The benefits of taking a year off to travel.

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2. the benefits of taking a year off from school to travel

When teenagers drop out of school due to various emotional obstacles such as depression, anxiety or weariness of learning, according to their performance, I roughly divide the whole process into the following five stages:

1. Self-sealing period:

Self-regulation, self-protection, waiting to be accepted.

When children first proposed to drop out of school, they mostly closed the door and locked themselves up, unwilling to communicate with their parents and anyone else. At this time, most parents will be anxious: What's the matter? So do everything possible to talk to children, teachers and experts.

Let's think about it. The child was suspended from school yesterday. Did you ask your parents today? Of course not! He must have thought about it countless times, weighed many advantages and disadvantages, and struggled for a long time before putting it forward.

This will make children spend a lot of energy and have long been exhausted.

Probably from primary school to middle school, he has been studying repeatedly. He is tired of learning every week, which has exhausted his physical and mental strength and made him overwhelmed! Maybe he is confused about the meaning of this fatigue, but I don't know what his future will be like.

And he clearly knows that he has deviated from the track of life, and his heart is full of fear, anxiety and uneasiness. He is not sure whether his parents can accept him, what his classmates and teachers think of him, and whether he is willing to accept himself. At this moment, ..................., he doesn't I don't want anyone to disturb him. He needs to be alone, let go of his entanglement, stretch his body and mind, be alone with himself, and find the right direction and hope from the confusion a little bit.

At this moment, he is like a Bengbu locked in a shell, protecting himself and testing a little. Once the outside world does not accept him or is in danger, he will return to the shell. So if our parents can accept him unconditionally, give him enough time and space, let him have a good rest, stop urging him to go to school, get up on time, and even get up for dinner, let him rest freely and relax until he wakes up naturally, to make up for the lack of sleep for so many years. On the contrary, it will make children recover quickly, and at the same time, they can feel that they are completely accepted by their parents, indicating that they are safe, and will let children get out of self-isolation as soon as possible and communicate their various puzzles with their parents.

Just like a girl wrote in an article: I wake up every day, sit by the window in the sun, talk to myself, take pictures of distant scenery with my camera, and find myself lost bit by bit.

This method actually conforms to a phenomenon called natural consequences. It was first put forward by Rousseau, a famous French educator in the18th century, in his educational book Emile. At the same time, Spencer, a famous British philosopher and sociologist, also believes that natural consequences are an effective means of education. They think that children make mistakes and don't need adults to criticize and punish them. Instead, they use their children's consequences to make them experience pain, thus forcing them to correct their mistakes.

The natural result is a natural result based on realistic pressure, without any imposition from authority. They come from situations and reality, so they are often very effective. But a logical result. Logical consequences require users to have certain skills and abilities. If used improperly, it will lead to a power struggle between parents and children.

There are three purposes for giving children this closed period: first, let them have a full rest; The second is to give parents a time for self-reflection; The third is to break this closed period.

Solve inner contradictions and conflicts

When he feels that he has been accepted by the outside world, he will try to speak out his inner tangled problems, perhaps the child's inner trauma. Most of them are things that parents made them uncomfortable or afraid when they were young; May also be bullied by classmates, this tone has never been out; Or unsatisfactory projects, etc.

At the same time, complaints also need to be satisfied. In fact, this is also a good opportunity to repair, covering the old bad cognition and story with new cognition or story. For example, parents give serious reflections and sincere apologies for their previous negligence, and try to avoid it from happening again in the future; Affirm and comfort the grievances suffered at school and accompany the children to solve them when necessary; For things that are not satisfactory, buy buy will buy them at this stage.

This stage accords with the viewpoint put forward by Chapman, an American family education expert, in his book Five Languages of Love for Children: every child has an emotional container in his heart, which contains the emotional energy needed to support his healthy growth. Just as a car needs a fuel tank to run normally, we should also ensure that children are provided with enough energy until they grow up. These five languages of love include: physical contact, affirmative words, careful moments, and the act of accepting gifts and services.

This part supports children's emotional and social skills.

3. Restore the growing season:

Self-reconstruction and ability improvement

If the first two stages are successfully passed, when the child has a certain degree of physical and mental rest, he will try to do something, such as traveling, reading, thinking, shopping, idolizing, watching concerts, ball games and various art exhibitions, or learning cooking and baking, or participating in various social practice activities. So as to re-perceive the world through the stimulation brought by these contacts with nature, society and people, and at the same time improve their abilities. In fact, this is a person's growth process. However, many times, due to the excessive protection, control and intervention of parents in the process of parenting, they are deprived of the stimulation they should have experienced, and there will be some lack of ability and behavioral deviation, as well as less accumulation of knowledge about the world.

Whitehead, a famous British educator, put forward the education cycle in the book The Purpose of Education. The education cycle includes romantic stage, precise stage and comprehensive application stage. The whole development period from baby to adult forms a big cycle. In this cycle, the romantic stage covers the children's first 12 years, the precise stage includes the middle school education of the whole adolescence, and the comprehensive application stage is the stage for teenagers to reach adulthood.

In the romantic stage of children's first 12 years, parents should conform to their children and try their best to ensure that children explore the world without restrictions, cultivate their own interests and stimulate their curiosity. Children who have not finished the romantic stage and directly entered the precise stage will be greatly restricted in the development of innovative thinking. At present, most of our parents violate the laws of science in pursuit of some short-term goals, completely omitting the important romantic stage and directly entering the precise stage. This leads children to lack endurance, critical thinking and innovative spirit.

This part will support children's research.

So from this perspective, it is not necessarily a bad thing for children to drop out of school, just to take this opportunity to make up for it.

4. Back to school preparation period:

Join a group, improve your spiritual strength and regain your confidence.

