How to get rid of dependence?

I used to be a very dependent person. I can't make my own decisions, and I can't make my own decisions. I thought it would be nice to let nature take its course.

I am a person who is easy to get in touch with friends or strangers. I don't want to cause trouble to others, as long as the opinions of many people are not prominent.

There is not much difference between family and school, and even there are not many places to make decisions. It seems that people around you are following the crowd.

I remember that in the first semester of college, I made more decisions than in the previous ten years.

Do you want to run for the class committee, which dazzling club to join, and whether to join the student union ... It seems very small now, and I have been used to following instructions for more than ten years, so it is difficult for me to make a decision.

Sometimes I avoid letting nature take its course and even make decisions at will. Of course, many times the result is not ideal.

Entering the society, I find that I need to make many decisions every day. It seems that these decisions are very important and need careful consideration. It's really hard to do it.

I really dare and am willing to make a choice because of the cruelty of reality.

I gradually saw and came into contact with people who didn't have their own core competitiveness. Not only can they not control their own lives, but many times they can't even make decisions about their right to use.

Sell time and energy to others, day after day, year after year, for a lifetime.

I'm afraid of that day, I'm afraid I'll become like that. Only by allowing yourself to support the places and things you want to go.

Is life hard?

It's really hard. Everybody's having a hard time. Therefore, don't rely on others, whether they are your relatives, friends or lovers, they all bear a heavy burden.

When you realize the result of long-term dependence, you are uncompetitive and cruel.

You or reality will gradually wear away your dependence on others until you can be independent.

I can be an audience, but I want to be a queen more!

Dependence on people

Dependence is not formed in a day or two. It is caused by long-term personal habits. From your dependence as a child to your bad dependence when you grow up, if you are not too good since childhood, it will take root in your mind and have a bad influence.

So how should we get rid of dependence? (1) If we feel that we have excessive dependence on our parents, we should communicate with our parents at ordinary times, don't let them do too much for us, do everything by themselves, and tell them to do too much harm for us to reduce the proportion of parents' influence on our lives.

(2) If you feel that you really can't get rid of their dependence, you can choose to live with your classmates at school and develop an independent situation. You can also choose a school far from home when you are in college, so it is easier to get rid of dependence when you are at a certain distance from your parents.

(3) If you rely too much on people around you, such as roommates and friends. Always take the initiative to do things by yourself, because only people are more likely to rely on it in a passive situation. You can do more things that one person can do, such as running and shopping alone, and do less collective things.

Dependence on things

For things, it is mainly the joy in your heart, the source of happiness in your mind, and a series of involuntary actions on things when you are inspired again.

How can we get rid of our dependence on him? (1) For example, if you are dependent on your mobile phone, you can delete the most tempting applications such as games. Don't play with people who have this dependence or love to play mobile phones, otherwise it will arouse your inner desire. You can also put your mobile phone aside when you want to do something, and you can hear it ring.

(2) Do more exercise instead of being alone, which makes it more difficult to get rid of dependence on things. Exercise can make you feel happy and completely free.

This is my view on how to get rid of dependence. I hope it helps you.

Before answering the question, let's talk about how dependence is formed.

Over-reliance on parents since childhood, growing up under their doting, has formed a habit, thus losing confidence in themselves and feeling inferior to everything. Once you lose your parents, it is difficult to stand on your own feet, which is a sign of cowardice.

Then how can we get rid of dependence? First of all, we should establish our self-confidence, start from small things, do it ourselves, get food, clothing, housing and transportation, and fight for it with our own actions. Don't become a bad habit of reaching for everything and making ends meet.

Learn to be independent and self-reliant, step out of the arms of parents, leave from the joy of friends, learn to live independently, and don't be afraid of hardship, fatigue, hands and feet. Don't always rely on others to do things, and train yourself into a self-reliant person. Only when you are confident can you get rid of dependence.

Endure loneliness, endure loneliness, endure the hardships of life, and hold back tears. At this time, you will completely get rid of dependence and move towards yourself.

