Live a lean life with professionalism

Just three days after the National Day holiday, 519 million people traveled during the holiday. At this moment, people came out in droves and flocked to major scenic spots like a tide. Qian Zhongshu once said: Travel can best reveal a person's character. The exhaustion and trouble of traveling bring out one's true nature. The order of the honeymoon trip after marriage should be reversed. You should travel for a month first. After a month of boating and driving, the two parties have not seen through each other and dislike each other, and they still want to maintain the original engagement. This kind of couple is guaranteed not to divorce.

Yes, the journey is full of uncertainties and hardships. Faced with sudden accidents and tests, the two of them can calmly deal with them together. Once they have this tacit understanding, And mutual trust means that you have got the ticket to enter the 'grave of love' and can make your love 'die well' in your marriage. There is a slang term in Japanese called "Narita Breakup". Narita is the airport in Tokyo. The slang meaning is that people who are in love quickly transform from lovers to passers-by after returning to Narita Airport after a test of travel, because during the journey Each other saw through each other's true nature. The hardships of the journey pierced the fa?ade of "beauty is in the eye of the beholder" and saw through the core of each other's personality. As a result, they felt disgusted. After returning to the airport, they didn't even have the will to cherish each other. , the birds and beasts disperse directly.

Thinking that there will be many "Narita breakups" after the National Day, I can't help but feel an evil pleasure in my heart_.

Fortunately, I had a satisfying excursion during the holidays. This was organized by a good friend. He arranged everything in a tight and orderly manner, including what time the bus would depart in the morning, what time and hour we should wait, which route we should take to avoid highway congestion, and where to eat when we arrive at our destination. Food, which attraction to go to after dinner, what to see at the attraction, where to have dinner after visiting the attraction, which route is the safest to take on the return trip, under his command, the entire travel process is completed in one go. This travel experience is like watching It was a wonderful blockbuster without any peeing spots in the whole process. Time passed by unconsciously. When I realized that it was over, I had a feeling of not having finished it and reluctant to leave. What impressed me the most was the detail arrangement that my friend made during the entire trip.

We had seafood hot pot for dinner. This restaurant is unknown and located in an inconspicuous corner. During the meal, a large pot of seafood was served, including fresh sea fish, tender squid, sweet shellfish, vigorous crabs, and a plate of lively shrimps at the bottom. After a few of us devoured the meal with satisfaction, when we paid, I found that such a sumptuous meal only cost 120. This kind of portion would not be available for more than 300 or 400 in other places, so this meal made me realize what "good quality and low price" mean. I asked him curiously, how did you know about this store? He said that before traveling, he had done sufficient research, read a lot of guides, and had detailed knowledge of possible emergencies during the trip. After careful consideration and preparation, of course, I also made a systematic investigation of various local delicacies, so I naturally know all the special delicacies of the destination. After hearing this, I couldn’t help but sigh. No wonder we had such a great time. This was the result of my friends spending a lot of energy on preliminary preparations.

Since there is a 'Narita breakup', there should be a 'Narita hand in hand'. Some people parted ways after experiencing the torment of the journey. Then there must be others who can pass the test of the journey and become more in love with each other after the journey. The trust is more firm and deep. If a girl goes with my buddy, I believe she will believe that this is a man worthy of being entrusted to her for life.

This makes me think, what is the difference between 'Narita breaks up' and 'Narita holds hands'? The basic form of thinking of people like 'Narita Breakup' is muddled. When they walk, they step on watermelon peels with their left foot, and step on banana peels with their right foot. They fall down every step they take. Life is full of all kinds of accidents. The rhythm is chaotic. When faced with an accident, they are first stunned and stunned, and then panicked, like ants on a hot pot. People like "Narita Holding Hands" can arrange their lives in an orderly manner and can do things step by step. Once something unexpected happens in the process, they always seem to have a pocket similar to Doraemon, search it in the pocket, and then take out something Magical props solve the problem. Two kinds of people get different life results in the same working and living environment. A major root cause lies in whether they have the spirit of professionalism.

