Fudan Goddess: Chen Guo’s Loneliness and Loneliness

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Chen Guo’s sophistication lies in her talent and experience, but also in her unique insights and insights into the world.

Chen Guo was born in Shanghai in 1981. He successively received a PhD from the Department of Philosophy of Fudan University and a visiting scholar at Regent College of UBC University in Vancouver, Canada. He studied under James D, a PhD in Theology from Harvard University, and Evelyn, a PhD in Psychology from the University of Chicago. The experience of thousands of mountains and rivers has tempered Chen Guo and given her a colorful spiritual world.

What kind of world is Chen Guo's loneliness like?

She said that loneliness is the enjoyment stolen from the crowd. She is proud, graceful, and completely free of spirit. Loneliness requires us to have time alone and be "as I am". There is no need to dress up or affectation, or wear a hat and smoke a cigarette to pretend to be serious.

Loneliness is a state of being alone in a world of its own, a system of its own. The lonely person expresses the nobility of harmony. In the highest state of Taoism, it means "evaporation" and self-disappearance, forgetting both things and myself. To describe it in four words: harmony, respect and tranquility - being in harmony with the environment, showing just the right amount of respect, without affecting one's own tranquility and tranquility. This is also the spirit of Japanese tea ceremony.

How does Chen Guo interpret loneliness?

She believes that loneliness is a disease and a spiritual hunger. Since it is a disease, it needs treatment. How do lonely people find healing? The method is the crowd. Lonely people always need the company of others. There are two types of treatment for the population. One is that interests require building connections, which is just for mutual benefit (it is indeed useful, but there will be no real friends); the other is that lonely people warm each other up, which is cheap communication. Carnival is the loneliness of a group of people, and loneliness is the carnival of one person. Loneliness does not seek external things, but seeks everything from itself (that is, calmness).

Even if you answer a call, travel outside and be in the embrace of nature. We still can't get over it. Everything in the outside world occupies our senses, nerves, thoughts, everything. Why do I like to travel? Do I like to find a place without people to exile myself? So why do we avoid others? In fact, loneliness is not a gesture, but a real state and a poetic dwelling place of the soul. Therefore, lonely people do not need to find any specific quiet corner.

Lonely people are not boring or boring. On the contrary, they tend to be extremely interesting and rich people. Because people who are willing to be lonely always love thinking and reading. Loneliness is a way they choose to entertain themselves and enjoy themselves. And life constantly provides them with fresh resources, and only a broad mind can bring lasting happiness. Only with spiritual freedom can we be "as I am."

What is a friend in Chen Guo’s eyes?

A true friend is a world between two people. We are quiet, but not deserted. With one more person, there will inevitably be topics that cannot be discussed. This is a kind of distraction, turning from being unguarded to being social. The world of three people is too crowded. Many things can be seen clearly if you take time to look at them. Either go further and further away, or go closer and closer. If you regard your friends as backup boyfriends and girlfriends, then you have insulted friendship and love. Being with friends is also a kind of loneliness. But this kind of loneliness is more beautiful, and it will be more comfortable than when you are alone. Because true friends are completely defenseless. Friends are luxuries, and luxuries are impractical. If you have this kind of thing, you should be satisfied. Because it can give you nothing but friendship. Friends are not vassals, they don't just agree and compromise. In reality, friends need to discuss each other and discuss each other carefully.

Some so-called talking and punching bags are all verbal violence. Don't use the excuse "it's a trust in your friend". This is abuse of a friend. Friends should not have to bear this kind of catharsis. Soul mate is one soul, he should not take on my trivial matters. Friends should be useless ("use" here means use). You feel free when you are with him. They held hands and looked at each other speechless, but their thoughts were clear. It doesn't matter if there is no contact between real friends. After two or three years, the person on the other end of the phone seems to have never left. So-called "friendships" that require constant contact to maintain are not reliable, because they will be broken once there is no contact. (I will never think of it, I will never forget it) Two people wearing masks no longer need to be friends.

Gratitude is what Chen Guo has always adhered to.

Before talking about a grateful heart, I want to talk about two words: "myopia" and "hyperopia". People are closest to themselves, and those who love themselves most are often the cruelest. Because we are too close, we suffer from myopia. You can't see every bit of the other person's merits. For example, one day when you are sick, your parents put medicine by your bedside, and when one day, they ask you to take it yourself, do you think they have become bad? There is another saying called "distance creates beauty." To use an analogy: when two lovers cannot see each other or meet each other, they will have a spiritual gaze. When no one is able to function, we will use all our cells, nerves, emotions, and imagination to imagine the other person so perfectly. This intense gaze is called missing.

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We must always remember that there is no "natural" love in this world, including your parents, so when a person who has no blood relationship gives you a "natural" love, our gratitude is more than just a "thank you". Expression.

Because he/she loves you, and his/her actions are understanding, tolerance, and dedication to you. Even when he/she finds a shortcoming in you, she/he will try his best to care for, defend and protect it. Love ultimately means: constant giving and self-sacrifice. Giving one's love does not mean losing it, just like helping others is the foundation of happiness. Care and love reflect the richness deep within you. Therefore, be grateful when you receive help. It is normal not to help you. Helping you is a deep devotion from her/his heart and is worth remembering.

What do “self-love” and “tolerance” mean to us?

Based on the equality of human nature, you must love yourself.

There are very few people who love you in this world. Self-love is the recognition of one’s own character and development. Only if you know what is best for yourself can you know what is best for others.

Regarding this tolerance, this tolerance is not that tolerance. Before I tolerate them, I must first tolerate myself. Forgive yourself for things you should have done but didn't do. Tolerate your own destiny and live. Unfreedom arises when you find yourself fighting against misfortune, frustration, and suffering. Confrontation itself, then, creates constraints. Only through reconciliation can we truly be free. Perhaps when we cannot change our destiny, we can humbly accept our fate. This is reconciliation to life. It is a noble and elegant gesture, a gesture of harmony with nature.