The mother of a college entrance examination student burst into tears: How important is it to get into a good university? I regret seeing it too late

The author of this article is the mother of a high school senior who is about to take the college entrance examination. As her senior year of high school approached, she had a heart-to-heart talk with her son, compiled some of her own insights, and wrote this article. This article can represent the voice of countless parents of students, and it also provides a good answer to the motivation problem of high school students who cannot study hard.

It is strongly recommended that parents and students read this article several times in order to answer questions and inspire the spirit of hard study!

My child, I have been writing and writing on my phone for a long time. There are already quite a few words written for you. That night, after you and I had a long talk, I wanted to say to you——

?First? You must be clear about "why" you want to study! I just want to tell you that it is to get into a "good university".

It cannot be said that your goals are not ambitious. You told me that day that you don’t want to do specific work. What you want to do is to make a significant contribution to mankind. I admire you very much. The higher the goal, the higher the achievement. I don’t need to say this again. But don't be so vain. This goal should be implemented into the reality that you must study hard and get into a "good university" first! ! This "good university" should preferably be Tsinghua University or Peking University, followed by Renmin University, Zhejiang University, Nanjing University, etc. The minimum should be a 211 level university. Otherwise, all your dreams will just be a dream!

Because a good university determines your future social level.

Just like what you said about us that day, you said: "I finally know why you make so much money, because you went to a bad school." Boy, what you said is so correct. Because we went to a poor school, we could only be assigned to the grassroots as a small civil servant, doing the most basic work. Even if we work hard all our lives, it is unlikely that we will become the director. The circle we know is from that small county town.

The school we graduate from determines the path of our lives. Now we have been working for 20 years. In less than 20 years, we will all retire. This is the trajectory of our lives. We can only struggle in the middle and lower classes of society. A lifetime of frugality may not be as good as a year's salary of a senior executive. The salaries of senior executives are measured in millions, but our salary is only around 50,000 per year if we work hard.

I have never experienced it so deeply before. On May 1 this year, at the 20-year reunion of our high school classmates, I realized: The gap that slacking off in my senior year of high school caused in my life! ! ?Even if you keep sneering at us, I really didn’t feel how good it was to get admitted to Tsinghua and Peking University, because Aunt Liu who got admitted to Tsinghua University usually had the same grades as me, but she persisted, and I was confused. . However, now, it is as easy for her to travel in and out of the United States as it is for me to drive in and out of Shijiazhuang. She gave birth to her son in the United States. Her son will be able to study in elementary school, middle school, and college directly in the United States without spending so much money. But for me, you will have to prepare millions to study abroad in the future!

Her son is a U.S. citizen and can enjoy everything the U.S. welfare system brings. Just like in our country, Beijingers enjoy many benefits of Beijing. This is the difference between me and her! There is also Aunt Cao, who is a doctoral supervisor at Chongqing University. All they browse are the original English web pages. It is as easy for her to go to the United States as an exchange scholar as it is for us to go to the municipal bureau for training. Their life is so far away to me. Now even if I work hard without eating or drinking, I still can't reach their level, no matter in terms of ability or financial resources!

I don’t want you to wait until 20 years later to regret it. I hope you seize every minute of your life. I hope the detours I've taken can give you some inspiration. I hope we can work together to get through this most important stage of your life.

Also because a good university determines the starting point for your future success.

Environment is important. You also said that night, good middle schools, they have Olympiad classes in No. 28 Middle School and No. 40 Middle School. Only key junior high schools can get into key high schools, and only key high schools can get into top universities. You also said that the biggest advantage of No. 2 Middle School is that there are multiple ways to enter a good university. Olympiad, independent enrollment, and then the college entrance examination, but other schools only have the college entrance examination. You did not do well in these two exams. You must be feeling pressured, fearing that you will not be ranked enough for independent enrollment. Children, don’t be discouraged, no one can give up until the last moment!

No. 2 Middle School has given you the external conditions for success, but it is you yourself who plays the decisive role. These people are your most valuable resources when you enter society in the future. In the future, only when you enter a prestigious university can you know what ideas the professors there have instilled in you, and what kind of network resources you will have. To be successful, a person must rely on the mutual support of others. Only a circle of outstanding people can produce creativity, wealth, and success!

