Are we really inferior to others? Let's talk after reading this article!

When I was a child, we hated listening to adults say that whose child got the first place in the exam, whose child got the tenth grade in the piano exam and whose child got the national ranking in the Olympics. Yes, we didn't even hear you clearly. I don't know whose child won the first place.

It was an inexplicable sense of loss. Just like growing up in a sunflower field, facing the sun beautifully, the petals are all open, and the children run into this flower field to take photos with the sunflower. Just as the sunflower was enjoying the sunshine and the children's laughter happily, one of the children suddenly said, there is a rose next door, which is more beautiful than you.

This is an inexplicable sense of loss.

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After leaving home, I often feel this way, and I often feel inexplicable loss. As if invisibly, the child who doesn't know whose family appeared again, always reminding me that you really seem to be inferior to others.

1993 Once I had coffee with a boy, he talked about the internet world I didn't understand, saying that he had done two entrepreneurial projects and led the team to get the A round of financing. He told me that the world is changing too fast. Three months on the Internet is a year in the real world.

At that time, I had just returned from Latin America, which was full of freedom and love. When I landed in Beijing, I felt as if I still smelled Latin America and could fly with my wings. In front of me, this boy, who is five years younger than me, is talking about an industry that I am completely unfamiliar with. His sophistication and ability, and the light in his eyes made me dizzy, followed by a sense of loss, which made me unconsciously open my mouth.

I'm desperately thinking that three months on the Internet is one year in real life, so how many years have I been left behind by what he calls the Internet world? How can I understand this world that I can't keep up with?

Another time, I had dinner with a beautiful woman who finished her MBA from America. Beautiful women with delicate makeup and bright eyes are talking about domestic entrepreneurial opportunities, investment projects in Silicon Valley, and how to graft Silicon Valley resources to domestic entrepreneurs. I don't remember what I ate at that meal at all, but I remember the girl's great ambition. When it comes to excitement, silver earrings collide with a crisp sound.

I desperately want to, is it a waste of three years, too indulgent, extravagant spent three years, wandering in distant Latin America, taking the Wan Li Road, but forgetting to read thousands of books, and the consequence is that I could have expressed some views on what Silicon Valley resources and the status quo of domestic entrepreneurs, but I don't know what to say because of that inexplicable loss.

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So are we really so inferior to others?

After returning to China for a period of time, such a sense of loss accompanied me, and I felt as if I no longer belonged to this real society, as if I were living in the heartless days in Latin America forever. I felt that I had wasted a lot of time, as if everything was too late to catch up, so I wrote the article "Twenty years, not ten years".

The response was amazing and unexpected.

It seems that in an instant, I became someone else's child. Many people say that they envy me in my twenties, that I have gone to so many places, that I have many experiences in distant Latin America that ordinary people can't have, and that my twenties are really better than those years.

After returning home, I actually fell into a deep silence for a while. I don't know what has changed in this world. Envy the boys in the internet circle in 1993, envy the beautiful women who are ready to make a big splash after finishing MBA. I fell into the inexplicable loss of listening to other people's children when I was a child, forgetting that I actually walked a particularly beautiful road on a distant continent. No matter how I look at it, it is actually shiny.

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/kloc-at the end of 0/4, I went to Peru to shoot once. I have no altitude sickness. I shot for a whole day because of overconfidence and fatigue, and returned to the hotel at night with a splitting headache. Even more frightening, I didn't fall asleep for a minute from 10 pm to 4 am the next day. During the period, I frequently go to the toilet and have diarrhea, which may be 20 times faster.

The whole person collapsed in bed. Will he die of diarrhea due to altitude sickness on his mobile phone? He called the front desk and asked the little brother at the front desk for oxygen in Spanish. He didn't speak very well. Later, he was afraid that he would collapse and die. He asked for a plate of salt from the hotel kitchen, inhaled oxygen by himself, boiled hot water in his room and wanted to drink some salt water. And at four o'clock the next morning, I will leave for the airport and rush to the next city.

I don't even know how I got on the plane the next day. Later, I sent a photo with a red scarf in my circle of friends, which read? "In Lake Giggle, altitude sickness, drinking coca tea?" , an understatement.

I didn't think of this story until recently, because I became the envy of another family, and the child of another family didn't mention the story of such a serious altitude sickness alone in the remote country of Inca, where the language was not fluent. Other children wrote those shining days for everyone to see, but they didn't say they were sad.

Later, I learned that, in fact, the children said by adults are not alone. Because, without a child, she got the first place in the exam, the tenth place in piano and the first place in dance in the country. This painting is collected by the museum. She is very beautiful.

However, the child from another family who seems to have everything has only one aspect. We have not seen the road he has traveled, the hardships he has suffered and the tears he has shed.

We are really no worse than others.

Our inexplicable sense of loss is because at that moment, we compare what others have with what we don't have.

No one stipulates that a flower must grow into a sunflower and a rose, and it must bloom beautifully in the same flower season. A few short stories, but profound! Share this article and let more people see it!