I am proud to have a talented woman in my family

Every Saturday night is the day when our family reunites. Every day on this day, I can’t wait to open QQ early and wait for my two daughters to come online. The eldest daughter came online at 10 o'clock on November 27, 2010. She reported on her recent work situation and some unpleasant things she encountered. When talking about those unpleasant things, the daughter on the other side of the computer burst into tears. My wife and I were also in tears on the other end of the phone. We didn’t know what words to use to comfort our daughter. There was infinite melancholy and sigh in our hearts: It’s good to be at home for a thousand days, but it’s always difficult to go out!

After the video, I stayed up all night, turned around, and woke up in the middle of the night to take a Valium, but it didn't help. The images of my daughter from childhood to adulthood were clearly visible in my mind like a slideshow.

In my eyes, my two daughters are the pride of our couple, because they are so strong and outstanding.

The eldest daughter Wang Ni graduated from Inner Mongolia Agricultural University. He has worked at TCL Group, Li Yang Crazy English, and Global IELTS. But she had always wanted to study abroad and was dissatisfied with the current situation. With her drive to study hard and practice hard, she passed the language test and was admitted to UTPB University in Texas, USA, in 2008 to study for a master's degree in education management. In just one and a half years, my daughter completed all 16 courses required for her master's degree, and took all the elective courses required for the Teacher Professional Qualification Certification Examination. She obtained the qualifications to teach mathematics from elementary to high schools in the United States and the qualifications to teach Chinese for all grades. , and graduated in August 2010 with all A's.

During the study period, my daughter worked while studying, which won unanimous praise from the teachers and students of the school. Not only did she receive a high scholarship, but all the tuition fees for this foreign girl were charged according to the standards of domestic students. In this This may be the only exception in schools. My daughter's success has also saved us as parents a lot of money.

After graduation, my daughter was hired by a public middle school in Texas and became a qualified mathematics teacher. At the same time, he was admitted to Texas Tech University in the United States with excellent results to study for a doctoral degree. Children study and work at the same time. It is conceivable that without a strong will and perseverance, it will be difficult to complete these two tasks. Especially how difficult it is for a Chinese to teach a group of foreigners to learn mathematics! However, my daughter’s witty, flexible, and moderate teaching methods have won praise from Americans and the love of students. A local TV station in Texas made a promotional video about her teaching methods and broadcast it on the TV station every day. My colleagues said to my daughter humorously, "This time you are a superstar."

In addition, my daughter took advantage of her Chinese heritage and opened a Chinese class in the middle school with the consent of the school, recruiting more than a dozen American students to learn Chinese, and the students liked it very much. After one year of study, many students can write diaries in Chinese and conduct simple communications. Here, she not only found her stable career and realized her life values ??and ideals, but also found her ideal love and owned her own house and car.

After graduating from Beijing Forestry University, the second daughter Wang Yue was admitted to the People’s Public Security University of China and graduated in 2011.

Your hard work pays off!

Where there is a will, there is a way!

I am proud of the strength of my motherland in the world!

I am also proud of my daughter’s outstanding talent!

I often think like this, if there had not been the institutional reform of Dalat Banner in 1992, if I had not listened to the leadership, if I had not obeyed the organization's assignments, if I had insisted on not going to sea, if... then I might have been After becoming the director and flag commander, my daughter still suffered from this "foreign crime"! Like many "second-generation officials" today, they already have a stable and enviable career. They have already married a husband and have children, and they are living happily.

However, everything is "if". I should never have "went into the sea" in the first place. From this, I also realized a truth:

The most important thing in life is not Effort is not a struggle, but a choice!

"Men are afraid of choosing the wrong career, and women are afraid of marrying the wrong man." One wrong step and you will regret it for the rest of your life. At that time, a wrong idea of ??"going to sea" ruined the "step-by-step" future of my daughter and I in the eyes of most people today. However, there is no medicine for regret in the world. Even if there are ten thousand "what ifs", it will be too late!

After graduating from Agricultural University, I also envisioned finding a good job for my daughter. I wanted to see if I could help my daughter get into the civil service through some connections I made while working in administrative agencies. However, no matter how great the power or the stage, it has become "past" and "once owned". Nowadays, people in society are taking a leisurely approach, and the world is so hot!