Yu Minhong created the glory of New Oriental because of the resources of Peking University and alumni resources. It's Jack Ma, Ma Huateng, Robin Li and other elites in the e-commerce era. If they were surrounded by vegetable sellers and shoe shiners, would they be able to succeed? A person's power is actually very small, and he has to rely on the environment to become a hero.

My child, you are already aware of this, and we have always tried our best to provide you with the best environment. Moving from the county to the provincial capital, although it makes you feel more difficult, we can provide you with the best environment. We have provided it, the rest is up to you to work hard.

More importantly, because only a good university can have a good job. Only then can you achieve the goal of "being better than the old and better than the old"!

For families like ours, you just have to "survive and thrive." You must first be admitted to a good university before you can say things like studying for the rise of China and seeking happiness for mankind.

Your father and I are just civil servants at the lowest level. You are not the "second generation of officials", let alone the "second generation of rich people". You can only have a good job if you go to a good university. Only by working can you develop further and realize your greater ambitions. My child, every time I talk about this, you seem to despise my views because your goals are very ambitious. However, you have to understand that when you enter the society, "survival may crush all young dreams." Look at how many college students are unemployed after graduation. Many of the temporary workers our unit recruits are college students, and they earn 3,300 yuan a month. They also rely on connections to find people to join them. This is life, a very cruel reality of life.

A person's working environment and your identity determine the quality of your life. I hope that you will be "better than someone who has learned something".

What we inherited from our parents was the house on the top of the building with a few thousand dollars in debt when we got married. Later, our three sisters also bought houses for your grandma and grandpa. Although we are small civil servants at the lowest level, we are provided with various benefits and benefits. Even if we ask for leave and do not work, not a penny of salary will be withheld. But your grandpa slipped on the ice last winter. If he didn’t make money, no employer would pay him. The uncle who just passed away in your father's workplace would have received about 600,000 yuan in various subsidies if he had died while working from Monday to Friday. Now, he would have received more than 200,000 yuan in various subsidies even if he died on a holiday. But no matter if your grandma or grandpa passes away for any reason in the future, the state will not give them a penny of subsidy.

If we get sick and have a serious illness plan, and the hospital stay exceeds 1,000 yuan, the state will reimburse most of it. However, if it is your grandma or grandpa who is sick like this, even if there is now the "New Rural Cooperative Medical System" "Even the rural cooperative medical care requires a large part of the individual burden, and the only people your grandma and grandpa can rely on are our three sisters, and the state cannot control them. Their quality of life has a lot to do with us. This is the difference status brings!

I didn’t understand before that my grandma is 66 years old, and my grandpa is 70 years old. The three of us sisters give them money every year, and they still work so hard to make money, sweep garbage, and set up cigarette stalls. Get up in the middle of the night and sweep the locust flowers. I didn’t understand them very well before, but now I understand them very well. Because they have no "security" and no "security" for survival. The country has no fundamental guarantee for hundreds of millions of farmers. The biggest guarantee for your grandma and grandpa is the three of us. They don’t want to burden us, so they work hard to make money! ! Now, as long as I think about this, I don't dare to spend money randomly anymore! We have to calculate how much it will cost you to go to school, how much it will cost to rent a house, and how much it will cost you if grandma or grandpa gets sick. Your father is no less frugal than me, but he is not good at expressing it.

Although we are just junior civil servants at the grassroots level, the differences brought about by our status are already so huge. This is why even though the living conditions of civil servants are not good, there is still a rush to take the civil service examination. Because there are many additional things, which are caused by differences in status.

You really despise our work now. You once asked me: "What do you know?" In your eyes, as you grow up, your parents' knowledge can no longer reach the level you have, but , I hope that you can be stronger than us in the future. Don't curl your lips, you are saying in your heart, don't worry, I am sure you are strong. However, if you don’t have a good university as a foundation and you don’t take the first step well, you may not be able to have “no worries about food and clothing” in the future! ! Just like the son of Director Wu of our unit now drives a taxi for others. You must understand the saying "Those who work hard will govern others, and those who work hard will govern others"! Therefore, apart from studying hard and getting into a good university, there is simply no way out for “common people”!

