What is the engagement custom in Longyan?

Generally, the six rituals of "receiving gifts, asking names, Najib, receiving gifts, inviting parties and welcoming relatives" are followed.

The talented man entrusted the matchmaker to the woman's house to be the matchmaker. If the woman agrees, the matchmaker and the elder of the man will take the unmarried youth to the woman's house for blind date-"seeing the sister". If both parties agree to talk about marriage, the man must give the woman a token (such as a gold ring). Commonly known as "over-exploitation".

A man and a woman are invited to exchange Geng posts, and then a fortune teller is asked to see if birthdates is compatible, commonly known as "marriage".

Najib's marriage is a good omen, that is, the matchmaker will arrange bride price and dowry, and the man will prepare gifts to get engaged to the woman's family, commonly known as "Xiaozha".

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An engagement is formally made on an auspicious day of the zodiac, commonly known as "big tie". In the old society, most marriages were bought and sold. According to a survey conducted by the county government in the 26th year of the Republic of China (1937), the amount paid was about 200 ~ 300 yuan. Many rural areas

Take the valley as the dowry, generally ranging from 30 to 50 stones. Add eggs, cakes, fish, meat, poultry, etc. A woman eats about 5 kilograms of fish every year. If the woman 16 years old, she needs 80 Jin of fish. The woman's family must prepare clothes for the bride.

Groom's ornaments, quilts, cabinets, tables, clothes, shoes and socks, etc. The amount of dowry depends on the woman's family. As the old saying goes, "the superior family loses money to marry a woman, the middle family spends money to marry a woman, and the inferior family earns money to marry a woman." Although this woman

The actual income is not much, but the bride price is still a heavy burden for the man.

Ask the man to choose the wedding day, prepare the gift and send it to the woman's house with a red card, commonly known as "send the day" to visit in person.

The day before the wedding, the man decorated with lanterns and placed a sedan chair in the hall. Please have a class called "sedan chair lift". On the wedding day, the groom wears red flowers, rides a sedan chair or rides a horse. The matchmaker led the "in-laws" with fish and other gifts, blowing and beating.

Come to the woman's house in a sedan chair to get married.

The bride's family set up a incense table in the central hall, and the older women combed her hair and washed her face and put on a crowned dress. The marriage certificate was written by the master or parents. After bidding farewell to her ancestors and brothers, the bride got into the sedan chair with the help of the bridesmaid. Gossip, scissors, mirrors and rulers are hung on the car door to ward off evil spirits.

Along the way, the bride must cry loudly, otherwise it is considered bad for her family. The woman must be married by her elder or brother, which is called "marrying with her husband". It is also called "sending the bride to the man's house with a sedan chair and dowry". When you get home, if you are unlucky, put the sedan chair in the big basket at the door and don't touch the ground.

When it is auspicious, the bridesmaid will hold an umbrella and help the bride wearing a red gauze to get started on the red carpet. Ancestor statues are hung in the hall, three sacrifices are listed and high-heat fireworks are set off.

The bride and groom worship the heavens and the earth, their ancestors, their parents, and make a toast in the bridal chamber. The groom distributed wedding candy to everyone. It's not rude for everyone to rush to play. Then preach in the lower hall and hold a wedding banquet to invite guests.

Guest, let's have a good time. Wudong and other towns also have the custom of mixing tofu with sugar water for the bride, which is called "water color". In Zhongshan and other places, if you drink a glass of wine, there will be onlookers grabbing red eggs.

On the second or third day of the wedding, the groom has a gift to see his in-laws, commonly known as "visiting". The bride's family hosted a banquet, invited relatives and friends to accompany her, and the groom took the lead. The next day, my parents-in-law and their relatives brought scissors, needles, drills and one or two old clothes of the bride, as well as pork and snacks.

In-laws visit their daughters, calling them "making a pilgrimage" and "seeing girls".

In the past, when men and women got married, there were many red tape. However, the poor peasants in the general mountain villages are unable to organize, so they have to simplify because of their ugliness and barely get married, without the trouble of the above six rituals.