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Who can tell me how to handle emotions without hurting others or myself?

Talk to strangers.

Emotion is a bit like magma. If it is accumulated slowly and not released, it will erupt like a volcano one day, destroying everything wherever it goes.

So it is necessary to talk to strangers often and release emotions.

Talking to strangers has several advantages.

One who is not afraid to reveal his privacy. That stranger doesn't have your phone number, your WeChat, and he doesn't know if what you said is true or not. When you finished, he forgot.

The second is to help you guide for free. When you meet a talkative stranger, he will enlighten you enthusiastically and release your emotions more thoroughly.

The third is to sing with strangers to benefit them. What happened to you, your emotions, maybe even strangers. You talk to each other, speak freely, vent your emotions, and benefit each other.

Therefore, talking with strangers is cost-free and safe, which can benefit both sides, thus achieving the goal of multilateral win-win without hurting others.

Where are the strangers? Parks, shopping malls, subway stations, buses, online car rides and hitchhiking are full of strangers. Don't say that people all over the country know you, then you can only go abroad, such as Africa.

Emotions must be controlled by themselves, and those who control emotions can control their own lives and achieve their own careers. I use some examples of the great President Mao Zedong before and after the Jinggangshan Conference and Zunyi Conference to illustrate this problem.

During Chairman Mao's stay in Jinggangshan, the officers and men below liked Chairman Mao very much, but at that time, the veteran Chairman Mao was too tough in front of major events and could not unite well, which led to his repeated blows.

As we all know from the TV series, Jinggangshan was directly led by the Hunan Provincial Party Committee in the early stage. 1In August, 928, the Hunan Provincial Party Committee took two letters to Du Shang Jinggangshan and ordered Gongsijun to March into southern Hunan. Chairman Mao knows this is wrong, because he is firmly opposed, has a tough attitude and speaks in a rather blunt tone. As a result, Chen Yi was elected as the secretary of the front committee of GongsiJun, and together with Zhu De, he commanded the 28th and 29th regiments to March into Chenzhou, which was the failure in August.

1929, Chairman Mao proposed at the Seventh Congress of the Red Fourth Front Army that the party commanded guns and everything was politicized. As a result, the soldiers represented by Zhu De disagreed. Chairman Mao is stubborn, hard-spoken, and shows no mercy. He insisted that I was right and you all had to listen to me, but after chatting for a long time, he found that no one supported me. As a result, Chairman Mao resigned as the secretary of the front committee of Gongsijun.

Later, the Soviet faction was sent to live in the Soviet area, and Chairman Mao's life was even more difficult. People look down on local factions like you. Chairman Mao also has a hard temper, a hard attitude and a hard tone, and often quarrels with people. He always loses control of his emotions and can't unite the top. So he was relieved of his post as the general political commissar of the Red Army and became the chairman of the Soviet government without real power, and was arranged to do some research work in the rear.

1934 The Red Army began the Long March, and Chairman Mao marched with Zhang Wentian and Wang Jiaxiang who were sent back to the Soviet Union. They talk about the current situation, politics and military affairs every day, and reflect on their failures since the fifth counter-encirclement. As we know from TV, the three of them had a good chat.

Slowly, Zhang Wentian and Wang Jiaxiang found that Bo Gu was dying! And Mao Zedong! So they began to support Chairman Mao. During this period, Chairman Mao also reflected: What can be done to save the Party and the Red Army? Finally, I also came to the conclusion that we should change the heartless people in the past, control our emotions and unite with the majority. Since more and more high-level officials supported Chairman Mao from the channel meeting to the Liping meeting, Chairman Mao also experienced the feeling of majority support for the first time. At the Zunyi meeting, Chairman Mao was successfully elected as a member of the Standing Committee of the Political Bureau. The next stroke of genius just passed Chishui 1 14.

Since then, Chairman Mao has rarely lost his temper with most people. Anything important is to ask comrades to sit down and discuss it calmly. China's revolution is gradually moving towards light and victory.

There are hundreds of rivers and great tolerance; The wall stands a thousand miles, and it is just without desire. Only by controlling emotions can we control our own life, win people's hearts and win our career without hurting ourselves or others.

I don't know. Do you like what Brother Bald said? Welcome to comment and discuss. thank you

Hello, as a psychological counselor, I often say to visitors, "Deal with emotions and see what ta looks like first".

For emotions, we often want to "control" it simply and rudely. It seems that the best way to deal with emotions is that we can control their occurrence freely.

But in most cases, the controlled emotions are "controlled" by our defense mechanisms such as denial, isolation, suppression, transfer, rationalization and intellectualization. One day, people will hurt themselves. Just like in the novel, the devil is often sealed, and the future troubles are endless.

Therefore, seeing emotions is the first step to deal with them. We can only see how emotions happen; How do our bodies feel when emotions occur? What are we thinking when emotions appear?

Look for ways to get along.

