Papi sauce on life sequencing: put yourself first and be wise.

The recent explosion of papi sauce stems from her views on the order of life in the variety show "My Daughter" a few days ago.

In that program, Junyan Jiao, the best friend of papi sauce, was urged to get married by her father. In the eyes of Jiao's father, at what stage of life, what kind of road should he take. A woman's marriage and having children is a necessary stage in her life.

Besides, my daughter Junyan Jiao is 32 years old, which really counts as a late marriage in her own eyes.

But obviously, independent Junyan Jiao doesn't want the traditional marriage life at all.

When the conversation between father and daughter came to a dead end, the program immediately threw out a topic: Can you accept blind date?

Anxious Jiao Dad answered "very willing" in a second, and at the same time begged the teachers in the program group to introduce Junyan Jiao if there is a suitable person.

After that, Junyan Jiao, who was about to collapse, went to talk with her best friend papi sauce.

The same independent papi sauce said: "Never mind what the outside world says about you as an" older woman ",you can't get married for the sake of getting married, and don't go to the hospital in a hurry. Parents sometimes go to the hospital in a hurry." ?

At the same time, I shared my ranking of important relationships in life:

myself > partner > children > parents

When this statement came out, netizens exploded, and all kinds of comments on the ranking of papi sauce's life blew up the circle of friends.

Although many people can't accept the idea of papi sauce, I think she is too wise. You should know that among all relationships, only the relationship between yourself and yourself is the closest, and only by living yourself well is the greatest reward for everyone.

Just last week, my colleague, Sister Wang, who sat next to me suddenly had an accident.

Just after lunch, I saw the security guard coming into the office downstairs and said, "Who will go down and have a look? One of your colleagues fell downstairs and can't move."

I was the only one in the office at that time, and the security guard and I immediately went down.

just getting out of the elevator gave me a fright. I saw Sister Wang sitting in a chair, holding her left leg in one hand and crying.

It turned out that the marble floor was slippery because of the heavy rain. At the elevator entrance, Sister Wang accidentally fell to the ground. At first, she thought it was nothing, but this fall found that she could not move.

Sister Wang was crying in pain. I asked the security guard to call an ambulance at once. I felt a little hung up.

At that time, everyone thought it was just a fall, and at most it was a soft tissue contusion. I have been comforting Sister Wang in the ambulance accompanying me to the hospital. Nothing will happen.

But when I got to the hospital and took CT and X-rays, the doctor told me on the spot that the fall was too heavy, and all the bones in the left hip joint were broken, which required immediate surgery.

I was crying when I heard it. I told the doctor that Sister Wang was still breastfeeding! The baby is still young, what should I do with this child undergoing surgery?

At that time, the doctor told me: "Now that I am the first, I can't take care of myself. How can I take care of others?"

I told Sister Wang's husband to come immediately, and comforted Sister Wang. It was just a minor operation, and it will be all right soon.

Sister Wang cried at that time. I asked her if she was worried that the baby would be left unattended. Sister Wang told me that she was actually worried about herself. Her mother was diagnosed with breast cancer last year and is currently undergoing chemotherapy. Before giving birth, she and her father took turns to take care of it. After giving birth, her father could only take care of it alone.

The child is still young, so when the time comes, the mother-in-law will take care of the child, and she will definitely not be able to take care of her. My father-in-law just had a sudden syncope years ago and almost passed. Now he still needs to recuperate. My husband is very busy at work. What can I do? I can only comfort her and try to spend time with her every day.

Fortunately, my husband came here later and invited a nursing aunt, which temporarily solved the urgent need. However, Sister Wang's husband had to take time off from work to take care of her, her mother-in-law had to take care of her children around the clock, her father-in-law had to come to the hospital to send soup to her daughter-in-law, and Sister Wang's father had to take time to take care of her, so almost all the family got in.

Sister Wang's accident was really unfortunate, but in fact, I concluded that she also had a great responsibility. In rainy days, she wore a pair of leather shoes with no anti-slip lines at the bottom, and she was too careless to walk. The most important thing was that she didn't take calcium supplements after childbirth. You should know that calcium loss during postpartum and lactation will be very serious.

When I went to the hospital to see Sister Wang the next day, she told me that I hadn't had such a comfortable sleep for a long time. Sister Wang has never had a life of her own since the day the child was born.

When you don't put yourself first, God will naturally arrange something to remind you that it's time to love yourself. A person who can't even take care of himself is really incapable of taking care of others, let alone putting children first and parents first.

in my opinion, putting yourself first is really unselfish, but it is a responsibility to your family. Having a good life by yourself, less trouble to others and less worry to parents is the best reward for your family.

