How to arrange a first date?

How to arrange the first date is as follows: Try to choose a large amount of time for the first official date, design the process well, diversify the activity content and physical contact, etc., as follows:

1. Try to choose a large chunk of time for the first formal date

The first formal date should last between 3-7 hours. I recommend meeting in the afternoon and having fun together. It is better to send the girl home in the evening, this time period is better, the time is long enough and there is more room for operation, or you can meet in the evening, have dinner first, and then go play together. A long date will leave a much deeper impression on a girl than simply drinking coffee and watching a movie.

If there is a girl who temporarily misses an appointment or runs away after an appointment, you can mentally deduct 20 points for her. This approach usually means that she is not interested in you or there is too much market. Of course, there are special circumstances here, that is, if you find that a girl reacts extremely poorly to you or is in a very bad state, then you should make a quick decision and find an excuse to leave.

2. Process design

Remember: transition at least three times! In a formal date, we must always remember that people's freshness is limited. If you stay in a scene for too long, the heat will gradually decrease. If you just meet briefly, have a cup of coffee or If you watch a movie and then leave separately, then it can be said that this date will not leave a particularly deep impression on the girls.

This kind of small date is actually dispensable, but if you really want to get off to a good start with the first date, multiple transitions are essential. The most common, safe and simple way is to choose three places with completely different styles for three regular projects. For example, just watch a movie in an ordinary shopping mall.

But don’t choose Starbucks in the mall as a place to drink coffee. You can search for local internet celebrity stores on Xiaohongshu, and then go to another place to eat at dinner. Finally Choose a unique bar to have a drink. Every new place is a new experience, so a date will give girls a good experience.

3. Diversified activity content

Such as escape rooms, pottery making, mountain climbing, even indoor rock climbing, go-karts, or going to the next city to eat local specialties; these are all acceptable; The advantage of this type of project is that it is more interactive with girls, both parties are more involved, and the dating experience is of course better.

However, because unconventional projects are more niche, girls are less likely to accept them, because the investment requirements for both parties are higher, so you need to be familiar with them before girls can accept them. Will accept.

4. The key points of chatting during a date

During a date, it is different from chatting on WeChat. Generally speaking, there are three modes: boys dominate the topic, boasting, and girls echo; girls dominate the topic , boasting, and the boys echoed; both sides had back and forth, and had a good time. Some people are talkative, and some people talk less, so these three modes are all OK, and there is no distinction between good and bad. What kind of chat mode is not OK?

One party is boasting, and the other party is silent or absent-minded, playing with their mobile phones; or both parties are silent and don’t know what to say; both parties are rushing to talk to themselves, and the chat is not on the same line at all; if you are on the second If these situations occur in a chat, you need to be vigilant. A bad interaction pattern means a bad date.

5. Physical contact

When the atmosphere is harmonious and both parties are familiar with each other, it is time for physical contact. Why do we have to have physical contact? Because physical intimacy also brings psychological intimacy, physical contact is similar to the role of confession to a certain extent. If a girl acquiesces to physical contact, she also acquiesces to the improvement of your status in her heart, and you will transform from ordinary friends to Became ambiguous friends.

To put it simply, hold the girl's hand when the atmosphere is right; hold her hand, and then when the atmosphere becomes more ambiguous, you can kiss her. How to judge whether a girl will accept your hand holding is also very simple: the girl is in a high mood + the physical distance between the two parties is very close.

Before holding hands, you can lean your body towards her. If the girl doesn’t move away, you can hold her hand~