People are so indifferent, women should not forget to love themselves, essay

When love sprouts, it is as passionate as fire, making women feel warmth and light; in a short time, like a huge torrent, the past love gradually erases the water chestnuts, erases the bright color, and gradually returns to Calm, even becoming as pale as paper.

Shakespeare once said: "Love is like an oil lamp. After the wick burns out, its flame will dim and disappear."

Women are like women in love. The wick, for the sake of love, does not hesitate to burn itself, dedicating light and heat to men. For love, a woman can give everything she has regardless of the circumstances. However, not all love is reciprocated equally.

One of my classmates, Sister Fen, originally married far away for love. Regardless of her parents’ objections, she insisted on marrying her ideal love. Before getting married, her annual salary was 80,000 yuan, and her formal attire made her look gentle and elegant. In the company, wearing a pair of high heels makes you prosperous.

Now, she said to me in despair and sadness: I feel that my husband doesn’t love me anymore because he said that I am not qualified to celebrate Women’s Day.

It turns out that after Sister Fen got married, she had the opportunity to be promoted, but she also welcomed the arrival of a new baby. She is extremely torn between career and family. She knew that once she gave up this opportunity for promotion, she might never get another chance.

However, marriage sometimes becomes a multiple-choice question in a woman’s life. She wants to have the best of both worlds, but finds that it is a multiple-choice question.

She said: When she was hesitant, her husband said to her tenderly: "Wife, I will support you from now on, and I will give you and your children a warm home." This sentence, As if by magic, she finally chose to resign. Since then, she has become a housewife and a full-time mother after the birth of her child.

After becoming a housewife, she began to spend money carefully, and was reluctant to spend money on romance, expensive perfume, and travel... She felt sorry for her husband's efforts, so she became more and more reluctant to do so. Spend money.

Marriage has no sense of ritual, no romance and surprise, and the same life gradually makes her feel less love and hope. She felt that his heart had already become cold.

A man who no longer pays attention in love is probably because he has forgotten how to love.

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Love slowly corrodes a woman’s brain and her originally brilliant life.

Sister Fen wants to change this boring life. She plans to celebrate a different Women’s Day to let love slowly return to her heart. Looking back, every important holiday in the past, he always asked her: How do you want to celebrate the holiday?

But she always replied: I haven’t thought about this problem, don’t worry about it, I really don’t care. Gradually, he stopped spending time on the holidays and no longer prepared gifts and surprises for her.

A woman doesn’t want to celebrate the holidays mostly because she doesn’t want to “spend too much”, while men think that a woman really doesn’t want to celebrate the holidays. Sometimes, the person who pushes love away is not necessarily a man, but maybe the woman herself.

What is the role of ritual? The sense of ritual is an important way to convey love and warmth, and is also an important key factor in establishing a good relationship model.

When Sister Fen said to her husband: On Women’s Day, I want to treat you to a movie? He opened his mouth and asked: What should I do with the child? I'm very busy and have no time! What's better than a Women's Day?

When he was pouring boiling water, he found that there was no hot water in the boiling water bottle. He couldn’t help complaining: You are at home doing nothing all day long, what qualifications do you have to celebrate Women’s Day...

At that moment, she felt a little sad and a little aggrieved. The man who once held her in his hands didn't know when he stopped caring for her and no longer cared about her feelings. The sight of him in front of her was like a piece of ice without temperature, which made her feel chilled.

She cried secretly, I am a woman, why am I not qualified to celebrate Women’s Day? After all, maybe he doesn't love her at all. Because he doesn't love, even her small requests have become a luxury for her; because he doesn't love, he is always busy and has no time to spend with her; because he doesn't love, he can't see her efforts. Less than her worth.

Lack of love is the root cause of men’s laziness and indifference towards women.

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Zhang Ailing once said: Love seems very romantic and innocent, but in the end the reality is cruel, because she cannot withstand the cooking of oil, salt, sauce and vinegar.

In reality, love is like an egg hitting a stone. The deeper a woman loves and the more passionate she loves, the easier it is for love to break. Marriage is like a cage, which makes Sister Fen feel powerless and wants to escape.

Sister Fen asked me, can’t I celebrate Women’s Day? She felt there was no point.

I said to her: This is a festival that belongs to women. Of course we must celebrate it. Not only must we celebrate this festival, but we must also celebrate it happily. Because you have to please yourself from now on. In marriage, if a woman doesn’t know how to please herself, then a man won’t put in the effort to please you.

Sister Fen suddenly cried. During these years of marriage, she felt that she had failed. Every day, she lives for her children and husband. She has never asked herself: Dear self, are you happy?

She hasn’t had an inner dialogue with herself for a long time.

So much so that she forgot how to love herself and how to please herself. She felt as if her soul was imprisoned.

She suddenly realized that she no longer had her own way of life and had not lived for herself for a long time. But the man who once said he wanted to support her now feels that she is not even qualified to celebrate Women's Day. How much I loved him once, now there are so many thorns that prick me back.

Sister Fen asked me, how to celebrate a meaningful Women’s Day? I told her: Get back to your original self.

Love is like a magic potion that makes women gradually lose themselves, just like boiling a frog in warm water, forgetting to struggle and trying to protect themselves.

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Only when a woman regains her original intention and herself, can love slowly return to her heart, and can a man begin to appreciate her again. Only when a woman loves herself can she be qualified to embrace the sincerity of a man.

Sister Fen made a list. This Women’s Day, she wants to find herself again. She had to pick up those things that she had given up for love one by one, and equip herself with gorgeous feathers and armor.

My best friend said that you will find out after Women’s Day whether a man loves you or not. My best friend is a woman who pays attention to the quality of life and the sense of ritual. Even after getting married, she still did not skip the rules of love. She said that when a man doesn't respect you and doesn't want to give you a sense of ceremony, love loses its meaning.

She recalled that on Women’s Day last year, when her workplace was on holiday, her husband secretly bought her two tickets to travel. He said: I took annual leave and just wanted to spend time with you.

Undoubtedly, friends around her are envious of her for spending Women's Day like a honeymoon.

A man who loves a woman deeply will fulfill her, making her gradually fuller and more charming. A man who does not love a woman will continue to consume her, causing her to gradually run out of energy.

Women, no matter how much you love a man, don’t forget to love yourself. On the long road of life, managing your own life is more important than managing love.

Women’s Day may be a very ordinary holiday for men, but a man who can give women romance, surprise and care on this day is the one who loves women from the bottom of his heart.

Women’s Day is a holiday for women. How you celebrate this holiday will determine how men will love you. Women, don't take yourself seriously when you're in love. If you love yourself deeply, men will pay attention to your feelings.

Woman, the way you love yourself deeply is a textbook example of a man loving you. Only if you are like a pearl, with light and warmth from your bones, a man will carefully hold you in his hands.

The world is full of dust and desolation. Don’t forget to say to yourself: Dear self, you have worked hard. The years are cold and people are cold, so don’t forget to love yourself.