Make it clear once and for all that parents met for the first time.

Make it clear once and for all that parents met for the first time.

Frequently asked questions when parents meet.

1. When did parents meet for the first time?

After they decide to get married, they can arrange for their parents to meet, because the main purpose of this meeting is to discuss marriage.

2. Who should propose the first meeting?

Generally speaking, it should be proposed by the man. Of course, after two people decided to meet privately, the man's parents formally proposed to meet.

3. Where should the meeting be held?

If two people are in the same city, they can stay in a hotel recognized by their local elders. If two people are in different places, the parents of the man usually come to the parents' home in the woman's city to be guests, and they can stay in a well-known or well-known hotel there.

4. Who needs to attend the meeting? Do you want to bring relatives?

It is generally not recommended to bring relatives, otherwise both parties may be detained, and it is best for parents to meet their children! Take grandparents or grandparents at most.

5. What should I call you when I see you?

Parents usually don't change their minds when they meet for the first time. The younger generation can call each other parents, uncles and aunts, and parents can call each other xx father and xx mother.

6. Do parents give red envelopes when they meet for the first time?

If this is the first time for a child to meet his parents, or if he has not given a red envelope before meeting them, he can prepare a red envelope for the child. If they gave it before, they don't have to give it this time.

7. Do you need a gift?

Look at the customs in different places. In some places, children prepare gifts for each other's parents, and in other places, children formally come to see their parents first, and then parents meet. They have already given gifts at home, so there is no need to give gifts this time.

Why isn't it embarrassing for parents to meet?

First, we should be fully prepared when we meet.

Introduce each other's basic information to parents, such as occupation, temperament, hobbies, taboos, etc. Avoid stepping on thunder points in chat and help parents find topics. Before meeting, you can praise each other in front of your parents, praise your parents, let your parents have a good impression on each other's family, and chat more harmoniously.

Second, you can visit each other's parents more first.

Let the other parents admit that they like you before they meet, so that the other party will be friendly to your parents when they meet, and whatever they talk about will be smoother. When meeting, you should introduce your parents first. If parents are talkative, they can be advised to start the topic ahead of time. If both parents are not talkative, they can also start a topic.

Third, how to chat without embarrassment?

There is no need to talk about details. The more detailed the discussion, the more likely it is to cause disputes. Therefore, it is good for parents to meet and talk about the general direction. You can discuss the details of the wedding in private.

Fourth, parents can talk about topics (they can show them to their parents in advance)

(1) Weather, you can talk about local attractions, characteristics, food and so on in different places.

(2) Their respective occupations, working conditions and past work experience.

(3) Recent health, health tips, life tips, etc.

(4) hobbies, flowers and fish, cooking and food, travel and sharing.

(5) Tell interesting stories about your children when they were young and praise each other's children.

Why isn't it embarrassing for parents to meet?

Fifth, remind parents not to say.

(1) Don't exaggerate your situation.

(2) Don't overestimate and be partial to your children.

(3) Don't belittle your children too much.

(4) Don't belittle and criticize each other's children.

How to talk about bride price without embarrassment?

First, you must agree in advance.

If you want to be embarrassed, don't really let your parents talk at the dinner table. The best thing is, before meeting, you communicate your parents and your own ideas, and then arrange to meet after the two families reach an agreement. When we meet, we will talk about the good things and exchange ideas with each other. Just wait for the two families to recognize each other.

Second, it is best for the man to speak first when meeting.

It is always embarrassing for the woman to speak first, so the man had better remind his parents to speak first, and it is best to wait until we have finished chatting.

Third, remind parents not to say these words.

(1) If you change your mind temporarily and change your mouth, you will be insincere.

(2) The attitude is tough and non-negotiable. This is the rhythm of collapse.

(3) If you want to run away, threatening and intimidating is bound to annoy each other.

Fourth, there is no need to talk about too detailed questions.

The more detailed the discussion, the more likely it is to cause disputes, so when parents meet, they only talk about the general direction. You can discuss the details of the wedding in private, and your parents can talk about the problem (which is also the problem you have to communicate).

(1) How much is the bride price, how much is the dowry, and the marriage customs of the two places.

(2) Do you need to get engaged? What is the general process?

(3) The date of the wedding, where and how many times?

(4) The approximate budget of the wedding, how large is it, and how to pay for it?

(5) Who buys the RV, who pays, and how to write the name?

(6) Where to buy a house and where to live in the future?

5. When the situation is wrong, the child should mediate in time.

If there are differences between parents, children should mediate in time.

(1) Mom, Dad, Uncle and Aunt, let's eat first. The food is getting cold.

(2) Let's talk about these at home, there's no hurry.

In a word, children should not obviously help themselves or their parents, let alone express their views. You should discuss any differences in private.