Why do couples break up after returning from a trip?

Originally, the two lovers were happily making travel plans. They felt that their relationship would get better after traveling together. However, they did not expect that the relationship between the two would be at a freezing point after the trip. Then they broke up. So why do couples break up easily after traveling together? What are the fundamental reasons?

1. The emotional foundation is not strong

In fact, the purpose of being together today is often based on a simple "enjoyment" "relation.

On the surface, the two seem to be inseparable and live each day vigorously, but in fact they have no basis for any relationship at all. It's nothing more than eating together, watching movies, occasionally playing escape rooms, and giving gifts during holidays. The two of them are simply enjoying the benefits of youth together. Apart from some trivial daily things, they have no practical significance for the relationship at all. on the test.

Compared with these, "travel" is undoubtedly a comprehensive test of the habits, outlook, and character of both parties. And the poorer the two people are, the greater the difficulty of the test will be.

Before departure, the two of them had a good idea. They took a group photo together and exchanged cards. When they were tired from playing at night, they went back to the hotel to have sex. They slept until they woke up naturally the next day, stopping and walking along the way. Stop enjoying the scenery

But what about the reality?

For many couples, traveling when they have no money is not only physically tiring, but also encounters all kinds of troubles, conflicts and problems in the process—— These will infinitely amplify each other's shortcomings.

So, without the filter of passionate love, those couples who have not left the novice village will continue to accumulate negative emotions in the process, and they will naturally think:

"How can he Are you so tired every day?"

"What kind of shabby hotel did he book? There are cockroaches in the bathroom?"

"Why is she playing with her mobile phone as soon as she returns to the hotel? Don't want to do anything?"

"Why does she lose her temper so easily? It's really bad. Let's end it quickly!"

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< p> Therefore, all my complaints can easily be summed up in the end - two people are not suitable, or the other person's character is not good, which will give people an illusion: Travel is the most effective test of "whether two people can be together for a long time" way".

It is no secret that "fair-weather couples" break up easily after just one trip.

Because when two people are together, they are all living in "pleasure mode" and rarely need to solve real problems. Each other puts forward the best side to cover up themselves. What we like is not A real individual, but a false image that has been deliberately concealed.

So, after discovering all the shortcomings of the other party through a travel experience, we are not willing to admit the "breakdown under the cover of beauty", so we are naturally willing to attribute the reasons for breaking up to "no". "Suitable" or "Not good enough".

In other words, the reason why they broke up is because two people only have the ability to love, but they do not have the "ability to love someone."