Rule 6: Children love splashing water when they go out, so they must "establish three rules" in advance.

I think there are several reasons. First, you may have given your child basic norms at home, and the child has been able to abide by the rules well at home. But there is nothing outside, what's more, the rules at home are often not applicable outside, and children will be at a loss. Second, compared with the family environment, the stimulation of the external environment is more intense, attracting more children, dazzling goods, bustling crowds, and children are dizzying. There is also visiting relatives and friends, and it is inevitable to be excited when you see your friends. When you are excited about more physical exercise, your self-control will collapse. So in a more exciting environment, we also need to set some rules for our children. Let children have lasting self-control.

Before arriving at the destination, you should explain to your child what to do in advance, pay attention to guidance in the process, and don't always stare at the places where your child is not doing well. When speaking, it is best to be on the road. Children's memory is sometimes short, so it's better to say it first. Pay attention to eye contact when you speak. The rules for children must be specific and the expectations should be reasonable. Tell them clearly, you will say it once, and you will not be reminded when you arrive at your destination. If you warn, it will be an opportunity. Ask the children to repeat it after you say it.

If the child obeys the rules well at the destination, it is necessary to give the child a certain reward, and the reward should be detailed. This detail can be linked to the existing reward list without creating new rewards. For example, giving children 5 points, sometimes the first-hand reward is more effective than the token reward, that is, you can give the reward directly on the spot, even if it is a piece of chocolate, of course, not too much. For example, the first-hand reward should be used on the blade. Of course, the whole process is accompanied by spiritual rewards, your verbal affirmation, but it must also be meticulous. For example, you asked not to run around in the mall, and the child did. It is certain that the child gets along well with his parents.

Serious violations here refer to endangering one's own safety, such as jumping around on the elevator and crossing the road. Your reminding and even your screaming are useless. You must take certain measures to make your children take warning. Of course, if you have a better way, you can also reduce the punishment. Most of the punishments here are to remind children to pay attention to protecting themselves. We set the negative consequences as punishment. For example, children can get 5 points if they obey the rules, and 5 points will be deducted if they don't.

Constant supervision is not to control children, not to let them understand, but to remind them at the stage of just cultivating children to obey the rules. Of course, as I said before, reminders can only do one thing. There are too many, and the children will not agree. Anyway, you will remind them that once you can make children realize the seriousness of the situation. Sometimes it's just that we talk too much, and the children get bored and have immunity. If he knows what you said this time, in fact, you have been doing it, and the child will pay attention to it.

Including myself, when carrying out some consequences, I always make myself and my children feel uncomfortable. I always forget that the biggest consequence of implementation is to let children master the correct way of doing things, not to reprimand them. We often think that children will listen to you if they are in a bad mood, and you always tell him that it is for his own good, which is well-intentioned and malicious. Therefore, the implementation of the consequences needs to help them start over and believe that children can do it. He can't do it. You can demonstrate it.

The child has a big temper and an explosive energy, so let him explode. After the explosion, there is no energy. Naturally, he is boring, and you naturally cool the child. We like to try to stop the explosion when the child's energy explosion is the most violent, but it often backfires and you are injured. So when the child breaks out, the best way is to let the child calm down slowly. Of course, we can also adopt the thinking mode of side wall, as mentioned earlier.

Your car is a good place if there is no better place for children to calm down. The monotonous and closed environment is easy to calm people down, and the noisy environment is too exciting. And there are only two people in the car, you and the child, so it is convenient to communicate afterwards. If possible, you'd better stay outside the car and let the children stay inside, but always pay attention to the situation inside the car.