Never take your children to travel during holidays! Such a trip will not increase your knowledge, and the children will not appreciate it!

As the saying goes, "Read thousands of books and take Wan Li Road", there are many tourist programs now, such as where so-and-so will go and so on. "Taking children to travel" has been demonized by some big V's, and it seems to be the general trend and the general trend.

All of the above are constantly teaching us to take our children to travel, and even implanted a higher concept in our minds: taking our children out to see the world from an early age.

Unknown so, not always. Here I want to say don't take children to travel! But my "don't" here is in quotation marks. I just hope that parents will not take their children to travel because of "conformity", but leave their children with more experiences to do what they should and want to do at their age.

Nowadays, with the improvement of people's economic and living standards, it is easy to travel with children, and it is gradually becoming popular.

Various "Where to Go" programs are being broadcast, and many donkey and cow tourism projects emerge one after another. From weekend park tours to domestic tours on May 1st and 11th, to overseas study tours and summer camps in winter and summer vacations, travel expenses have become the third biggest killer of education expenses after school selection fees and interest classes.

Behind the so-called "long knowledge", in fact, the undercurrent is the contest of consumption level:

Will you take your children out to play during the holiday?

Where to take him to play?

Which star hotel are you staying at?

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Even before the holiday, when the mothers who pick up the children get together to chat; Chat with colleagues with children at lunch; Downstairs, when neighbors want to say hello, everyone will intentionally or unintentionally ask, "Where to play during the holiday?"

Behind a seemingly ordinary sentence is not your educational philosophy and life taste, but do you have money and leisure? Can you afford it?

Do you really want to take your children out to "study" or vanity, whether you like it or not? Or what is your financial strength? You are involved in this invisible storm.

Not that we have to travel, but that we can clearly distinguish:

Do you travel to please yourself or to show off or prove something to others?

Did such a trip really give children insight?

Did you teach your children to eat, drink and be merry, or did you teach them to grow up?

If we just go out to eat, drink and have fun, just for the sake of parents and children's face, just to satisfy vanity and make friends, we might as well not travel to show off!

Although children are playing less and less now, many of them are bound by electronic products, so going out to play has become a good choice. However, this does not mean that speaking out is equivalent to acquiring knowledge.

For example, we take our children shopping in Hong Kong, South Korea and Disney. Now many travel agencies have launched ten most suitable holiday hotels with children. ...

These tailor-made high-altitude trips just take children from the small playground in the shopping mall in front of your house to the bigger playground, from the ocean park in one city to the zoo and ocean park in another city ... In fact, there is no difference in essence, just the difference in scale. Is this a long knowledge?

"I saw something I didn't see before" and "I learned something" really can't be equated.

Expensive investment will not bring equal knowledge growth. The purpose of "going to Meng Mu" is to cultivate children in a "good environment", but in modern times it has gradually evolved into a sigh of "material wealth".

What if we just emphasize travel and don't look at what kind of trip we are going to? The end result is that everyone takes money to contribute to airlines and travel companies.

Such a trip will only teach children to learn "luxury" and "enjoyment", which is really not a long experience!

On the contrary, even if you exchange with a family during the holiday, let the children take a car to observe everywhere and go to the local market. Even just go swimming in an unknown river in the country, enjoy the cool summer in the shade of an old tree, make friends with some local children in the country or a strange place, and so on. , can have knowledge, don't go to a tall place, you will have a tall knowledge.

In the eyes of children, no matter where they travel, adults always take their own "I want to" and "I want to" and always feel that what they have arranged for their children is good, so they often say, intentionally or unintentionally, "Didn't I bring you here for your own good? You still ... "

In fact, children, especially preschool children, no matter where he goes, he probably wants to go to places like amusement parks and places of his own interest. He doesn't care or care about places of interest, but adults insist that he go to see them and even want to instill some knowledge in them. It's hateful and ridiculous to think about it now.

I want to ask, if you take a two-year-old child to see the Terracotta Warriors and the pyramids, can he understand it?

I think we all know the answer.

For a child, maybe he is more willing to stare blankly at an ant in the park all morning, regardless of whether he is in a domestic or foreign park? This is just her heartfelt exploration process, but it is always ignored by us adults. We often disturb or even hinder children's self-exploration.

For example, when the child is three years old, you take him to climb the Great Wall, so where is he going to climb? You climb him with your arms. He is tired when you travel like this. I don't remember anything when I grow up, and I won't be impressed. But an eight-year-old child is different. He will remember this trip. Climbing the Great Wall at this time may be a challenge for him, which will bring him different feelings and may be remembered for a lifetime.

More often, we should let children touch it and try it. Face and solve problems by yourself; Take them to feel life and experience life.

After all, our personal feelings and experiences are very different from what we instill in them, just like an old saying: "What we get on paper is superficial, and we never know how to do it."

We don't know what children can see from it, but one thing is certain. What she saw was definitely different from what the adults saw. Therefore, the self-righteous travel purpose of adults is wrong from beginning to end.

Suitable for children to walk with their peers when they are teenagers. Why did you take them when you were a child? When he is old and wants to explore the world by himself, do you think he will be interested in going again after seeing the photos you took at various scenic spots?

Many times, even if we travel around the world with our children, the result is not that he has a new "understanding" of the world, but that he just "traveled all over" those places under your passive arrangement.

Traveling is not just going out by plane; Without thinking and desire first, there will be no so-called new discoveries; Without an example, no amount of arrangement is in vain.

Therefore, it is best not to take your child to a place he is not interested in, ignore his feelings, and travel without exploring and experiencing!

We hope our children can go to thousands of books and Wan Li Road. In fact, sometimes when he grows up, whether he is closed-minded or not depends on your interest and action in traveling.

I don't know if you have the experience of being taken to a wildlife park on a cage-like bus. I really don't know what those leisurely animals outside the cage think of us at this time.

In fact, many times, our travel is everywhere in the cage. We often boast to ourselves that we travel for the sake of travel. However, did you really do it? Do you really realize the so-called meaning from it?

In addition, parents who don't like to travel may wish to bring their children! Some parents take their children out, but they have been taking selfies there. Some parents play games at home, travel or play mobile phones everywhere. You take your children out to play as companionship. As a parent, are you fulfilling your task?

In fact, this kind of perfunctory travel is not as good as playing games with children at home, or reading his favorite stories to children. Children want more high-quality companionship from their parents, and they don't care how advanced and famous the places their parents take them. Children care about the love of their parents.

Whether adults or children, we observe and think about life, not in hotels or scenic spots, but in every little detail of life, in our love and experience of life.

When I said that I didn't take my children to some of the above trips, I didn't mean that I didn't take my children out, but that we should think it over before we act:

When you understand that you can travel and show off without fear of pressure;

When you don't take part in the taste-changing journey under the prevalence of hedonism;

When you no longer ignore children's feelings, deprive them of the right to experience and explore;

When you can also travel from the heart;

When you can truly appreciate the joy of life, the meaning of existence and the value of life.

When you understand this, you will know what kind of travel is suitable for yourself and your children.

Friends, have you found your real trip?