I also believe that "money can make the world go round", but my daughter firmly opposed it. She said, if that happened, we would lose our integrity as human beings! Besides, she said that she didn't like working nine to five, drinking tea and reading newspapers. She thought that was a waste of her youth, and she wanted to do the job she liked. In this way, with the perseverance of self-improvement and self-reliance, he resolutely walked out of the country.

I often reflect on the fact that my father is an incompetent father. I have never had too much involvement in the study, life, and work of my two daughters from childhood to adulthood. Someone asked how you educated your daughter who is so good at studies. I said let nature take its course.

I have never interfered with my daughters' learning. I only create a good learning environment for them and cultivate their interest in learning. In my home, I have dedicated a study and bedroom for my daughter. The two of us watch TV with the volume turned down to the lowest level, and we don’t dare to speak loudly, trying not to affect or disturb them.

The two daughters rarely watch TV. Apart from necessary play and activities every day, the rest of the time is spent studying. Especially the eldest daughter has to go to bed at 11 or 12 o'clock every night. Therefore, in the 12 years from elementary school to high school, the two children have always been among the best in academic performance. They have been serving as monitors, announcers, league branch secretaries, etc. in school. Every essay is used as a model essay by the teacher to read and explain in class, and even My daughter's third-grade composition was taken to the sixth-grade class as a model essay for interpretation. It is no exaggeration to say that they are two small "stars" in our local area, and they are quite well-known.

My two daughters have loved reading since they were young, and they have read almost all the books on the bookshelf. The eldest daughter has a wide range of interests. In the third grade, she begged my wife and I to enroll her in an art class. Later, her sketches were exhibited by the teacher in the senior class. Not only did her paintings have the largest number and frequency of exhibitions in the whole school, they also had the largest number of paintings. And what surprised me the most was that she actually won the National Children’s Art Double Dragon Cup Excellence Award. Unfortunately, we did not preserve her works from childhood to adulthood, and they were unfortunately lost during several moves. What a great thing it would be if all her paintings could be restored and given to her now!

When I was in junior high school, my eldest daughter kneaded clay by herself and made a batch of clay figurines. She painted the outside with colored pens and then covered them with varnish. They were very lifelike and lifelike. The second daughter, who had been naughty since she was a child, secretly took it away to hand in as homework. As a result, she got it right and won several awards in the school exhibition. But unfortunately, after the exhibition was stolen, the eldest daughter was so angry that she yelled and scolded her younger sister.

My second daughter has a lively nature, so I have given them the opportunity to host programs together during holidays since childhood. I remember that in 1990, when the whole family had a big reunion during the New Year, we held a family party as usual. The eldest daughter and the second daughter hosted the event with their eloquent chatter and humor, making the whole family laugh. I still have the video of them hosting the show at home.

After my second daughter grew up, she hosted a school-wide art performance every year at their school! She is indispensable as the host of large and small events. Her courage and vivid lines have won the audience's praise. In addition, she also serves as the announcer of the radio station in school, and her sweet voice ripples throughout the campus every day during recess!

My second daughter has been naughty and mischievous since she was a child, but what makes me happy is that while she is playing happily, her academic performance has always been high. When she was in junior high school, her daughter was not only the announcer of the campus radio station, but also the host of various school activities. She was also the squad leader and secretary of the Youth League branch. She was an out-and-out "little star" in the school. She also has a lot of good friends who go out to play on Sundays. In my impression, I don’t seem to see her daughter studying so hard. I was really worried about it for her. However, when I waited During the high school entrance examination, my wife and I were all worried. Our second daughter was not only admitted to the No. 1 Middle School of Dalat Banner with a good score of 24th, but also entered the best Rocket Class. , it was a blockbuster, which really made our couple happy for a while.

From recent chats, we learned about the children’s struggles after entering high school. Although the second daughter had already achieved good results, ranking 24th in the national flag when she entered school, her goal was by no means limited to that. The child made a detailed plan for her three-year high school education, with three years, one semester and six semesters. You have to make the top five every semester, and you must eventually be ranked number one in the school. According to this "grand" plan, after the first semester of her freshman year in high school, her daughter's final exam ranking jumped to sixth, and in the second semester of her sophomore year, she finally realized her dream of being number one in the school. My daughter's step-by-step, down-to-earth and diligent attitude made her progress much faster than planned. In this way, my daughter's grades were firmly at the top of her grade, and she never made a mistake. Finally, she won the award of free tuition for three years at the school, and also received a lot of money. Scholarship (30 students in the whole school are free of charge, and in proportion to the number of students after liberal arts and sciences are divided, 17 students in the whole school of science are free of charge).

