& ampquot A self-mockery can easily resolve the embarrassment &; Quot People with high EQ know how to laugh at themselves.

As we all know, Bo Huang is not good-looking.

Therefore, when attending "Kangxi is coming", the "malicious" small S will naturally not miss this topic.

Little S said to him, "You look very special."

Bo Huang replied with a smile: "It was quite elegant at first, and then it began to be abstract." What he said made everyone laugh.

In the face of this "aggressive" problem, Huang Bo easily resolved the embarrassment with two self-deprecating words, which led to a happy atmosphere at the scene.

How can the audience not like such an artist who is humorous and dares to laugh at himself?

In the social process, joking can enliven the atmosphere very well, and it is much safer to make fun of yourself than others.

Laughing at yourself is making fun of yourself.

Just like Bo Huang exposed the shortcomings of his face value to everyone in a humorous and self-deprecating way, which eased the embarrassment and narrowed the distance between himself and the audience.

But many people are burdened with a heavy "idol burden" and just want to show their best side to others.

When traveling, you have to wrap up delicate makeup with famous brands and then take photos at the most famous scenic spots before you are willing to share such photos with your friends.

Self-portrait photos must also be PS until you can't see the flaws.

As everyone knows, these flawless photos will only make others feel: "This person is really hard to get close to, and he doesn't want to show any dead ends."

On the surface, these people just want to show their friends the perfect image. But in fact, they may not be able to accept the imperfect parts of their bodies themselves.

In other words, once someone pokes at these shortcomings or pain points, their self-confidence will easily collapse.

If we can train ourselves, learn to laugh at ourselves, and face up to our shortcomings in a humorous way, then when others step on these sore spots again, we will not be so sad, and we will be able to face them more calmly.

Proper self-mockery can make us feel at home in interpersonal relationships. However, if we don't have a good proper limit, it's easy to lose our "impression points".

At a party, a friend told us that his performance this year was not very good, and he only got 50 thousand yuan for the year-end award.

After listening to it, I couldn't help thinking, "Is this self-deprecating or showing off?"

This friend has a strong business ability, so the annual bonus is also very large. Perhaps in his view, this year's 50,000 yuan is really too little.

But what about other friends who listened to him? How many people can't get this amount of bonus? They will think, is this really self-deprecating?

Such self-mockery is useless and will only damage our image.

Are you really laughing at yourself? You're showing off.

1) Clever self-mockery has brought us closer.

When our performance is ahead of other friends, self-mockery can shorten the gap between them, because it can reduce our advantages and enlarge our friends' advantages.

For example, your performance this month is very good and you are the first in the department. At this time, you said wryly, "You don't know how humiliated I was when I was chasing a customer's order."

Colleagues in the department will not feel that there is a big gap with you, nor will they be too jealous of your achievements.

When communicating with others, a casual self-mockery may make others feel that "this person and I live in the same world" and will naturally become closer emotionally.

2) Self-deprecating by retreating to advance, and realizing self-protection.

When others are hostile to us and throw "bombs" at us, self-mockery can help us out.

Once, a congressman who opposed Lincoln came up to him and asked sarcastically, "I heard that the president is a successful self-designer?"

Lincoln nodded and said, "Yes, sir, but I don't understand. How can a successful self-designer design himself like this? "

Faced with the intrigue of his competitors, Lincoln joked with his witty appearance, which not only avoided embarrassment, but also stopped the other side from chewing.

Self-mockery is to help yourself out by hunching over, which is more effective than direct defense.

In the face of embarrassment, many people defend their positive image, but the result is to make a fool of themselves.

Self-mockery, on the surface, is to belittle yourself, but in fact, it is preemptive, so that others can shut up and say more ridicule.

People who dare to laugh at themselves will openly joke about their "shortcomings" and "ugliness" and make everyone laugh. This is why people who know how to laugh at themselves are often very popular.

Spencer Johnson said in Who Moved My Cheese:

"When people learn to laugh at themselves and can laugh at their stupidity and mistakes, they begin to change."

Self-mockery is a compulsory course in life. Learn to laugh at yourself, and you won't be afraid of your imperfections and become stronger and stronger.