Learn to adapt to the temperature of the world, whether it is the season or the human heart

Text/Western Grocery Store

01.

My roommate took advantage of a few days of vacation to travel to Beijing. In order to take some beautiful photos, she brought There was a box of spring clothes and even summer clothes, but I never expected that it would snow in Beijing and the clothes would be useless. On the contrary, I would be freezing.

After she came back, she told me about her travel experience, and happily said that she had been freezing in thin clothes for several days, but she didn’t catch a cold and her immunity was pretty good.

I think this is the accumulation of our growth over the years. We already have a certain ability to adapt to and resist seasonal temperature changes in the outside world. However, when we first enter the society, we should also learn to adapt to other things, such as The rules of this world and the truth of the world.

In school, perhaps because of my good personality, people around me would always choose to confide in me. Someone told me after an exam that she failed. I believed it and spent some time comforting her. , she never thought that when the result came out, she got the first place in the exam; the second time she complained to me again that she didn’t review and had no success in the exam, I comforted her again and she still got the first place in the exam.

I was stunned in place as I was outside the tenth place who had been comforting the first place.

Later, I could no longer look at her with the same eyes as before, and I could no longer believe what she said. I don’t quite understand whether it’s humility or hypocrisy to overemphasize that I’m not ready.

Other friends told me not to trust others easily.

The kindness I can see is always told by someone that it is fake. I didn’t believe it at first, but later I had to believe it, and it was accompanied by loss and disappointment.

Probably the worst feeling in the world is having to doubt something you previously believed in.

02.

When I was a child, I learned a saying, which is to kill the first bird with a gun. It means that you should not be too showy, as this can easily lead to disaster.

After watching the movie "Beautiful Legend of Sicily" in the evening, my biggest feeling is that the most beautiful thing in the world is the human heart, and the most terrifying thing is the human heart. If a flower blooms too brightly, it will be picked off. .

Marlena is the most beautiful young woman in the town. All the women are jealous and resentful of her, and all the men have ill intentions towards her. When everyone thinks that her husband is When she died in the war, her bad luck began for her outstanding appearance.

All the men took every opportunity to take advantage of her, and all the women were so jealous that they eventually surrounded her and beat her, tearing away every trace of her elegance in front of everyone.

Groups are cruel, especially when they are blinded by jealousy. It is said in "The Crowd" that it is difficult for individuals in a group to restrain themselves from having evil thoughts, because the group is anonymous and individuals do not have to take responsibility. , and when the sense of responsibility that binds individuals completely disappears, people will act recklessly.

Malena is too outstanding, and this is the source of all her evil. The mediocre always want to get close to her, but find that she is unattainable, so rumors spread everywhere, and everyone spares no effort to hurt her. , until she was injured, defeated, and dragged into the ranks of the mediocre, and learned to say good morning to the people around her, her figure began to become bloated, and her skin began to wrinkle, and everyone began to let her go.

After beauty is destroyed, it is destined to become only a legend, as Lu Xun said: What is tragedy? Just tear beautiful things into pieces and show them to others.

"Look, as long as you are no longer young and beautiful, as long as you are ordinary like us, as long as your husband comes back to you, then you will be our friend."

Remember to watch the movie My heart was beating violently at this time. Even though it was almost eleven o'clock in the evening, I was still very awake due to excessive shock and emotion.

The truth of life is that when you become excellent, only a few people are sincerely happy for you, and the remaining people around you are only jealous and disdainful.

Ordinary people hang out together all day long. Everyone looks about the same, about the same age, similar appearance and body shape, and even goes to the same school. Everyone thinks that everyone should be equally mediocre. And once one day it is discovered that a person starts to excel and starts to contrast with the group, this person will no longer be able to integrate into the group.

The wolf is destined to walk alone, and the genius is destined to be high-spirited and lonely.

One person's excellence will bring anxiety and panic to the group. They can't find a way to eliminate the fear, so they can only exclude and suppress the person crazily until the group confirms: We are almost there. Shake hands and make peace with peace of mind.

You see, there are always people who are verifying the evils that I have never imagined, and they are all true.

Many school girls told me that they were rejected by their roommates and felt very lonely. I think the truth is always the same. Students who go to the library to review will make those who lie in the dormitory all day watching dramas uneasy. , they were peaceful and decadent before, and then they were restless and decadent.

"I'm decadent, but don't wake me up. If you break my stable life, then I will beat you."

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If the people around us do not accept our efforts, then we need to work harder, otherwise how can we leave the low-quality group that is not tolerant?

03.

When I go out for an internship alone, no matter where I go or what I do, I do it by myself. Occasionally I buy a train ticket for the evening, which always makes the whole family stay up late with me. My parents don’t wait until they are sure that I am safely in the car. I will go to sleep with peace of mind, because they know clearly that there are countless darkness and insidious things outside that I have never experienced, and I, who is thin, have no ability to resist at all in the face of such darkness.

A certain person. During the summer vacation, I was pulling my suitcase to leave, and my father stopped me: I would rather you lie at home and sleep for two months than let you go outside alone.

I told him for a long time. Only then did I agree and asked me to call home every day.

When I came outside, I treated everyone kindly and was willing to make friends with some people, but I didn’t dare to completely trust others. When it gets dark, I close the door and hide at home to read my favorite books and TV shows instead of going outside for a walk.

Regarding human hearts, Milan Kundera said this: They. You are brave only when you are safe, you are generous when you are free, you are emotional when you are superficial, and you are sincere when you are stupid.

Feng Jicai in "Reading is also the same." It is said in "Reading People" that some people are willing to lend you their umbrellas on sunny days, but when it rains, they quietly walk away with their umbrellas.

First time entering society. Our experience in some aspects is as clean as a blank sheet of paper, and like a frightened deer driven into the forest, somewhat confused and stumbling to grow.

We have to learn too much. There are many things, professional skills, rules for getting along with others, etc. But if you want to survive, the most important thing is to adapt to the temperature of this world, whether it is the season or the human heart.

(The picture is selected from "Petal Net", the original picture has been cropped)

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