What is the most advanced way of life for a middle-aged woman?

For middle-aged women, the most advanced way to live is just one way

I always hear people say that when you reach middle age, you will suffer a lot of hardships that you cannot imagine.

Yes! When we were young, we always felt that life was easy and easy, but when we reached middle age, we discovered that life was more difficult than we imagined.

We always think that there is a way to live one step at a time, and there is a way to live one step at a time. However, when we reach middle age, we will find that the road we can take is too narrow.

Especially for middle-aged women, there are many grievances and sorrows that we cannot control.

Sometimes it is given by your partner, sometimes it is given by life, sometimes it is given by your children, which makes our originally difficult life even more difficult. Only then do we realize that life is really difficult. It’s not easy, and it’s really hard for us.

Sometimes we hide and cry alone in grievance, sometimes we cry sadly in a corner alone, and sometimes we collapse with nowhere to vent and can only bear it silently. .

We want our lives to be better, we want our lives to be happier, but we always find that we are disturbed by some things from the outside world, so we get entangled, feel uncomfortable, and don’t know what to do. what to do.

Sometimes we painfully wonder when this life will end, and sometimes we wonder when this life will change.

But we find that no matter how hard we try, we can only change ourselves, but we can never change others. If we want to obtain happiness, it actually comes from ourselves, that is, we only have to Only when you know how to love yourself can you feel happiness.

Self-love is also the best way for a middle-aged woman to live.

But in reality, many women do not know how to love themselves. They are always hurt by others and themselves, so they will always feel aggrieved when they see no hope of living.

Sister Zhang is such a person.

Soon after she and her husband got married, she became pregnant, so she began to take care of the child at home, but the journey of raising the child was not smooth. There would be disagreements between her and her mother-in-law. Every time there was a disagreement, it was Sister Zhang is giving in.

But after giving in for a long time, the mother-in-law will become more and more rude to Sister Zhang. This feeling makes Sister Zhang very angry.

Actually, this is nothing to Sister Zhang. Sister Zhang has to take care of her children every day and cannot go to work. However, if she needs money for a long time, her husband will become very impatient.

The husband will feel that Sister Zhang can't do anything, can't take care of the children well, and often has disputes with his mother, and she always wants money.

So her husband spoke very rudely to Sister Zhang. Ever since she got married, Sister Zhang has been holding in her anger but has nowhere to vent her anger. Sister Zhang has been living a very unhappy life.

Sometimes if the child behaves better, Sister Zhang will feel happier. However, if the child does not behave well, Sister Zhang will feel very broken and feel that she is a very failed woman.

In fact, many women will encounter situations like Sister Zhang. They have to take care of their children, but because of their husbands’ incomprehension and mother-in-law’s difficulties, their lives are extremely difficult. They don’t want to take care of their children. I know when this kind of life will end, when will this kind of life change, and I am in pain every day.

But in fact, this is because a woman does not know how to love herself. If a woman knows how to love herself, even in such a situation, their life will be very good.

Because they understand that they are the most important, and the one who should not be wronged the least is themselves. They know how much they have contributed and how much they have paid, so they will know how to care for themselves and love them. Own.

No matter what such women face, they will live happily.

For example, when they face grievances, they know how to protect themselves and not feel uncomfortable. Even if they are embarrassed, they will find ways to make themselves feel better and make their lives as comfortable as possible. .

Wang Qin is such a woman. After her marriage, her relationship with her mother-in-law was not good, but in order not to make herself uncomfortable, she did not live with her mother-in-law and only visited her mother-in-law occasionally.

Because she knew that once they were together, there would be many problems. Even if she and her mother-in-law were scolding each other, she would feel aggrieved and angry if she didn't talk. So when faced with such a situation, Wang Qin would choose Make yourself comfortable.

That is to say, she has less contact with her mother-in-law. She knows that this is the only way. If she has less contact with her mother-in-law, gradually there will be fewer conflicts, and she will not always feel aggrieved.

In fact, this is the case with truly smart women. They never let themselves feel wronged. Even if they have no choice, they will choose to make themselves as comfortable as possible.

Because they understand that life is not easy, marriage is not easy, and it is already difficult for them. If they still don’t know how to cherish themselves, but make themselves feel wronged, then they would be really sorry for themselves.

As a result, they will know how to love themselves and live in a self-loving way, and self-love is also a truly advanced way of living for a woman.