"The blue is better than the blue." I always remember your words of comfort to me when I was in the most difficult time. You said: 'Mom, don't worry, in the future you will be the mother of the richest man in the world, all over the world. All have your villa. "Mom doesn't ask you to become the richest man in the world. She just wants you to have a good and stable job in the future, to be able to support your own family, to be able to travel abroad, and to buy things without being as rigid and entangled as we are now. ! But all of this can only be achieved if you get into a good university!

?Second? How can you get into a good university? Besides working hard, work hard! !

Having said so much, I just want to clarify the confusion in your mind and tell you that there is no other way for us to go except getting into a good university. Here is what I want to tell you. , only by working hard, working hard, and working harder, can you have a chance to get into a good university.

Hard work is actually a question-based tactic, and there is no shortcut.

When you started school, you didn't do well in the exam, and you said it was because you didn't finish your homework. In fact, there is a reason for high scores, no pains, no gains, especially in study. Don't be too conceited, don't look down on any small question, don't take it for granted that I know it, you have to really do it, do every question, practice makes perfect, and only then can you get ahead of others.

Three years at Hengshui Middle School is equivalent to four years at your school, because every minute of their time is spent studying. Boy, when I count how many days are left at this moment, I get so flustered. We don’t have many opportunities to make corrections if we make mistakes.

My child, you may understand all of this. I only come back occasionally to relax for a while. Hengshui Middle School does not have Internet access, so it is impossible for the children to have time to watch TV. My child, this process is indeed very painful, but if we are not suffering now, it will be twice as painful in the future.

Also, you must eat your meal in the morning. This is the most important meal of the day. You can skip the time of polishing your shoes and combing your hair and eat it. Children, if we work hard this year, even if we still fail to achieve our goals in the future, we will not regret it. In my mother’s mind, Tsinghua University is not out of reach! If you knew what your mother was like back then, you would understand. My child, it’s not that you can’t do it!

From now on, there will be no more moments of relaxation. My child, I know you are very tired. But who has experienced the senior year of high school and is not tired. Who hasn’t experienced painful reflection and confusion in their senior year of high school? ! Victory only belongs to those who always persist and persevere. There are goals around you, and you just have to catch up.

Children, today’s slackness is tomorrow’s bitterness. How high your heart is, how hard you should work. When you walk into the students of No. 2 Middle School, there is no difference between smart or not, some are only hardworking or not. The difference, my child, is that learning is a student's bounden duty. At this moment, there is really no choice but to study hard. The road to a prestigious university is paved with papers as high as yours!

As parents, we should have discussed these issues with you very early. Your father is busy at work, and I travel between two cities every day. I almost broke up when I got home, so I didn’t talk to you more. Well communicated, these are our fault.

From now on, if we work together, my child, you will not be alone, let alone lonely. I won’t let the confusion of my senior year of high school appear on you, absolutely not! We will work hard together, together! My child, no one will always be stronger than you, and few people can always stand at the top of all living beings. Those who can persevere are the real strong ones. We must do our best to live up to this life!

Finally? I want to say about love.

You know, mother has never restrained your feelings. I once told you that if you have someone to experience the pain of learning with you at this stage, you may be less tired. If not, you have to work harder! The real strong person is not your appearance or your family background, but your own ability.

"If You Are the One" is a dating show, which is essentially a portrayal of social reality. The so-called love is just that you can only choose such a person in a certain period of time! Like me and your dad. If I had been admitted to a better university back then, even if it was not Tsinghua University or Peking University, it would have been Zhejiang University or something like that. The people I met would have been different people, and the environment I would have encountered would have been a different environment. A small civil servant in the county got married.

In fact, everyone has been valued by society. Your job, your education, your family background, etc. are added together to determine the valuation. How good you can be with someone better.

This society is very realistic. Only by working hard and being excellent can you integrate into the circle of more outstanding people. In this society, classes exist deeply and are not dependent on your will.

My child, there are thousands of words to say, I just hope you can understand! Be able to work hard! Be able to go all out!

Love you, mom