Emotion is an innate psychological activity, which comes from desire, need, desire and pursuit, and is an individual's attitude, experience and behavioral response to external things. Normal people are often wise after the event, which is what we often say, think twice before you act. Those who are sad will heal their hearts. People who are surprised need to know why they are afraid. Angry people need to be calm when they hurt their liver. Those who feel sorry for their spleen and lungs need to learn to deal with themselves. People who are overjoyed need psychological guidance.

Our emotions are generally spontaneous, and chicken soup without positive energy will be completely solved. If we overemphasize positive energy, we will only reject negative energy, and the suppressed negative energy will only accumulate. There is no good or bad energy. Only by learning to transform or finding a suitable exit can any resistance and repression have any effect. After a huge energy explosion, it may produce unbearable bad results. But the existence of energy has its rationality and significance, and emotion is the external expression of energy.

For example, inferiority and depression are not emotions that can be carved out from the roots in a short period of time. Learning will not be transformed, but will only lead to great physical and mental harm. People with inferiority complex will be the most successful people, and people with inferiority complex will turn inferiority complex into the ability to study hard. For example, Yu and Austrian psychologist Adler told people in their book Inferiority and Transcendence that inferiority is an emotion that everyone once had. One is to express oneself with desperate hypocrisy and cover up inner inferiority; One is the fear that you can't escape as hard as others, which shows that you completely give up yourself and deny your ability; The third is to face it correctly, live in peace and learn to get along with yourself. This kind of pressure is transformed into the power of self-improvement, because people have the psychological mechanism of compensation and displacement. In order to overcome some of their own shortcomings, they turn to other aspects to gain a natural position and realize the transcendence of turbocharging. Most people's emotions, including depression, can be treated by Morita therapy, which advocates natural therapy. A person can't stop when he is angry, so most enterprises have staff vent rooms. People who know how to release negative energy through safety often live a thorough and bright life, use it freely, naturally and truly, be wise and foolish, know how to get along with themselves, and sometimes loneliness will reach the best state of mind. Panic and sadness will be copied by memory, become dark demons, emerge from time to time, and form a shadow in my heart. Therefore, it is necessary to internalize morality into a noble person through long-term study and reinforcement, that is, a powerful energy field formed by daily practice, which cannot be vented but can be controlled until the immune system helps to cure or transform.

For example, in this epidemic, we can't eliminate the virus, but we can use it to produce antibodies, build a body and mind immune system mechanism for ourselves, and thus coexist peacefully, which is also a moral control mechanism. A person is not afraid of emotions controlling himself, but most afraid of losing himself, becoming a slave to emotions and being hurt by negative energy (negative emotions). As long as we always reflect on ourselves, open our cognitive system, see clearly our real needs, know where the small environment is, and understand how to break through our own energy in the big environment, what people want to surpass is themselves. If you compare yourself with others, but borrow others to hurt yourself, this is called punishing yourself with others. Only by seeing yourself clearly can you reach the top, because you are a unique person and you have to go your own way in life. We have to face ourselves with a smile every day, and this emotion can infect others and make people feel sincere, because everyone has a psychological compensation, which is a face-to-face reward mentality. As the saying goes, returning a peach to a plum is also a smile. Behavior and movements will keep the muscles moving and lasting, that is, psychological behavior determines the consistency of attitude. A good attitude is the beacon of the ocean of life, and morality is the spiritual nutrition internalized in the ocean. It is not afraid to let it rain and wind, and life is no longer afraid of losing its way or being eroded by the devil's negative energy emotions.

In short, emotions are digested, transformed, balanced, transformed and vented through their own immune system, so as not to hurt others and themselves. Energy can never be destroyed unless it is forcibly suppressed. We have learned the law of conservation of energy, and we can also shut it out with a strong magnetic field of life. In other words, our personality (that is, personality) can be composed of cost and energy through good behavior habits and countless enhancements. What we often say is impressive is that this person's continuous behavior is fixed as a stable mental characteristic.

If you have a good opinion, I hope to discuss it with you, correct your own shortcomings and benefit more friends.

I'm glad to answer this question. Personally, I have some suggestions for reference only:

1. Transfer method. Most emotions are entangled in some negative emotions. Find something you like to divert your attention, for example, go to your favorite movie alone and try to be comic and positive; Listen to your favorite music, as soft, comfortable and familiar as possible. You can also sing, shout and take part in some favorite sports, such as playing ball, practicing yoga or just going out for a walk. You can also travel or go shopping. If you are a girl, it is said that shopping is a good way to relieve your mood, which is scientifically proved. Also, I can thank you for keeping a diary and transferring your emotions to words.

2. vent method. The venting of negative emotions should pay attention to methods and the principle of not hurting others. First, you can try the way of venting in the emotional venting room. Different places have different ways, some put some fragile things in them, some put people on them and so on. In short, you can vent how you like; The second is the recently popular food catharsis method. To put it bluntly, eating means turning negative emotions such as anger and depression into appetite, eating and eating. It is said that hot pot is more popular. Drink a little wine.