From my experience in studying over the years, my feeling is that my second daughter appears calm on the surface, but inside she is actually a child with firm beliefs, clear goals and real actions. She was not far away from graduating from college, but she was still struggling with the decision between taking the postgraduate entrance examination or working. In the end, in order to improve her employment competitiveness, she resolutely chose the arduous path of taking the postgraduate entrance examination. At this time, there were only 70 days left before the National Postgraduate Entrance Examination. In the remaining time, the child got up at 6 o'clock every day, washed and had a simple meal, then rushed to the classroom to start the day's study. At noon, he still raced against time. In fact, When she felt sleepy, she would take a nap in the classroom with her arms pillowed on her head. When she returned to the dormitory at night, when other classmates were asleep, she had to stay up late and read until 2 in the morning. Hard work paid off. In such a short period of time, my daughter was successfully admitted to her ideal school, the People's Public Security University of China, and received a master's degree from the Traffic Management Department of the Public Security University.

It is no exaggeration to say that both of my daughters are “talented girls” who are versatile, good at singing and dancing, and have all-round development of morality, intelligence, body and beauty.

Under the leadership of her sister, the second daughter has always been interested in basketball. She has been a member of the school basketball team from junior high school to graduate school, and is also very good at table tennis. When the eldest daughter was in high school and the second daughter was in junior high school, the two sisters won second place in the high school group and the other in the junior high school group in the national table tennis competition for middle school students.

Ordos is known as the "Ocean of Songs and the Hometown of Wine." Perhaps due to the influence of this regional culture, my two daughters both have a naturally good voice and both participated in school art performances. Backbone strength. The eldest daughter's solo performance of "Qing Qing World" was well-received when she was in junior high school, and she later imitated singer Tian Zhen. The second daughter was not only the host of the "May Fourth" performance, but also had several dance performances. After entering university, they have a broader stage. They participated in the top ten singers competition on campus and won the prize. They performed at every party. In addition, the eldest daughter also likes guitar and calligraphy, and the second daughter also loves reciting. Sports and artistic performances are both specialties. The eldest daughter has always been the school's high jump champion and long-distance runner, and the second daughter is the school's shot put champion and sprinter.

The healthy and all-round development of the two children has been praised by the school, teachers and classmates. Awards and honorary certificates from various competition organizations, schools and classes are hung all over the study room. When others knew that I was Wang Ni and Wang Yue's father, they were surprised and envious. When the eldest daughter, whose grades always ranked first in the country, took the high school entrance examination, the conditions given by the former Yike Zhaomeng (now Ordos City) No. 1 Middle School were exemption from exams and free admission, but we still chose the nearby Dalate Banner No. 1 Middle School. middle. In the college entrance examination, there was no doubt that she would get into a key university with her usual grades. However, serious human errors during the college entrance examination caused her to miss out on the key university. However, my daughter was not discouraged. She in turn enlightened us: "I will definitely be able to realize my ideal!"

The ancients said, "A wife is honored by her husband, and a father is honored by his son." My daughter’s excellence has brought us infinite happiness and makes me proud! Makes me proud!

In terms of life, I have almost strict requirements for my two daughters. As the saying goes, "If you are rich, you will raise your daughter; if you are poor, you will raise your son." My family was not well-off at that time. In the early 1980s, my wife and I’s combined salary was less than 100 yuan. In addition, our house collapsed and there was famine, so we were frugal and frugal everywhere. Dare to spend a penny randomly. The children still remember that they had three meals a day at that time, and they ate fried cabbage almost every day. Now they feel nauseated when they see cabbage. On the one hand, they are poor and have no money to meet their daughter's requirements; on the other hand, this culture of diligence and thrift can also cultivate children's moral sentiments and cultivate their ability to be independent and self-reliant.

Other people’s children are taken care of by their grandmothers and grandmothers. My two children are raised by relatives in three days and they are raised in two days. Sometimes they are left in a neighbor’s house without anyone to look after them. When my second daughter was born, I vacated the south room of my family and turned it into a tofu shop, and took in a family of relatives to make tofu. When my second daughter was left unattended, I kept my second daughter in the tofu shop. The children usually play in the tofu shop and sleep alone in the tofu shop when they are sleepy. They never bother the adults or cry.

