting married meant not marrying her daughter, and others would think that her daughter was not valued by her husband's family.

In short, in order to save face, her family insisted on holding a wedding.

At that time, my friend's mother analyzed it for her. The reason why your mother-in-law doesn't give a bride price or hold a wedding is nothing more than to save money. You think, a wedding will cost tens of thousands, and the bride price is usually100000, so a wedding cost of 200000 is the least. My friend was not surprised by what my mother said, but felt that getting married was really troublesome. Just keep it simple, there's no need to care so much.

How did things finally work out? The wedding was held at a friend's house, and the expenses were of course paid by her parents. As for the bride price, they still forced the other parents to take 65,438+10,000 yuan, and let the son-in-law personally promise at the wedding that the money earned in the future must belong to the daughter.

In the whole incident, although the in-laws seem to be very kind on the surface, they are actually very thoughtful, but friends think that they have been living with their husbands since marriage, as long as their husbands are United with themselves, so they don't care too much.

In some families, parents are embarrassed, but their sons have their own opinions. They are afraid of meeting those parents, and their sons have no opinions. They do whatever their parents say.

Another friend of mine, when discussing the wedding, agreed that the bride price was 65,438+10,000 yuan, and the other two companies each held a wedding, and whoever did it paid for it. However, as the wedding approached, the prospective in-laws demanded to reduce the amount of gift money for various reasons, such as "insufficient money", and also expressed the hope of simply organizing the wedding.

How simple is it?

Is in their own yard, invited a bunch of chefs to cook, so that you can save the cost of the hotel, very cost-effective.

A friend has a good relationship with her boyfriend. I heard that the bride price of the other parents was discounted, and my friend immediately asked her boyfriend to see his attitude. Originally, my friend thought that my boyfriend would be on his side. After all, when she was in love, her boyfriend was always humble to himself.

However, on the key issue, the boyfriend flinched. He told his friends that those were my parents and I had to listen to them. Besides, if you really love me, you shouldn't care so much.

I kidnapped her emotionally anyway.

A friend said that during that time, she was very entangled. On the one hand, she is dissatisfied with her boyfriend's attitude; On the other hand, she is angry with her in-laws. The third reason is that she still wants to marry him, even though she knows that the other family doesn't value her.

Finally, after a period of struggle, sensibility finally overcame rationality and friends got married. I have been married for three years now, and my life is not happy. It is said that I often quarrel with my mother-in-law, and every time I quarrel, my husband will shrink back and leave the problem to them to solve.

My friend said that I should have left with my heart, so that it wouldn't be so messy.

When a couple is about to move from love to marriage, it doesn't matter in what way, and the attitude of in-laws is not the most important. What matters is a man's attitude. If a man listens to his parents everywhere in a family, I don't think you can get married, even if you are given more bride price and the wedding is luxurious.

But if a man can still fight for your interests when his parents make unreasonable demands, I think such a man, first of all, his attitude is worthy of women's trust, because he respects you as his wife and his future partner, and he is convinced that it is you who will accompany him all his life, not his parents.

A man's self-knowledge is the beginning of a beautiful marriage.

For parents, it is necessary to understand that the daughter-in-law is not against herself, but to help take care of her son, so be good to her, because only by being good to her will she be better to your son.

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