3. pour the law. If the mood is serious or frequent, you can find a psychologist and talk to him, which is also beneficial to your control. Psychologists are more professional and can provide us with more professional guidance. If it's not serious, you can talk to your good friends or relatives. Crying is actually one of the best ways to vent, and it is said that it can also lose weight and detoxify.

In fact, emotion is a normal psychological expression, which should be formalized and pay attention to the guidance of self-emotion. In short, relax and don't go to extremes. Everything will be fine. However, it's easier said than done, so whenever I get emotional, I will go out for a walk, calm down alone, throw stones by the river, listen to the sound of running water, and slowly calm down and think about the causes and outlets of my emotions.

In a word, be the master of emotions, not the slave of emotions!

The saddest thing in life is never knowing who your greatest enemy is. What is even more tragic is that when dealing with major events, I don't know whether my emotions make my biggest enemy ecstatic or bereaved, which is often the most fatal.

During World War II, the balloon bomb was invented for the Japanese army to effectively harass the US rear. The previous balloon bombs launched from Japan really caused great panic to the United States. Unfortunately, the United States saw the ultimate idea of the Japanese, but this incident, which could not be kept secret at all, was uncharacteristically blocked on all sides, making the Japanese think that it was ineffective and no longer supporting balloon bombs, which made the Americans quickly breathe a sigh of relief. If the American people are furious and publicize the panic effect of balloon bombs, Japan promises to launch balloon bomb attacks with all its strength, which greatly reduces the war potential of the American rear area.

If you only pay attention to your own interests, you will be ecstatic and furious, but you will never see through these losses. The biggest reason is that your own weakness and cognition are not enough, or you misread or ignore your biggest opponent, or the biggest beneficiary of these interests, or even those who don't know enough about whether your biggest opponent's ultimate goal is to help or not, but you are furious when you should be secretly ecstatic, reminding your biggest opponent to be one step closer to the ultimate goal. That's right. When you should be furious, you chose to be calm as water and not move like a mountain, so that the biggest opponent could not know how much deviation his practice had in achieving the ultimate goal evaluation, and deceived himself in the wrong direction.

People's emotions fluctuate like waves, which is closely related to one's real life. If life is smooth sailing, then the emotional state is at its best. If life is not smooth and bumpy, it will also be depressed and depressed. How to handle emotions without hurting others or yourself? Let me talk about my views on this issue.

First, to handle the emotions of yourself and others, we must first control our own emotions.

If you want to ease other people's emotions, you must first control your own emotions. Don't be impulsive, don't be angry, don't argue. Be patient, work hard and calm down. Static is not static, but static braking, static thinking and static.

Second, to deal with emotions, we should learn to "empathize".

Empathy is to analyze and solve problems from the perspective of others. Think of others everywhere, understand others and tolerate others. As a man, if you can learn to be considerate and tolerant of others, then this person should be approachable.

Third, to deal with emotions, we should learn to be calm, treat others with courtesy and convince others with reason.

To handle emotions well, we must learn to be calm and unselfish. Being too selfish is easy to get angry and offend others. Uneven heart, too much desire. When the goal can't reach their own desires, they will be upset and give up on themselves, and some people will even go to extremes.

Be a polite and rational person. Polite, polite to people, polite to people. You can't be rude, no matter how big or small you are in front of people. Big is big, small is small. Modesty first, courtesy second. Reason, reason and morality. Be reasonable and moral. An unreasonable and immoral person. Not a gentleman, just like a gangster.

Fourth, learn to be content when dealing with emotions.

Man, don't ask too much of yourself. People who are too demanding will never be satisfied. Do what you can, and be content. Just try your best and don't ask too much of yourself. Only by setting low standards and requirements for yourself can we be satisfied. Content is better than riches.

If you want to handle the emotions of yourself and others, you must first stabilize your emotions. Only when one's own emotions are stable can one ease others' emotions. Analyze and solve problems from an objective standpoint, without hurting others or yourself. Have the best of both worlds.

There are many treatment methods, which vary from person to person. Don't be impulsive and act rationally.

There are three methods for reference, 1. Stick the name of the person you want to talk to on the chair, and then talk to him. If you want to scold him, scold the name posted on the chair. Of course, you can also whisper. Psychology is called empty chair therapy.

2. First of all, we should understand that emotion is a good thing, not to deal with it, but to let it flow well and find a positive way to express it. You can express your emotions in a positive way in combination with your speech. What emotions should be used in the speech? You just throw yourself into it and slowly let your emotions unconsciously flow through your words.

3. Go to the mountains and seas and curse with a smile. There are also such professional places in Japan, where customers pick up empty glass bottles and smash them on the ground. Is this very Japanese? Japan also charges a high fee of HK$ 5,000 for ten minutes.

Finally, of course, the most important thing is to face up to your emotions, find the right person and speak your mind. As long as you can say it, you can complete 70%.

Express your feelings in time, and your will have a more harmonious relationship and a healthier body and mind.

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