Although the children have gone through the above three stages and adapted well, after all, they have been separated from the group for a period of time, and most of them will enter the class one year lower than the original grade after returning to school. Therefore, before the formal resumption of classes, it is best to find an inclusive and relaxed group environment and design some creative games or courses to let children regain their confidence and courage a little. At the same time, sort out the problems that will be encountered and faced after the resumption of classes and do a good job in psychological construction.

5. Consolidation period of resumption of schooling:

Self-realization and precise repair

After the adjustment of the above stages, children can go back to school. However, after the resumption of classes, not everything is fine, and we must not take it lightly, but we need more attention and more companionship. Otherwise, you may drop out of school again, causing secondary injuries. Because children return to the school environment after leaving school for a period of time, face the pressure of teachers and classmates again, and face various academic challenges again, it is inevitable to shrink back and be anxious, and need the company of parents to help children solve problems one by one and pass the exams one by one. That is, to accompany children in real scenes and analyze and face difficulties together; Have achievements, encourage together, and sum up experience together.

The above five stages are a perfect and ideal process. Practice has proved that if parents know certain educational concepts and some scientific parenting methods, even children diagnosed with severe depression or anxiety can be well repaired within one year and successfully return to school. But many parents often think that they can't accept the fact that their children have dropped out of school, and they can't accept it themselves. I don't understand the shopping spree stage, they can I can't stand their children without it. Don't learn to do other things. Useless thing. As a result, they have been fighting with their children and missed a good repair time.

Among these five stages, the most difficult and important is the first stage: the self-sealing stage. Because parents can't accept that children who used to be so smart and excellent suddenly become disobedient. They can't go to school. Do not face it, or they do not face it. I don't want to accept this failure of my own education. So I tried to get the children back to school. In desperation, children are required to maintain a certain routine.

Imagine if he can keep a certain routine, will he not be able to go to school? He doesn't get up, why let him get up so early and not go to school? Why can't children have a good rest?

Once, after hearing my sharing, a parent understood that the son who moved out needed a closed period and stopped interfering with his son. Not only the parent-child relationship has improved, but also the son's state has gradually improved.

Some parents are reluctant to let their children drop out of school and then go back to school. As a result, not only did I fail again and again, but so did my children. S's state is getting worse and worse, and the parent-child relationship is in an embarrassing situation.

Once, a child was suspended from school for two years. I asked him what he wanted to do most, and he said, stay at home and do nothing for the time being. I mean, you and I have been here for two years. Why the harbor? Haven't you stayed long enough? Do your parents have various requirements for you? He said yes, parents asked to get up early, keep exercising and so on. It can be seen that it is very necessary for children to have a completely relaxed, completely independent and undisturbed rest state. Because if his heart is not entangled, tired to a certain extent, and overdrawn to a certain extent, he will not drop out of school. Just like a soldier coming down from the battlefield, he must be scarred.

School is like a battlefield for children. How can you bear to drive a scarred child back to the battlefield again and again? Soldiers may have hurt their visible bodies, but our children have hurt their hearts.

When I wrote this article, I received feedback from a father whose children have been out of school for two and a half years. He said that by chance, I found that my child had been working hard. It is inappropriate for us to be realistic. Not to give him strength when he is weakest, but to push him down.

Can you take a year off school?

Of course you can. If you want to suspend your child from school for one year for special reasons, you can register your child as an S student and complete the suspension after going through the relevant procedures. I suggest that children should persist in studying hard during the year of suspension from school and be psychologically prepared to go to school one year later. That's my answer. I hope my answer can help you.

I. Benefits

1. You can't delay your illness if you drop out of school due to illness.

If the suspension is due to force majeure, the suspension can adjust individual States in the United States. For example, because of delaying illness, insisting on going to school and delaying illness are actually counterproductive. Adjusting your state by dropping out of school can make your future study easier.

2. Dropping out of school can slow down and find yourself.

If you drop out of school because of personal psychological pressure. Taking a year off from school can help you slow down and think about what you want. As the saying goes, haste makes waste. The faster you think, the more capable you are. You can't reach your goal. Therefore, slowing down the pace appropriately is also conducive to finding yourself.

Suspension from school is an opportunity for adjustment.

Suspension from school is not the same as dropping out of school, so it has no effect on the student status, and it is not a bad thing to suspend school for some reason. As long as you can guarantee normal graduation, dropping out of school is a good opportunity for many students who have something to do.

Second, shortcomings.

1, old pressure.

The main harm of dropping out of school is that it is one year later than other students. The former students have all gone to the college entrance examination, and they are still reviewing their knowledge with younger students next school year. Look at the students who are one year younger than themselves now, and you can imagine how much psychological pressure they have.

2. Forget the previous knowledge points.

Even if I have a strong ability to accept, I can adapt to the teacher quickly. But a year later, S dropped out of school, and no one can guarantee that he can remember the knowledge points of last semester. If you don't want to forget, you can only review at home, but you have dropped out of school. I am afraid you can't. You can't study as hard as you did at school.

4. How to spend the year off school?

Domestic universities can drop out of school to study abroad.

Yes, but it requires high school grades, and going abroad requires freshman study. Please note that some countries have age restrictions. Study abroad programs in colleges and universities refer to some study abroad programs offered by domestic colleges and universities. Students study domestic courses 1-3 years in China, then complete other courses abroad, and finally obtain degree certificates at home and abroad. Overseas study programs offered by general colleges and universities are divided into one-year domestic preparatory courses, two-year domestic transfer classes and three-year domestic HND study programs.

5. Take a year off to study abroad

Of course, you can apply for bug-free month. If you want to apply for suspension from school for physical reasons or other reasons, the reasons for applying for suspension are stated on the application form. You can apply for one month, three months or eight months. You can apply for suspension from school according to your physical condition and some conditions.