Traveling with children is more difficult than going out alone: isn't backpacking a challenge?

Lan changed from a prodigal backpacker who loves to travel alone to the father of an online celebrity writer who enjoys parent-child life. He changes with children, reads parenting books, and even creates picture books for children. He tells them "brave" stories with his company every day. ?

Son, I take care of you to practice taking care of myself. Your first birth gave me a second birth. You changed my ID card and identity, gave me the role of father, let bygones be bygones, and gave me a chance to turn over a new leaf.

This is a love letter written by online celebrity Lan to her son nicknamed "Xiang Xiang". It is hard to imagine that he, born free, would write down his disgusting words to his son emotionally.

In fact, this child is not in Lan's life plan. In the first three years of Xiangxiang's birth, Lan always felt burdened, as if he had lost his freedom: it was very troublesome to go out to pull a cart and take a bus, and he could not feel the joy of parenting. It was not until the child was old enough to elope with him that he discovered that Xiangxiang was a good traveling companion and took him to see the world.

Read parenting books, publish picture books, and change the relationship between father and son with companionship? In the interview, the incense, which just turned 6, ran and jumped freely, joined the dialogue from time to time, and was not afraid of life at all. It can be seen that Lan's "inaction" makes Xiang Huo give full play to his character without a framework.

Blue and white always reprimanded the mistake of incense with a straight face, but after getting angry, the problem was not solved and the incense did not improve. So, he began to read the parenting guide book, learn from Adler, and contact the solution team. Gradually, he learned to use companionship and communication instead of scolding. Even because of parenting, I have more reflections on life. I recently created a picture book "The bravest man" for my son.

"Companionship" is his inspired action and the most important parenting thing at this stage. Every day, he always revolves around his son. Lan's daily routine now is writing. After sending her son to school every day, she reads books in her spare time, and then picks up her children from school. Lan, who loves the outdoors, did not give up and ran away, and arranged the parent-child tour on holidays to be "sweaty"; His wife Ada is also a writer, responsible for indoor games and daily cooking, and providing adequate nutrition for his family. Xiang chimed in and said, "My mother cooks very well! 」

During the interview, Lan took out cookies and ate incense happily. * * * It is a privilege for father and son to enjoy snacks when they are alone. Yang Huanshi photo

Dad took the lead in "playing truant" and set foot on the road around the island to stop his son from refusing to study. Last year, Prynne dragged Xiang, who was only five years old at that time, around the island. This obsession is not a romantic impulse in the blood, but a son's refusal to learn.

Xiangxiang, who just entered the kindergarten middle class last year, was very strange at first and was very exclusive at school. It is painful to go out every day. When Xiangxiang said that she had no friends at school, Lan responded: "Then Dad will play with you. The average parent may choose to transfer to another school in the end, but Lan Bai Tuo simply took two weeks off for his son and went around the island for a little practice, uncertainty and discomfort. " If you don't study at school, you will study outside. I don't want to force him to take classes. The world is the best school. "Blue and white said.

On a trip, Lan Bai Tuo hitchhiked temporarily. Afterwards, his son asked, "Why did you take the bad guy's car? Suddenly, Lan realized that Yuan Xiang thought strangers were bad people. He wanted to change his impression of Xiang, so he started hitchhiking half a year later and met more strangers. Faced with the uncertainty of hitchhiking, "hitchhiking will be recorded. If you can't stop near the train station or bus stop for more than 30 minutes, you will change to other means of transportation. "From then on, both father and son traveled with whiteboards and stopped at any time.

Lan Baituo believes that hitchhiking with children is a good opportunity to get in touch with the world and meet strangers. Provide blue and white tow.

I traveled around Taiwan Province Province for the first time and walked from Taibei to Kaohsiung for two weeks. On the way, Lan told Incense, "From now on, I'm going to class", which triggered Incense's expectation of going to school. After a long time, Xiangxiang began to miss her classmates and teachers, and then returned to school smoothly. During the pilgrimage to visit 88 temples in four countries of Japan, the father and son took a train and hitchhiked, and stayed in a backpack inn for two weeks, walking 5-6 kilometers every day. Blue and white dragged food along the way to encourage Xiangxiang to move forward, and bought small toys when the journey was too intense. Lan said that giving up hotel equipment and diet can focus on the journey. The harder you work, the deeper you will go. After the completion, the father and son will feel very fulfilled. Halfway through the visit, Xiang couldn't help shouting, "I'm exhausted from climbing!" " 」

It's not far from climbing the mountain to the national park. Every month, you will take incense to do a challenge, such as climbing a mountain or hiking. The distance is slowly lengthened from 5, 6 and 7 kilometers, which increases the difficulty. "I've had enough suffering, but I want to go again. My sense of accomplishment will accumulate. The physical feeling of sweating is the most direct, and the child will have an answer. Passed-by climbers will also praise and indirectly cultivate incense self-confidence. " I just take him to do what I like, whether it's climbing mountains or traveling, "Lan said.

"In the past, I often quarreled with Big A for my own travel. Later, I thought, what I want is not to escape all the time, but a kind of enthusiasm and state of' traveling'. After a change of heart, Lan chose to explore the city alone one day a week, taking a route that most people didn't expect, such as visiting the presidential palace and the executive yuan, which can satisfy his desire to travel alone without asking for leave from his wife.

In the past, Lan often traveled abroad. In the past two years, he has traveled all over Taiwan Province Province with incense. He pushed the national park in Taiwan Province Province and suggested that parents and children play nearby. After arranging the accommodation, he went to the visitor center and asked the locals about the delicious and interesting itinerary. Just asking. You can also try the backpack inn, which is the only chance to sleep in the same space with strangers, so that children can learn to integrate into the group and be friendly to others. "It's good to like people. Don't be afraid of crowds, "he said.

Lan joked that his wife A (right) would join the "no sweat" tour. Provide blue and white tow.

Courage picture books are for your son and for yourself. You are a brave light, not afraid of darkness. Dad wants to thank you for taking care of and illuminating my past, present and future. ~ blue and white drag

"After having children, we will enlarge our inner self. We all think we are taking care of children, but in fact we are looking at ourselves, "he said. Adults get angry when children are impatient, because adults don't accept impatience. So he changed himself. When his son is angry, he calmly provides more emotional outlets. "We all take the role of parents too seriously. You wouldn't be so angry with your friends! To stop him, it is better to find a plan acceptable to everyone. He wants to play with water in the shower, so I prepare toys. Blue and white drag is willing to have fun with Xiangxiang, play seriously and become the best friend of children.

"There is no only answer in life, but it is easy to become single or opposite. We should jump out. Inspired by the action of "Children can change the world" initiated by American parents, Lan wants to appeal to parents in Taiwan Province Province to believe in children. He wrote: "A child is a small tree, and a group of children are forests. Action is the best seed of courage. I want to invite parents to take their children to irrigate seeds with practical actions. The fund-raising action of the picture book "The bravest man" was born, and the story was integrated into his own adventure, which was written for his son and himself. "A trip may not change anything, but it will be enlightening," he encouraged parents to take their children out for a walk.

When a reporter asks what is brave? When dad was still meditating, Xiang replied, "courage is faced." It is the best interpretation of the upcoming life adventure of this father and son.

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Liu, whose real name is 37 years old, is a well-known backpacker writer and the founder of backpack cooperative. He is the author of backpackers courageously traveling around the world, for future travelers, steel strawberries, etudes left behind, giving back to travelers, and slowing down is fast. He married the writer Ada and gave birth to a son "Xiang Xiang". In recent years, he started hitchhiking with his son and launched a fund-raising campaign for the picture book The Bravest Man.

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