Last year, I met Sister Jing by chance, a second-born nanny, a woman who was extremely kind to herself.

because Jing Jie likes traveling, her circle of friends often takes some beautiful photos of traveling. At first, I thought Jingjie was single, or at least she had no children. Otherwise, how could she have time to travel abroad often?

But once I saw the photo of her mother and son, I was shocked. She is not only a precious mother, but also two children.

I asked Sister Jing why she didn't take care of the children at home, but chose to travel around the world alone.

Sister Jing told me that in fact, she will take care of the children at home most of the time. After all, two children need to spend a lot of energy, but they will definitely plan three or five trips for themselves in a year.

During the trip, she will release all trivial and negative emotions in her daily life. Every time she comes back from the trip, the two babies and her husband will see a very happy and happy mother.

Sister Jing said, "In fact, children don't need a mother who sticks to them every day, which is different from a nanny. What children really need is a happy mother, a mother with positive energy, and a mother with vision and hierarchy. "

Sister Jing told me that I remember a school activity. When her son introduced his mother to his classmates, he proudly said that his mother had been to 16 countries, often brought him many interesting gifts, and could drive a car, and he was always very happy.

In fact, many people think that children, lovers and parents should be put first, which is not correct. We are all born to be loved and cared for. Therefore, when you pour all your love into others, but you don't get the same return, you will have negative emotions such as complaints, anger, depression, etc. This kind of emotion hurts people and hurts themselves. We will see that the family relationship of those women who have given is getting worse and worse.

When you turn your focus into yourself and make yourself the focus of your life, your inner love will happen automatically, and it will be more and more, so that it will affect your family, friends and colleagues around you. They will be infected by your love and the whole situation will be opened.

Just like this quiet sister in my circle of friends, she is willing to let go of her five-month-old second daughter and go to Greece for a tour with her best friend. She will also let her husband take her two children back to her hometown before the Spring Festival and go to the farmhouse for two days, just to keep her heart happy and full of vitality forever.

when you can put yourself first and love yourself, the kind of light you give off will illuminate people around you and make them feel your positive energy. If you love yourself, your family will actually get more love.

In Desperate Housewives, Bree is a typical perfect housewife, who should get 1 points in housework and cooking. Although she tried her best to serve everyone in the family, her husband, son and daughter were ungrateful.

Bree is an enviable woman in the eyes of her neighbors. She has two beautiful twins and her husband's career is respected. But Bree, who paid too much, didn't get the same reward. In her husband's words, her efforts even made her family feel artificial and disgusting.

not only is the relationship between husband and wife getting colder every day, but they also give Bree some powerful drugs for her glamorous life. Her husband was caught in public during a whoring, and Bree was humiliated in the eyes of her neighbors. Her son was rebellious and got into trouble, which annoyed her.

The seemingly perfect housewife is actually desperate inside.

Bree once thought that loving oneself was a selfish act. She had to love her family more than herself, and she had to think about her family everywhere, and finally herself.

Bree finally found out that her husband and children, whom she tried to please, had no room to breathe and wanted to escape from her control. Her husband had a car accident but didn't want to wake up and died unexpectedly; The daughter deliberately wants to marry a man as old as her father, and the son comes out and lives with the same sex.

She kept giving, and it was not until she was exhausted that Bree felt terrible pain. It turns out how important it is to love yourself.

after her husband died, Bree began to let go of her children's lives completely, and she wanted to find her exquisite self again. She began to wear beautiful skirts; Opened a private kitchen and customized desserts for friends around; Start dating excellent men and find the next love.

When Bree began to learn to please herself, serving no one but herself, her life changed dramatically.

My son began to forgive her and agreed to come back and live with her, although she refused at first. The daughter also decided to return to her side; Her private kitchen became famous, and the daily orders were full, and the TV station came to interview her, and she became a celebrity overnight; Later, she also found a like-minded partner, an excellent diplomat, and started another life.

Many people live for others for half their lives. These people are the most important people. It is not until they have experienced all the pains that they find that the one they think is the least important is the most important, really very important.

Chaplin said: "When I really began to love myself, I realized that all the pain and emotional torture just reminded me to live and not to go against my heart."

On the issue of life sequencing, I think papi sauce is very wise and even transparent. She told some truths, but it was misunderstood by some people.

children, husbands and parents are really important, but when they can't take charge of their own lives, they really don't have the strength to manage other people's lives.

life affects life. Only when you can live your life well can you help more people. Learn to love yourself, take care of yourself, make yourself more powerful, and your life will get more joy.