Collect 3 examples to illustrate your point of view (Cui Lu Writing Camp Task Day 19)

Column: Cui Lu February Writing Camp

Date: Day19, March 6, 2020

Task:

After the previous Task, I found that everyone is weak to "story/chestnut". so:

(1) Collect 3 stories/chestnuts. It can be from a celebrity or an ordinary person. Try to find something in the field you want to write about. For example, if you want to write about the field of parenting, just collect chestnuts about parenting

(2) If you have enough time to learn: try to string 3 chestnuts into an article.

Reference: A. If the three chestnuts are related, they can be combined to illustrate one point of view.

B. If the three chestnuts are related, they can illustrate three points respectively. Similar to action steps 1, 2, and 3.

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Guidance stories make it easier for us to accept other people’s opinions

A friend of mine weighed before giving birth to a child He weighs 10 pounds more than me and is now an inspirational idol in the circle of friends. Half a year after giving birth, he seems to have grown up in the gym. His waistline is now thinner than when he was in college, and his vest line can be vaguely seen. .

I asked him where he got such perseverance, and he told me that during confinement, his mother told him a terrible story.

In the story, a mother who gave birth to her second child took care of her child at home every day without taking care of her. When she was one year old, she abandoned her wife and son and ran away with a woman outside. This mother wanted to chase her out, but she sprained herself on the stairs and broke her foot bones.

I laughed half to death after listening to this story. He also laughed and said, of course I know that my mother made up stories to amuse me, but when I think of the mother in the story, especially when she breaks her own foot bones, After a moment, I wanted to rush to the gym immediately and run for 40 minutes.

Think about it, if his mother said: "If you don't lose weight, your husband and children will dislike you, and your life will be inconvenient." Will the effect be the same? I'm afraid it would be good if we didn't have a fight.

When you hope that your elders will cooperate with your actions, it is appropriate to tell stories of recognition.

Most of the arguments in the family are often based on a small difference of opinion, and the real appeal of the stubborn party is actually to hope that he will be listened to and respected.

I once saw a story in a magazine:

A mother who lived with her parents-in-law wanted to travel to Okinawa during the Chinese New Year. When the topic “Where to go during the Spring Festival?” , the whole family disagreed.

His father-in-law loves photography. He takes the bus to the Summer Palace every day with his SLR on his back to take pictures of various flowers and plants, so he feels that he must go to a place with beautiful scenery. The children didn't like to see the scenery the most, and the mother-in-law muttered that she had to buy something when going on a trip. No one would give in during the discussion.

The wise mother thought for a while, pulled out a photo of cherry blossoms from her phone and showed it to her father-in-law.

Dad, what do you think of the quality of this cherry blossom photo? Japan has a special cherry blossom weather forecast, which will report the blooming times of cherry blossoms across the country, and then people who watch the flowers will follow this forecast. I have a shopaholic colleague who goes wherever he goes to see if there is any place to buy things. When I heard about such a forecast last year, I suddenly wanted to chase the earliest cherry blossoms in Japan. I went to Okinawa before the Spring Festival. He even hired a photographer to go with him and took a lot of photos. I think this one is not as good as yours. I usually take good photos. Two days ago, I posted the plum blossoms you took in the Summer Palace on WeChat. Everyone said it could be used as a postcard, but he said it was mainly because the aquarium there was too big and he was busy watching the dolphin show with his children. The ocean He didn't even have time to go to the botanical garden next to the museum and missed the annual orchid show. It's a pity that I think he just had to arrange shopping and didn't want to waste time looking at flowers.

Everyone was happy with the result. The family happily went to Okinawa. The children played wildly in Ocean Park for two days, and the mother leisurely found a lounge chair on the grass of Ocean Park to bask in the sun. Watch the sea, eat ice cream, and wait for the child and his father to watch dolphins and manatees, manatees and sea turtles, sea turtles and golden sands.

My father-in-law also had enough fun taking pictures of the scenery. The floats in the Ocean Park alone took half a day, and the orchid exhibition in the botanical garden next to it took another half a day, not to mention the sea view of Manzayama and Nakijin. Cherry blossoms are really beautiful to take any photo.

My mother-in-law was also very satisfied with the shopping trip in the last two days. She didn’t miss any local specialties, international specialties, and must-buy items in Japan.

After returning home, everyone praised the mother for choosing a good travel destination. In fact, none of his colleagues had been to Okinawa. It was just that he wanted to go there himself, so he had done it a year earlier. The cherry blossom photos for my homework were just photos I found casually on the Internet.

Think about the situation at that time. If he had not told a story that he agreed with, but said I think we should go to Okinawa, would this perfect trip still be possible? I'm afraid no one will listen to him at all about how great Okinawa is, and this story of recognition makes everyone feel that their needs are taken into account and met.

Proactively create family stories, build and pass on family culture.

Family stories include two directions, one about the past and one about the future.

Every family has stories told by the elders. It is the family brand between us and our original family, and it is also the basis for our connection with our new family.

When I was young, I once heard my grandma tell the thrilling story of hiding from the Japanese in the mountains of my hometown when they were young. Later, my grandfather wrote an autobiography about himself, telling how he found a job in the mountains and went to the county town. How were his father, uncle and aunt born?

These old stories are often added in more details by relatives when they return to their hometowns during the Chinese New Year.

If you want, you can also create a future family story with your family.

When it comes to reunions like the Chinese New Year, you might as well bring up such a topic. :

What will our family look like in 5 years, 10 years, 15 years?

Will we move to a bigger house? Will there be more children in the family?

Can the family business be bigger? Will the family go to live in another city or even another country?

We can take the initiative to bring up these topics from time to time, so that family members can outline tomorrow as much as possible.

Sometimes families are too shy to talk about the future, but they usually don't refuse to talk about their children's future.

Where will the child go to college?

What kind of work will you do in the future?

When can I start looking for a boyfriend or girlfriend?

What should I do if I am too far away from home in the future?

Will the old couple help take care of their grandchildren after they retire?

It is these pyrotechnic issues that help us see the future direction of our families.