Girls in other families are all dressed up in fancy clothes, but my daughter is rustic, wearing the big one and the second one, and even the two daughters are the happiest in recalling it now. The thing about this is that the children’s second uncle bought a pair of floral clothes for the two children during the Chinese New Year;

Other people’s children have a lot of toys, but my children have never seen what toys are. Now let’s talk When they got up, the two children still remembered the small tricycle and a palm-sized, motionless doll they only had in their childhood;

Other people’s children were given whatever they wanted to eat, but my children wanted to eat. What can only be bought in limited quantities for them. Because their family was poor, the loud hawking of ice cream and popsicles made the two children unable to restrain themselves and salivating. However, the two sensible children walked up to the ice cream seller and said, "We won't eat it, so you can leave quickly." , I will have diarrhea if I eat something cold." The eldest daughter was already in junior high school when she ate her first pack of instant noodles. The smell made the two children salivate and they will never forget it. Although I occasionally buy some snacks for my children, the first thing my children think of when they get them is their parents, and they humbly let their parents eat first;

Other people’s children go to the barber shop to get their hair cut, but all my children do. Her mother used scissors to make random cuts, and she looked like two bald boys. The eldest daughter had a typical hijab, and the second daughter often had one side longer and one shorter;

Other people’s children go to and from school. They are all picked up and dropped off by adults. My two children have never been picked up or dropped off since they left kindergarten. No matter it is cold or the sun is scorching, the two children are like two little adults. When the alarm clock goes off every morning, they get up on time and make some milk powder by themselves. Just eat some steamed buns and leave, rain or shine.

Once my eldest daughter forgot to set the alarm and saw that she was going to be late for school. The child begged: "Dad, please send me off!" I said: "No, you run there by yourself." Looking back now, it really makes me wonder. I regret it. As a father, I am too cruel!

In this way, my two children have developed the ability to take care of themselves. They can do their own things and never rely on others. Including my daughter going to study in the United States, all the procedures were handled by the child alone, and I, the father, did not help at all. At that time, I told my eldest daughter, if you go abroad, I can only provide you with financial support, and you can only handle other things by yourself. Firstly, I was busy, and secondly, I couldn't even find him in the doorway.

So from the embassy visa to the Singapore exam and later to the United States, my daughter handled it all by herself. I didn't even take the train to the airport to see her off. Looking back on this, as a father, I am a bit unkind! Now I feel ashamed of my daughter!

Of course, this kind of education does temper children. I think many boys cannot match my two daughters in terms of courage, courage, and hardship. When they were in college, the two of them dared to go to the south and to some famous cities and scenic spots in Shandong without telling the adults. In order to save money, the two of them went alone without traveling with tour groups, staying in the cheapest hotels and eating the cheapest food. Cheap meal. They told us later that I was afraid for them. But I didn't blame my daughter. Instead, I praised them for their courage and courage.

While the eldest daughter was working in Guangzhou, the second daughter had just entered college and went to Guangzhou alone to find her sister during the summer vacation. The two of them went swimming in the sea. After being exposed to the scorching heat and soaking in sea water, they became two "black Africans" when they returned home. They shed a layer of skin all over their bodies and their childish faces turned into two little painted faces. I teased them humorously, but you two can't get married!

When my eldest daughter was working in Beijing, she lived in a basement and squeezed into buses and subways. She got up at around five o'clock every morning, cooked her own meals, and took care of the housework. In order to promote Li Yang's Crazy English, the child posted posters and distributed flyers alone, and went to all well-known universities in Beijing to speak to students in English. The child's fluent and authentic American English and passionate vitality attracted the attention of many college students, and also Li Yang’s Crazy English gained popularity and brought benefits. During college, my eldest daughter majored in computer science, and her proficiency in English was completely self-taught. She dared to give a speech at a prestigious school in Beijing right after she graduated from school. Without considerable self-confidence and superhuman courage, it was completely impossible. Wang Ni herself once said that the bigger the stage and the more people there are, the more passionate and confident she will be. I once listened to an English lecture given by my eldest daughter in a middle school in my hometown. Her fluent and proficient spoken English, passionate and ups and downs speech was very inflammatory and attractive, and won bursts of applause from teachers and students.

When the eldest daughter was in school in the United States, she drove hundreds of kilometers a day to apply for jobs in major cities in the United States; she drove herself and her roommates to visit major cities and cultural landscapes near Texas; I drove with my Chinese friends from the southern part of the United States to the northernmost part of the United States, visiting the world's most famous casino city - Las Vegas, and the world's most famous Grand Canyon - the Grand Canyon...