There is a concept in physics called 'entropy'. ‘Entropy’ refers to the energy loss caused by the degree of chaos within the system. The higher the degree of chaos, the more energy will cancel each other out. When the ability is exhausted, the entire system will die. It's like pressing the accelerator and brake at the same time when driving. The result is that the vehicle cannot move forward and the fuel is exhausted. Cancer is also a manifestation of the "entropy increase" of the system, that is, the malignant growth of cells in an undirected and unlimited manner, eventually depleting all the body's nutrients and leading to the death of the body. The best way to combat 'entropy' is to introduce information and allow each element of the system to exert energy in the same direction according to the guidance of the information.

For example, the DNA of living things is the amount of information. Without DNA, the world can only be a pile of atoms or matter, and life cannot be formed. Once there is DNA, there will be rules and regulations when matter is combined. When all atoms are combined, Life is created when certain laws come together.

'Professionalism' is to use a rigorous attitude to construct information. A person with a professionalism is a person who can actively use knowledge and skills to drive things or situations to develop in a favorable direction. People without professionalism Man is the source of chaos, and his existence causes things to develop into disorderly, uncontrollable, and unexpected situations. A person with a "professional spirit" has a blueprint in his mind, and he can make a pile of bricks and tiles build a house. A person without a "professional spirit" has a blank mind, and a pile of bricks and tiles is just a pile of garbage. . People with a "professional spirit" can bring certainty by injecting information into the system and making the system run smoothly in the expected direction. Therefore, these people often become leaders and those who hold the staff.

Above we have essentially distinguished the difference between professionals and non-professionals. Now let’s look at the performance differences between professionals and amateurs.

First of all, the difference between professional players and amateur players is not that the latter cannot make good decisions, but that when the latter make good decisions, they are often accompanied by several bad decisions. Bad decisions often require several good decisions to make up for it. Therefore, when amateur players do things, their results are not only poor, but their state is unstable, while the performance of professional players is much more stable.

Secondly, professional players can control their emotions very well. Emotional strength is an important criterion for measuring a person's maturity. Professional or professional people do not mean that they do not make mistakes, but that they can still maintain a calm attitude and avoid accidental mistakes when mistakes or accidents occur. Accidentally resulted in losing the entire game. Amateur players, on the other hand, do not have professionalism or professionalism. They will blame everyone if something goes wrong and let their emotions affect their rational judgment. If they do not hit one ball well, they will not hit several balls in a row. Or if you get carried away when you hit a good shot, you will relax and lose the lead. From this perspective, many couples or lovers are 'unprofessional'. Once they encounter some conflicts in the relationship, they will only lose their temper and blindly blame and complain about the other party. This kind of emotional venting leads to resentment in the relationship. It gets deeper and deeper, eventually ending in divorce or breakup. And 'professional' couples and lovers, when encountering conflicts, will rationally control their tempers, then think or reflect on the reasons for the problem, and then the two people will resolve the current conflict through negotiation and compromise, and jointly discuss and formulate a solution Develop corresponding mechanisms to prevent similar problems from happening again. Therefore, happy couples or lovers do not have no emotional conflicts, but they are able to find solutions with "professional spirit" when problems arise.

Thirdly, people with 'professionalism' will deliberately practice problem-solving skills and act in a manner that conforms to the rules of the industry, which means that they do things in a structured and orderly manner. For example, make a strategy before traveling, study the characteristics of the destination in detail, make travel arrangements, choose a suitable travel route, and at the same time, carefully prepare for all kinds of accidents that can be expected during the travel, and adjust your mentality in advance to allow yourself to You can still maintain a stable mood when something unexpected happens during the trip. With these preparations, will there still be a 'Narita breakup' after the trip?

After knowing the difference and performance of "professional" and "amateur", there are rules to follow on how to cultivate your own "professional spirit". To become 'professional' in your dealings with others, I think you should do the following:

First, discuss matters as they are and eliminate irrational behaviors caused by emotions. Good professionals will consider the work itself under any circumstances. For example, a good doctor will treat patients equally and will not have a different attitude from a social celebrity just because the patient is an addict, nor will he treat his patients differently because of some family changes. It affects your work. I have carefully observed the living conditions of my friends who are married and have families. Those marriages that have problems are all when unexpected things happen in life. Instead of trying to solve the problem, the two people are in conflict with each other. One party always expects the other party to voluntarily change according to his or her own ideas. When the other party cannot do it, he or she Just blindly complain or hold a grudge against the other person, so the purpose of his every word and every action is no longer to solve the problem, but to attack the other person. From this, falling in love turns into killing each other. Such a life will soon become unbearable. Marriage and love are almost the most complex interpersonal relationships, and the management of this type of relationship also requires the most 'professional' training and employment certificates. Most of the current extremely high divorce rates are due to the lack of 'professional spirit' of calmness on both sides of the marriage. Caused by letting emotions run wild.

