Liang Lvzhu: Travel creates priceless memories for the whole family and accumulates happy savings.

If family members share the same interests, they will not part ways, and they will be more cohesive. Liang Lvzhu's family all love to travel. She feels that the destination of the trip is not the key, and the memories created by her family are the most priceless. "Even the children's future plans are discussed on the road. 」

Some people say that there is always a wise woman behind a successful and happy family. This sentence is no exaggeration for Liang Lvzhu, the wife of the chairman of Yao Ming Department Store. She is now the CEO of Yao Ming Parent-child Library and a best-selling author of travel and parent-child books. (Recommended reading: Take children to travel! Enjoy this sweet trouble)

In fact, Liang Lvzhu, who is highly educated and talented in the Department of Foreign Languages of National Taiwan University, hosted the first self-made travel program "What a Beautiful World" in Taiwan Province Province before marrying * *, and won the Golden Bell Award as the host; Married at the age of 26, faded out of the screen and became a full-time mother at home.

A stay-at-home mother is the best gift for children. Someone once asked her if she would like to contribute her youth to her family. "When I was a child, my mother took care of me personally. This is a gift for my life." If I had continued to work hard, my achievements might have been higher, but for her, it is very worthwhile to be a full-time mother and give her children correct values. Liang Lvzhu never regrets her decision.

Her most well-known "educational achievement" is that six years ago, her daughter was taller than a girl from the North Army. After graduation, she was admitted to seven top universities in the United States, including Harvard, Yale and Stanford, breaking the century-old record of a girl from the North Army. The following year, my son also successfully applied for the University of California, Berkeley.

Don't think that Liang Lvzhu is a tiger mother with a whip, forcing her children to learn. In fact, from primary school, junior high school, high school to university, Liang Lvzhu will discuss with children how to plan the future and help them explore themselves and find their goals. Therefore, children can not only learn, but also know what they want. Jun Gao, regarded as a "different kind" by his classmates, loved to listen to rock music in high school and founded the "Investment and Finance Club". She has been very thoughtful since she was a child. When she decided to go to college, she chose Stanford as her first choice, even though her elders tended to Harvard. After graduating from college, she worked for a while, and now she is traveling alone in Peru.

Good parent-child relationship, a pair of excellent children, curious outside. How did Liang Lvzhu do it? Have you ever set goals for your children since childhood? "I didn't particularly think about what the child would look like in the future," Liang Lvzhu said in surprise. "I'm just wondering what this child won't look like. She said that children can try new things, but don't delve into a certain skill. " I want them to learn music, but I don't train musicians. "It turned out that she practiced the piano very hard since she was a child and didn't want her children to make the same mistake again.

Although the goal of "bringing up Harvard children" has not been set, Liang Lvzhu still has his own educational philosophy. "Start small, be moderately elastic and think ahead." The motto 12 is the secret of her growth.

Parents are important imitators when children are young. Liang Lvzhu believes that parents should exert their influence and cultivate good habits before their children reach adulthood. Girls are in the fourth grade and boys are in the first grade.

"I am a very strict mother," Liang Lvzhu revealed. When my children were young, as long as the topic of the composition was "My mother", the first sentence was usually: Is my mother fierce? . However, she believes that if you don't want your children to become what they are now, you must make rules and give correct concepts when you are young. The smaller the rules are, the stricter they are. Once the rules are set, we must stick to them. After children have good habits, parents naturally won't nag.

As the children grow up and then slowly let go, she chooses to be a undertaker and provide rules of thumb. "I will tell my children what I think and analyze the pros and cons for them," said Liang Lvzhu. No one likes to be ordered. Parents must do their homework and convince them with reason before giving advice. "Children can put forward ideas. They want their parents to be reasonable. Similarly, they should listen to their parents' thoughts. Take my daughter as an example. When Gao Jun went to college, she wanted to travel to A with her classmates, but Liang Lvzhu and his wife thought A was unsafe and suggested that they choose B. "The travel expenses are all paid by their parents, and our suggestion is that children should really consider it." Later, Gao Zan listened to his parents' analysis and chose B.

Now Gao Zan is alone in Peru, and Liang Lvzhu revealed that she actually opposed it at first. "Of course I hope she goes to a safer place!" But my daughter inherited her adventurous personality and liked to travel to special places since she was a child. Later, the daughter put forward a perfect plan and did her homework. The couple learned to respect and chose to let go.

No amount of parenting theory can compare with a harmonious family atmosphere. Parents can trust and respect each other, which is the key to family happiness. Liang Luzhu emphasized that couples should have a * * * knowledge before communicating with their children. "I will discuss with my husband first and then discuss with my children. Once the direction is set, the husband will let her communicate with the children as a representative to avoid disputes between husband and wife on the implementation details.