Our daughter’s future makes us proud!

Both my daughters are very understanding and reasonable. From a young age, I have taught them that "only by enduring hardship can one become the best". Suffering a loss is not a loss, but a blessing. They must be sincere when getting along with others, think more about people and things from the other person's perspective, and learn to change. Bit of thinking.

After graduation, the eldest daughter temporarily stayed at her aunt's house. Her aunt and niece had different opinions on matters of faith and marriage, and her daughter could not accept some of her aunt's words. Although my daughter felt aggrieved about this, she said that although my aunt's words did not agree with me, her heart was right and she was doing it for my own good. She was afraid that we sisters would have disagreements about this, and in turn advised us not to care about others. After all, my aunt had helped me a lot with my overseas studies and my life. We should remember their good memories throughout our lives.

Her heart is so kind, so understanding and reasonable. Therefore, she also won the love of many Americans. She got a work-study job on the recommendation of the dean of students during her second year of enrollment. At the beginning of the second year, the eldest daughter found a very "lucrative" job after a fiercely competitive interview. As a dormitory manager, she stayed at the school for free and earned a salary. Many Americans invited her to their homes, fed her and clothed her, and some American mothers even recognized her as their goddaughter. Many Chinese also gave her meticulous care, and she made a large number of Chinese and American friends in the United States. She often told us, "There are so many friends who care about me and love me. Don't worry." "Foolish people have their own stupid blessings."

Yes! My silly eldest daughter’s honest, kind, and straightforward personality reflects her great wisdom, courage, and blessings!

Honesty and kindness are a state of being a human being and a kind of wisdom in dealing with the world. It is convenient for yourself to be with others. Treating others well is equal to treating yourself well. Respecting others is equal to respecting yourself.

Although she lives in the United States, she never forgets her relatives, classmates, and friends in her hometown. She often calls her grandfather, grandmother, and grandma to greet her, and often chats with classmates and friends online. Seeing these actions, we parents are really happy for her.

Regarding the employment of my two daughters, I have said many times: "Don't rely on your father for your employment. You can go your own way." Besides, what flows in the blood of our Wang family is to be upright, upright, kind, honest, strong and motivated. In my philosophy of life, I never ask for help if I can do it myself. When I was in politics, I served many leaders, but I never asked a leader to do anything for me. After I entered business, I also worked for several big bosses, but I never bargained with the boss over personal issues such as treatment. I firmly believe that hard work always pays off. The boss can only give you a position, but cannot give you a future. You have to walk your own path.

Like father, like son. My two daughters have said to me many times when it comes to employment: "Dad, you don't have to worry about work."

My eldest daughter chose to go abroad for further study. From my heart, I was forced to do so. If there was a good job in China, I would not let her go. If forced to stay, wouldn't it ruin the child's future?

The second daughter is about to graduate in the summer of 2011, and the issue of employment is also on the agenda. But the second daughter is very confident. She said: "Don't worry about my job." According to her major, the only way is to be a civil servant. , so the second daughter applied for the national civil service examination this year.

As early as the summer vacation of 2009, in order to pave the way for her own employment, she approached the Public Security Department of the Inner Mongolia Autonomous Region and asked for an internship at the Public Security Department. The Public Security Department readily agreed to her daughter's request. After two months of internship, the second daughter gained a lot of connections in the Public Security Bureau for her understanding of worldly matters and understanding of people, and received good reviews. Before leaving after the internship, the friends from the Public Security Bureau held a farewell party for the second daughter.

In 2010, the Public Security Department of the Inner Mongolia Autonomous Region set up 8 positions specifically for master's degree programs for Inner Mongolian nationals who will graduate from the Public Security University in 2011, but they must pass the national civil servant examination. I was overjoyed and flattered to hear this news! It seems that there is indeed fairness and justice in the world!

After graduating in 2011, the second daughter was successfully admitted to the Public Security Department of the Inner Mongolia Autonomous Region and is now an official police officer in the Republic of China!

For my two children, we did not let them deliberately play the piano, nor did we let them deliberately learn art, nor did we accompany the children to read or take them to school. What we can give them is a sound personality and basic cultivation. How to go in the future, as the saying goes, walk your own way. A good future comes from self-reliance and using your own efforts to find your own dignity and happiness. I believe they will, they will definitely find their own coordinates in life and realize their own life value.

(Note: This article was written in 2011 and has been published by local media and public accounts)

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