People who rely on psychology have excessive expectations for closeness and belonging, but they are not forced, blind and irrational, and have nothing to do with real feelings. People who rely on psychology would rather give up their personal interests and hobbies. As long as they can find someone to rely on, they can always get the warmth and care of others. People who rely on psychology are more and more lazy, more and more fragile, and seriously lack autonomy and creativity, because they bend everywhere.

People who rely on psychology find it difficult to make any decisions about their daily affairs before they get some suggestions and guarantees from others, and they will feel helpless, and often let others make the most important decisions for themselves, such as what unit should I choose to work in? Should I go to the reunion or not? As long as others are left out a little, they will feel abandoned. In many things, they will clearly know that they are wrong and will go along with others. Because they are afraid of being abandoned by others and have no independence, it is difficult for them to carry out any work alone. Excessive tolerance is just to please others and be willing to do things that you don't want to do. When they are alone, they feel uncomfortable and helpless or try their best to escape loneliness. When the dependence is terminated, they will immediately feel helpless and have a complete mental breakdown.

The dependence behavior of people who rely on psychology has become a habit. First of all, we must get rid of this bad habit. Events with a strong sense of autonomy should be done by yourself in the future when encountering similar situations. For example, what kind of clothes I wear to work today, then what kind of clothes I wear to work in the future, instead of giving up because of other people's negative words, strengthen our consciousness until we no longer like to wear this kind of clothes. Although this matter is small, it is you who correct the bad habit.

For events with moderate self-awareness, put forward their own improvement methods and gradually implement them in future actions. For example, on an outing, you can listen to your friends' advice, but you don't appreciate it. You need to tell the reason why you don't like it, so that you can supplement your plan and express your opinions or suggestions. As your own suggestions and opinions increase, you can gradually change from listening to others' suggestions.

For events with poor self-awareness, we can gradually strengthen ourselves and improve our self-awareness by adopting deception control technology. Deception control technology refers to adding suggestions or opinions created by oneself under the behavior required by others. For example, at the suggestion of others, you know what she likes and then buy it for him, which seems to be suspected of completing the task. But such things are increasing gradually, and you will feel that it will bring you a lot of happiness in the future. If you offer to bring it,

Dependent behavior is not easy to eliminate in overcoming. That's what people do. Once you form a habit, you will find it difficult to make a decision, and you may unconsciously rely on others again. In order to prevent the recurrence of dependence, the simple way is to find a supervisor, your friend or colleague, and of course it is best to find the person you rely on most.

When a person is about three years old, he will realize that he and his parents are different individuals and are in danger of separation. At this time, he will begin to feel dependent. Afraid of separation and abandonment, because in animal instinct, abandonment will face death and pain to a great extent, and human beings inherit this gene.

In the animal world, parents will teach their children the skills of survival and life from an early age, so that children can gradually adapt to the environment, thus laying a foundation for their future survival alone, and also giving them enough courage and ability to survive and get rid of their dependence on their parents.

The same is true of human society. Parents should first give their children some guidance, establish their own independent personality and self-confidence, believe in themselves, attach importance to themselves, and achieve the goal of "I am a very useful person".

If a person didn't get enough exercise and guidance when he was a child, it's not too late to start changing in adulthood. Try to do something independently, such as traveling alone, developing your own career, and living in a strange city, you will gradually exercise your independent personality and get rid of dependence.

Because in the above environment, everything needs to be solved by yourself, you have to face it and overcome it. Although the process may be painful, it will be full of gains!

Hello, thank you for your question.

People are too dependent on others, and his mind is definitely not mature enough! Personality cannot be independent. In other words, he is interested in this society, this life and the relationship between people! I didn't see through the essence of people, things and things! So there is this sense of over-dependence.

People in this world can't live in a vacuum world. It is impossible to get rid of the relationship of mutual cooperation. Help each other, teamwork is normal! But it is wrong to rely too much on others.

In this fickle world, anything can be changed by anyone. I remember that there is a saying that relying on mountains to eat mountains depends on everyone to run. We must establish an independent personality! Don't rely on others, learn to cooperate and help each other, but never rely on others.

Dependence is something we all have. If you want to get rid of dependence, you must first have firm beliefs and ideals! You will choose independence. You can get rid of dependence.