I am unemployed at the age of 40 and I feel very desperate. What should I do?

“I am suddenly unemployed in my forties, and I feel very desperate. What should I do?” A workplace friend looked at Lao Wang with great anxiety and confusion, longing for Lao Wang to give him a Answer.

This is the experience of a 40-year-old technician. He graduated from a city's ordinary university with an undergraduate computer major. Due to his slightly introverted personality, he has been engaged in program development since graduating from university. His introverted and aloof character led to his relatively slow promotion in the workplace. He worked in the company for 9 consecutive years, and his highest position was only a technical director. But recently the company began to clean up the old little white rabbit, and he was the first to bear the brunt.

He was laid off. Although the company provided "N+2" compensation, because his wife had just given birth to a second child last year, he suddenly felt like the sky was falling when he was unemployed. He was very anxious and confused, and had insomnia for several days in a row. The mortgage pressure and sudden unemployment made him feel very desperate. He told Lao Wang that if his children had not been young and his parents had not been old, he might have actually jumped from his home on the 24th floor.

When Lao Wang fully understood his problems and work experience, Lao Wang encouraged him that life is precious and cannot end just as soon as it is over. At least he must be responsible for his family, parents and society. Compared with your experience and Chu Shijian's, which one is more tragic? He told Lao Wang that it must be Chu Shijian. Lao Wang told him that in the most difficult time, Chu Shijian never considered ending his life, but considered how to make a comeback.

After that, Lao Wang told him some stories that could inspire him, and first asked him to adjust his mentality and relax himself. Afterwards, Lao Wang suggested to him:

1. Forget about anxiety and confusion, go back and have a good rest, and be sure to have a deep sleep. If you still have insomnia, ask your wife to buy you a sleeping pill and make sure you get a deep sleep. Otherwise, you are most likely to enter a state of depression.

2. It happens to be a holiday. Take a week to travel with your wife and children to adjust your mood to the best state.

3. Believe that you are not unemployed, but just temporarily out of work. What’s more, I must believe that my talents will be useful.

4. People in their 40s, when they are most energetic, can reorganize your values ??and redefine themselves, and they will definitely find solutions to problems.

5. Now is not the time to solve problems, but to adjust your mood and state first. After adjusting your mood and state, you can then find Lao Wang to solve career development problems.

According to Lao Wang’s suggestion, the professional manager friend went out for a trip and was in a good state and mood, so he came to Lao Wang to talk about career development. Regarding his career development, Lao Wang gave him a reasonable career development direction.

Just last week, he told Lao Wang that he had found a new job. Although the monthly salary was only 25,000, it was better than unemployment. Lao Wang sincerely congratulates this friend. Lao Wang has always believed that when people reach middle age or forty years, they will not lose their jobs, but will only lose their jobs temporarily.

You may ask, why does everyone talk about mid-life crisis? Or, when a person reaches the age of 35, he may face the risk of being retired?

Let Lao Wang answer this question for you. Based on Lao Wang’s research and thinking on professional managers, Lao Wang believes that only the following people will have a mid-life crisis or face the risk of being retired by the age of 35.

1. When a person reaches the age of 35, he is still doing the most basic job and competing on the same starting line as the children who have just graduated. Such a person will inevitably be dismissed or unemployed. Just like last time, a workplace friend told Lao Wang that he was 35 years old and still working in grassroots sales. With a basic salary that could not support himself, he shouted slogans with the newly graduated post-95s every day. He felt very lost and also Without face, I resigned voluntarily...

2. I admire management too much, but ignore and forget the improvement of my professional ability, let alone self-study. Some people enter management positions early, but after the age of 35, they have not yet reached the position of senior manager or director. Such people may really face being eliminated. Because you have no survival skills, only management. Don’t forget, the higher one goes, the stronger the management ability is required; the further one goes, the less management can rely on imagination or experience, but relies on theory to guide practice, and uses scientific management methods to standardize and manage the team. Lao Wang met a girl in 1995 who managed eight subordinates. Although she is now the new media operations director of a company, she still insists on learning and practicing every day. She now invests 2,000-3,000 yuan in learning every month, with the goal of better improving her abilities rather than her management abilities. You might ask, can a child born in 1995 manage a team? Lao Wang tells you, don’t underestimate the post-95 generation. She leads the team and exceeds the target every month.

3. There are too many ineffective social interactions, a lot of time is wasted, and there is a lack of high-quality friend circles. Before writing this article, Lao Wang did a simple survey and found that many working people have too little time for themselves to study or participate in high-quality activities or socialize after get off work, except for eating, drinking, and having fun. And most of the time is wasted. Just like a friend in the workplace, as long as he does not work overtime, he will be called by his friends. There are also some people who always like to participate in some free activities and think that free activities or learning are the best.

But Lao Wang tells you that the more free it is, the more expensive it is. In addition to wasting time and energy, the whole activity is either listening to other people's bragging or watching other people's advertisements. Do you think this is valuable and meaningful? A friend of Lao Wang said that after get off work, apart from spending time with his parents, wife and children, he spent the rest of his time studying and exercising. As for socializing, he would refuse any dinner party for more than three people.

Write this at the end

When you reach middle age, you will not face unemployment. If you are interviewed for unemployment, it can only mean that you have not put yourself in the right position.

When people reach middle age, they will not be anxious and confused, let alone depressed. If you are anxious, confused, or depressed, it only means that most of your time before middle age was wasted, and you did not make reasonable use of your time and improve yourself.