Second, professionalism means doing things in a rational way. Some people are able to be step-by-step, orderly, and calm in the face of unexpected events. That is because these people have a consistent behavioral process. They never follow the crowd easily or let the wind take its course. When faced with uncertain situations, they will not be impatient. They first collect a large amount of relevant information to enhance their familiarity with the things they have to deal with. After this step, they often have a certain degree of certainty in their minds and can basically find the entry point to solve the problem.

They neither rush forward blindly nor remain silent when doing things. They will take a cautious step and then carefully observe the reaction of the environment. If there is good feedback, they will continue to take a step forward. If the environment does not respond well, they will go back and choose again. Then re-evaluate the next step based on current conditions. People without professional qualities do things without any plan. They are like headless flies, running around blindly. After a lot of struggling, they are exhausted. As a result, they find that they have spent a lot of energy, but they are still standing still.

Third, professionalism is reflected in whether you are willing to spend time looking for better answers, rather than leaving things alone. Although there were a lot of people on this National Day tour, we still had a smooth trip without any crowding or irritation of waiting. The big reason is that my buddy was careful in arranging the route. When arranging things, he didn’t just look at the route. When there is a famous attraction somewhere, he just drives there. Instead, he patiently thinks about the possible flow of people at the attraction at different times. And he not only considers one attraction, but also further considers other surrounding attractions. Attractions, that is, they have been fully registered. When plan A doesn’t work, you can immediately switch to plan B. From this, our entire process is very smooth. When you can’t go to a certain place, you can quickly switch to another one that is equally interesting. place, so there is no irritation in the whole process.

Fourth, professionals often have complete domain knowledge, or have mastered systematic knowledge, while amateurs often have a partial or even vague understanding of domain knowledge. Therefore, the former has the ability to analyze problems concretely and solve problems, while the latter often makes guesses and ends up getting dizzy. There are many people around me who want to gain income through stock market investment, but these small retail investors stare at the market all day long, but never seriously study the stock market, investment, finance and other related knowledge in a systematic way. They pay special attention to the gossip they hear from hearsay. Many people have been immersed in the stock market for many years, but they cannot even understand a company's balance sheet. When they select stocks, they do not carefully study the company's operating conditions through data. , and of course they don’t know how to judge a company’s future valuation from macroeconomic trends. This kind of retail investor has been harvested many times in the stock market because of his muddled mind. One harvest was naturally made by stock market makers, and the other harvest was deceived into various stock market analysis QQ groups. When joining the group, he paid a large fee, and was in it. Listening to the nonsense of a 'master' whom you have never met before, you will often make wrong investment decisions after being brainwashed, and end up losing a lot of money.

Fifth, professionalism is a state of mind, and people with professionalism progress dynamically. Whether they are engineers, doctors, or accountants, top practitioners make progress through continuous learning. In the software industry where I work, many people do not pay attention to learning and using new knowledge. In the years when information technology is constantly being updated, the original skills will soon become outdated. This is a lack of professionalism. In fact, many people are talented, but they often do things only superficially, or cannot guarantee stable performance. In the end, it is difficult to go further in the fields they are good at. The main reason is that they do not have professional qualities and have not established a systematic thinking in the industry. He works carefully and often relies on instinct, casually using a hammer here and a stick there. Because of his talent, he often achieved good results in the early stages. However, once he entered the deep water area of ????the industry, he did not have the professionalism to cultivate his own systematic exploration. way, and soon drowned in deep water.

Without professionalism, life will inevitably be rough. If you can't do unprofessional work well, even having fun and leisure becomes self-torture. Those who go to crowded scenic spots to smell the smell of sweat during the National Day obviously lack the professionalism in leisure, so they spend their holidays in dire straits. Let’s take a look at how people with professional qualities can grasp the essence of leisure and make their lives more refined.

French sociologist Dumaizete Dier defined leisure this way: people are freed from work, family, and social obligations to rest, change their mood, increase knowledge, and participate spontaneously to create freely. A general term for any social activity involving force. Therefore, if you want to achieve true leisure, you must combine the professionalism mentioned above and formulate a complete plan so that you can achieve true physical, mental and spiritual relaxation. So if you want to get real leisure, you must make the following preparations.

