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What if the best friend has a good relationship with the person he hates the most?

In the hearts of most of us, "mom" has always been a sacred and beautiful word, and it will be full of tenderness and warmth when it is mentioned. But the recent Ode to Joy 2 shows us the ugliest mother-in-law in China. Shockingly, we can't deny their existence.

The first kind, "selling the old by relying on the old, not respecting the old", is represented by Qin Ying's mother. In the TV series updated two days ago, the most irritating scene was that Qin Ying's mother cursed Qiu Yingying. Qin Ying was beaten and even put under house arrest by her fiancee's family. She turned to Qiu Yingying for help and mercilessly criticized Qiu Yingying for being shameless. Qiu is a girl she doesn't know at all, so she began to define and describe the little earthworm as a shameless person for money in front of a bunch of people. What is the difference between this and Ding Xuan, a female moral teacher who said on the Internet that "a woman's best dowry is chastity"? In her eyes, having an ex-boyfriend means losing her virginity, and having multiple ex-boyfriends will definitely be involved. However, such a mother-in-law or mother, in reality, is too much. They occupy an active position in the marriage and love market, are aggressive, and think that their eyes are very picky. What she said was groundless humiliation. But in the face of Qu Xiaoyu's provocation, she can suppress it with the dignity of her elders: I can scold you, but you should listen carefully and don't talk back. In life, this is the kind of crutch that forces you to give up your seat on buses and subways. Once you say it, it is a big violation. It's really ugly to ask others to respect you because you are an elder, but you don't know how to respect others.

The second kind, snobbish, treats his son as a commodity. Representative figures: Bao Yifan's mother and Wang Baichuan's mother. Put them together, because they are so alike, like snobs. In the eyes of this kind of mother, her son is a commodity waiting for a price, and she wants to buy a good price in the marriage and love market to "exchange" a precious daughter-in-law. Their common lines are two sentences, one is euphemistic "My son is not worthy of you" and the other is direct "You are not worthy of my son". My mother casually rummaged through her son's mobile phone and asked Fan to meet her in his name, looking like she was superior. "You can't afford my house.". Later, after driving Fan Meisheng away with insulting language, he could still say "I'm doing it for your own good" without changing his face. Bao Yifan's mother is more explicit, and her attitude towards Andy has changed several times. First of all, I mistook Andy for Wei Guoqiang's mistress, insisted that she was a fox, and kept harassing her. After learning that Andy is Wei Guoqiang's daughter, she is eager to climb up to her relatives. But when I heard that Wei Guoqiang had an accident, my attitude turned cold at once. In the eyes of such a mother-in-law, marriage is a transaction that can be manipulated, and she must win a total victory. As for love, this illusory thing is not worth mentioning.

Third, insatiable greed, son preference. Representative: Fan's mother. In these two series, the most shocking thing is Fan's mother. Some people even ask, will there really be such a mother? Mentioning her will remind people of her classic lines: "Xiaomei, you must help your brother!" " "She is insatiable, eats her daughter's clothes, lives in her daughter's house, and can't wait to take her daughter's clothes to the pawnshop to exchange money. She is partial. Obviously, the whole family lives on their daughters, but only feel that their sons are important. She is also stupid, thinking that the house can't be sold at the critical moment when her husband is lying on the operating table, because her husband will beat her and her son has no place to live. The most serious thing she did was to keep squeezing her daughter dry. It is natural for children to support their parents, and no one will deny it. However, people like Fan's mother have too strong a purpose for their children. They have children just to carry on the family line and provide for the elderly. What is terrible, however, is that there are too many vampire-like parent-child relationships in China. They drain their children to make themselves comfortable, and what's more, they drain their daughters to supplement their sons.

The fourth and final one is the traditional mother. Representative: Guan Juer's mother. Among the five girls in the play, Guan Juer is the most popular and common girl, and her mother happens to be the most common kind of mother in our life. The most striking feature is constant pressure to end the blind date. Please help your daughter find a companion at the dinner table during the Spring Festival when seven aunts and eight aunts get together. People standing here are probably nightmares. Whether their daughters like it or not, they will always be "parents-in-law": I have to arrange your schooling, employment, marriage and having children step by step. Besides, the most fundamental problem in her body is that she thinks that men are the masters of women in her bones. Such a mother values marriage most and is ashamed of being single at a certain age. She thinks that a woman's greatest success is to marry a good family, and a woman's happiness can only be realized by a man.

Why do you have to admit the existence of these mother-in-law or mothers? Why do we say they are ugly mothers, ugly mothers? The most fundamental reason is that most women in that era put their lives and ideals on the next generation. If children leave their lives, they will have no life at all. Bao Yifan's rich mother and Fan's street mother are the same. "Mom is for your own good", "How can you talk to your elders like this", "You are too young to understand" and "You were born to me, so you should" are all their magic weapons to win. These mothers never realize or are unwilling to admit that they have a strong sense of participation in their children's adult life. Zhao Qiping is the most popular mother in the play. She has a good understanding of the boundaries between mother and child and mother-in-law. Because even if she is old and becomes a mother, she still has her own complete life and career. Her life doesn't need to bind her son to get a sense of existence. She and her son are independent. Every mother and mother-in-law used to be a girl, and the previous generation is irreversible, but maybe from our generation, when we become mother-in-law or mother, don't live the way we used to hate.