But when couples communicate, it is inevitable that they will have different views. However, Liang Lvzhu and his wife never quarrel in front of their children, nor do they question the other half's parenting style in front of their children. Communicate privately when there are differences. She knows that parents have good feelings and children will feel safe. She believes that even if married, couples still need to date alone. "Sometimes we entrust our children to trusted relatives and friends and go out to play by ourselves. A good relationship between husband and wife is the foundation of family stability. She thinks that no amount of parenting rules are as important as a harmonious family atmosphere. (Recommended reading: If you can, you must take your children to travel and see the world. )

One of the secrets of maintaining a relationship between husband and wife is to share the same interests. "In this way, we won't do our own thing, and the family will be more cohesive," said Liang Lvzhu. Traveling is their favorite family activity. Unlike other wealthy families who like to buy jewelry and display paintings at home, Liang Lvzhu and his wife broke the imagination of ordinary people and insisted on taking a different road. The paintings at home are her masterpieces. "Our family does not invest in luxury goods, but invests in tourism! 」

"Travel makes people break away from the familiar environment and change their mood. Liang Lvzhu talked about the benefits of traveling, but if the economy allows, she thinks that traveling abroad will gain more, and foreign culture can broaden children's knowledge and stimulate new ideas. Parents can also observe their children's living habits and chat with their children while traveling. " The children's future plans are all discussed during the trip, "she said. In the past, family members would watch TV together, but modern children insist on 3C. Even at home, they mostly stay in their own rooms, with little family interaction. Many parents think that "all my children are at home, very good", "but do you really know children? "Liang Lvzhu questioned whether you don't know what children like online.

Therefore, every summer vacation, Liang Lvzhu's family will definitely travel abroad. Their whereabouts are all over the world, including Greece, Austria, Palau and South Africa, and Japan is the most visited place. Her most impressive family trip was when her daughter was in the sixth grade, and the whole family went to Japan for 30 days. A family of four started from Hokkaido and took the train all the way to Kobe. "I still remember riding a bike in Hokkaido. I was really happy at the time! " Liang Lvzhu has an exciting memory. In 30 days, four people were tied together without TV and computer, but they had a lot of time to chat and discuss what to eat and where to go next. Going out is better than staying at home. She will also teach children to take care of their own clothes and luggage and learn to take care of themselves.

Because the first experience was so wonderful, three years later, the whole family decided to relive the old dream and go to Japan for another 30 days. "But this time I learned my lesson and chose an electric bicycle!" Liang Lvzhu said proudly, "I broke my leg the first time I rode a horse. Even if they laughed at me, I didn't care. 」

Wherever you go, the memories created by your family are always priceless. Maybe not everyone can travel around like her, but she believes that there are many surprises in life that she can create. "If you take a new road to send your children to school, you will have a different experience. Liang Lvzhu found the most suitable way to unite their feelings, and everyone was very happy in the process.

From Liang Lvzhu, we may find it difficult and not difficult to build a happy family. She said earnestly that life sometimes gets too much and can't get it. And when you don't plan for yourself and pay for others, you will eventually give back to yourself. "God gave me two good children," Liang Lvzhu said gratefully.

How to plan a trip abroad with children? As soon as the winter and summer vacations arrive, many parents begin to plan their families to go abroad. Is there anything to consider when taking children abroad? Liang Lvzhu suggested that it is best to wait until the child 10 years old before planning to go abroad. Children who are too young have insufficient physical and emotional stability. "If they cry on the plane, their parents will be unhappy," she added. "It is very troublesome for children to get sick overseas. 」

In addition, Liang Luzhu also stressed that safety should be taken into account and children should not be taken to places with too much risk. She said that when her daughter was in junior high school, she really wanted to go to India, but the environment was too chaotic and she had to give up.

Almost traveling around the world, what is her first choice for parent-child travel? "Japan! Liang Lvzhu answered without saying anything, because public transportation in Japan is popular, and it is quite convenient to take the railway and the bus. And Japan is very safe, so children don't have to worry even if they run in the street.

She has traveled more than 100 times, and recently published a book "Reading Extreme", which introduced 50 selected famous hotels, among which Liang Lvzhu recommended several hotels suitable for parent-child travel:

1. Akazawa Guest House: Located in Izu Plateau, a tourist attraction in Shizuoka Prefecture, it is very suitable for parents and children to visit, because there are many small museums there, such as teddy bear museum and Renxing Art Museum. Coupled with the vast hinterland of the museum, staying in a hotel is quite comfortable. 2. Prince Villa of Karuizawa: Located in the tourist resort of Karuizawa, Prince Villa has a vast hinterland where parents and children can walk and play. In addition, there are department stores and shops where you can go shopping. Leisure facilities such as ski resorts and golf courses are provided. 3. Tang Yuzhi: This is a hotel located in Yubuyuan, a small town. You can plan to play downtown during the day. The hotel has lovely and warm style and delicious food, which is deeply loved by many female customers. 4. Wu Shuang 'an Loquat, Wu Naili and Yaxu Garden: All three homestays have homesickness and are very suitable for children living in cities. Here you can experience the furnishings and environment that you can't usually see. (Recommended reading: How about taking children abroad to play? Family members of Liang Lvzhu: Gao Zhijia (chairman of department store), Liang Lvzhu (CEO of Yao Ming Parent-child Library), daughter Gao Zan (25 years old) and son Gao Weiting (24 years old) Family story: She has a pair of excellent children. Six years ago, my daughter was admitted to seven top universities in the United States, breaking the century-old record of North China Girls' School. My son also successfully applied to the University of California, Berkeley. I have a lot of experience in raising children. The parent-child relationship is mutual trust and respect. Husband and wife have a good relationship, and traveling together is a family's favorite activity. Happiness mentality: Family members with the same interests will have cohesion. My family loves to travel, and we have taken our children abroad since childhood. During the trip, we can get to know each other and feel the different faces of the world together.

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