First, turn soft time into hard time and make leisure plans in advance. If you want to wait until the Golden Week to relax, it is impossible. There are huge crowds of people watching the holidays and the highways are so blocked that you can’t move. Therefore, if you want to truly enjoy leisure, you must avoid such days. To get a lot of time during non-vacation days, you have to make your travel plans months, even a year, in advance. For people who have worked for two or three years, they basically know the busy season and off-season of their work, so it is feasible to plan the time in advance. At this time, you have to say hello to the company and leaders in advance and ask for leave from them. At the same time, coordinate with colleagues and arrange time in advance Book your tickets and announce your plans to the world through Moments from time to time to show others your determination to travel and at the same time make others embarrassed to disturb you. People who have worked for two to three years are familiar with their colleagues and leaders, and they can talk to them easily if they have anything to say. They can help you adjust your shifts so that you can take time off for vacations. Annual leave has also increased, so it is important to take a long enough vacation time during non-holidays. Totally doable.

Second, it takes five days to complete the status switch.

If people want to completely free themselves from the original busy state psychologically, they need enough time to buffer. After all, people's mentality cannot jump from one extreme to another all at once. In psychotherapy, there is a fixed transition period of 72 hours. After this period of time, the psychological disaster stress response will be reduced, so the mood switch takes 72 hours, including about one or two days of travel and fatigue when traveling, so you It takes at least 5 days to get into the state of enjoying the vacation. Those tourists who hurriedly traveled during the National Day actually did not escape from the stressful work on weekdays, so they just switched from one kind of tension to another, and from one kind of pressure to another. During the holidays, Instead of making them more relaxed, it actually makes people more anxious.

Third, fully enjoy, one product at a time. Many people during the holidays act as if they have been released from prison and have been in prison for more than ten years. They run around as soon as they go out, or they are like African refugees who have endured famine for many years and devour food as soon as they are available. When traveling, many people go to a scenic spot, take a few photos at the door, send it to their friends, and then rush to the next scenic spot without stopping. This is not traveling, this is going to the market. Real leisure is about tasting one cup at a time, just like tasting a cup of fine Dahongpao. You can't drink it all at once, but slowly sip it one mouthful at a time, letting the small amount of tea juice roll in your mouth, and then use the taste buds on your tongue to taste it. Slowly feel the smoothness and aroma of the tea juice. In the same way, when traveling, you need to go to places you particularly want to visit; if you want to buy something, buy an experience that makes you particularly excited. We must know that life is the sum of a series of experiences. We often say that the two major happy events in life are called "the wedding night and the time when the gold medal is named". This is because these moments allow you to experience the elegance of life's subversion. This feeling is rare. And Jing, if you have sex every day, I guess your body won’t be able to bear it. If you are on the gold list every day, you will become numb. So in your leisure time, find what you really love, and don’t be afraid to spend money. Even if it hurts you, it only happens once a year. Only when you have heartache will you cherish it, and this kind of investment and experience is likely to become your lifelong treasure. Great memories.

You see, using professionalism to think about leisure, seemingly boring time also breeds profound spiritual connotations. When drinking, people without professionalism are drunk, but Li Bai is like: raising a glass to the bright moon, making three people in the shadow; when seeing flowers and plants, people without professionalism are picking them randomly, but Liu Xiyi realizes: every year Flowers are similar every year, but people are different every year; when visiting a brothel, people without professional qualities are eager to fuck hard, but Du Mu is like this: he dreams of sleeping in Yangzhou for ten years, and wins the lucky reputation of the brothel; when he misses his husband, he doesn't The professional quality is: Where did that damn ghost go to fool around? Li Qingzhao is like this: he only lowers his brows, but his heart is concerned. When thinking about a wife, those who are unprofessional would do piston movements in front of love action movies and waste a lot of toilet paper, while Li Bai is like: you will know when you meet on a blind date, but you will be embarrassed at this moment and night. When playing in the water at the beach, those who are not professional will only get sunburnt, but Zhang Ruoxu is like this: the spring river tide reaches the sea level, and the bright moon on the sea is full of tides.

We are all human beings, so why are they so different? It depends on whether you are professional or not!