What does "honey of A, arsenic of B" mean?

Beautiful, suitable for yourself, may be fatal to others. It means that the same thing means different things to different people! ?

It means that the same thing means different things to different people! ?

But although people are classified, it is amazing that the same person has become two completely different categories in the eyes of different people. ?

For example, some things are a happy event for A, but a bolt from the blue for B. For example, honey is a good thing for A, but it is poison for diabetics. ?

Life varies from person to person. What you think is good, others may not agree. If you want to maintain a relationship, you must first learn to put yourself in others' shoes.

There are many possible reasons, but some people become friends at first because of their three views and preferences, but eventually they go away.

Recently, I found that sometimes the way we communicate and speak is also one of the reasons why people are drifting away from each other.

If you find that no one listens to what you say and your friends are getting fewer and fewer, it's probably because you made a mistake and didn't know it.

Judge other people's lives at will

I have several high school classmates who have kept in touch for many years after graduation because of their congenial temperament. But since Xiao Yuan got married, others have gradually avoided her.

Just because Xiao Yuan began to use the signs of "for you" and "I hope you are happy" after marriage, he constantly urged others to find someone to marry.

In Xiao Yuan's view, it seems that the whole life is meaningful only if you get married. She can't understand that others work hard and study hard.

Many people always seem to be used to defining happiness in their own eyes to others, so they think others are unhappy.

However, everyone has their own definition of lifestyle. You may not understand the happiness of others at all, and the happiness in your eyes may be worthless to the other party.

When you judge others with your own eyes, you have broken the bottom line of interpersonal communication.

Negative, complaining.

That's what negative people do.

You said the weather was fine, and he said the sun was out. You say fried chicken is delicious, but he says high calories make you fat.

In fact, he is right, but he always sees only the bad side of things. Negative people, seeing everything is not beautiful, are always full of pessimism, and even use this kind of emotional contagion to treat you.

In fact, it is not difficult to communicate with others. The key is to know how to put yourself in others' shoes. After a period of time, you can naturally avoid the wrong way of communication.

The same is true of "I save myself three times a day".

This allusion comes from Li Longji's praise of Yang Yuhuan in Tang Xuanzong.

In the autumn of the Kaiyuan period of the Tang Dynasty, thousands of Bai Lianhua actually bloomed in the Yutai Pool of the Royal Garden. Emperor Xuanzong of the Tang Dynasty invited his concubines and nobles to hold a banquet to enjoy flowers. Bai Lianhua in the pool, all white and delicate, pure and fragrant, just like spotless Ling Boxian, all the concubines and nobles are refreshed and amazed. However, Xuanzong pointed to the imperial concubine Yang Yuhuan around him and said, "You all praise the beauty of the flowers in the pool, but who around us can know the wonder of this flower?"

Yang Yuhuan ranks first among the four beauties. She is Princess Shou and a favorite of Emperor Xuanzong of the Tang Dynasty. It must be as beautiful as a famous flower. Besides, she is proficient in poetry. She once wrote Liangzhou, which was a sensation. "All Tang Poems" also includes a poem written by her for the ladies around her: "The sleeves are fragrant, and the red fragrance lingers in autumn smoke. At the beginning of the light cloud ridge, the tender willow pool blows water. " Besides, she is good at singing and dancing. In addition to the well-known colorful feathers and dances, she is also proficient in temperament and is good at pipa, Qing and other musical instruments.

Tang Xuanzong himself was the "founder of Liyuan" and made outstanding achievements in this respect. The representative work "Colorful Feather" has a huge lineup and many musicians. Only maids who sing with music need ten people to sing at the same time. It is divided into three parts, each with six songs. It is called "six random preface", "six middle preface" and "six final preface".

"Colorful Feather" not only has a wide variety of musical instruments, but also the beat is scattered first, then slowed down and then fast, which has extremely high requirements for dancers. However, Yang Yuhuan can understand the artistic conception of the song as soon as he listens, and he can accompany this magnificent song with perfect dance at will. This not only made her proud, but also made Xuanzong ecstatic and accompanied her personally, leading her to become the first confidant in life.

Yang Guifei is naive and indulgent, and has no great political ambitions. She is beautiful and young, and has a certain talent. She likes dancing with Emperor Xuanzong of the Tang Dynasty. She is like-minded and considerate. However, A's honey is B's arsenic. She can understand Xuanzong language, but she can't understand people's livelihood. Her nobles cling to the dragon and run amok, her "adopted son" deceives his superiors and deludes his subordinates to launch a coup, and her lover is addicted to debauchery and disregards state affairs. In the end, there was chaos in the world, an Shi rebellion, "Mawei Shipo mutiny", people reviled, courtiers rebelled and the body guard attacked.

Therefore, this Jieyu flower finally landed in Maweipo, leaving a lonely legend of "Too shang huang" and "On the seventh day of July, in the Palace of Eternal Life".

From then on, the Tang Empire declined from prosperity, and the whole feudal civilization of China for more than 1000 years began to decline.