Why can’t you help but want to post on Moments?

Xiaoxia is a primary school student. She said that in addition to watching her study every day, her mother also has a hobby of posting on Moments. The following are some short stories that happened between Xiaoxia and her mother.

After dinner the day before yesterday, my mother said to Xiaoxia: I haven’t practiced guitar for a long time, let’s practice it. So, Xiaoxia took out her guitar and wanted her mother to be the audience, but her mother said: You practice first while I look for my phone. After playing a few songs, my mother finally found her cell phone: Wait a minute, I will take a picture of you. After taking one picture, she felt dissatisfied: the expression was not good, so she took another picture.

Xiaoxia helplessly put on various expressions, and finally took a photo that satisfied her mother. Then my mother immediately sent the photo to WeChat Moments with the text: Artistic young man practicing guitar. Then I happily read the comments and likes, and patiently reply to them one by one.

Yesterday, Xiaoxia volunteered and said to her mother: Mom, let me help you cook. Mom was very happy to hear this. When she accidentally cut her hand, her mother not only did not worry, but also took pictures carefully with her mobile phone.

When the food was ready, Xiaoxia couldn’t wait to pick up the chopsticks, but her mother stopped her: Wait a minute! Let me take some photos first! As he said that, he happily took out his mobile phone and started taking pictures of the dishes. After taking the photo and beautifying it, I posted it to Moments with satisfaction.

Today, Xiaoxia won the first prize in the composition competition. As soon as I got home, I told my mother the good news. My daughter is awesome! Mom said happily, and then rummaged through her schoolbag. Mom, what are you looking for? What about the certificate? Let mom take a photo!

It can be seen that Xiaoxia’s mother really loves to post on WeChat Moments, and the content she posts is all about Xiaoxia. Her little achievements will become reasons for her mother to be embarrassed in WeChat Moments.

What’s the psychology of always posting on Moments?

After reading this story, you may think that there are people like this in the circle of friends. Like Xiaoxia’s mother, they are immersed in posting in the circle of friends every day and can’t help themselves. Or maybe you are that person. So, why do some people like to post on Moments so much?

(1) The need for emotional communication

The reason why people are not alone in life is because there are people to share joy and distress with. This is a kind of emotional communication and a need. People in the past liked to drop by friends' houses to chat about the latest happenings: What I ate today was quite delicious; I went to the market yesterday and bought a piece of clothing, do you think it tastes good?

As we grow up, we may have changed cities or lifestyles, and we no longer have the leisure time of the past. The limitations of time and space prevent us from sharing our emotions as quickly as we did in the past, and the invention of Moments can help us quickly gather friends together to share our emotions. Therefore, Moments is a tool for you to share, tell, and express yourself.

I recently accidentally contacted a classmate whom I haven’t seen for many years, and I sighed that I hadn’t seen him for many years! When, she said calmly: Huh? I don’t think it’s been too long. I often look at your circle of friends and it feels like we’ve been here together in the past few years.

(2) The stage of self-expression

Sociologist Goffman believes that life is a drama, society is a big stage, and social members, as performers on this stage, They all desire to create an acceptable image in front of the audience.

The circle of friends is also such a stage. We are the actors, showing ourselves in an all-round way by sharing our photos, daily life, opinions and emotions, and our friends are the audience. Of course, people will also improve themselves by recording themselves, hoping to shape themselves into a perfect image and display it so that they can successfully sell it to their friends.

(3) Obtain a sense of recognition

William James said: The desire to be recognized and appreciated by others is the deepest buried nature of human beings. People often find their own value in praise and attention, and Moments greatly satisfies people's desire for attention.

Imagine if you share and show yourself without getting any feedback (no one views, likes, or comments), it is like performing on stage, but the audience is silent and there is no applause. and response, would you still want to perform? On the contrary, when you see a friend give you a like, you will feel that he recognizes you and will have a strong sense of presence. You may even feel important because of your friend's attention.

A survey shows that people can gain some sense of presence through friends’ likes and comments. Therefore, the like and comment functions are what ultimately drive people to continue posting on Moments.

Moments reveal what kind of person you are

Understanding the psychology behind posting in Moments, you can analyze a person through the content of Moments.

So, how to analyze a person’s kind of person through his circle of friends?

People who appreciate themselves: Most people who like to post on Moments belong to this category, posting selfies, food, beautiful scenery, work, happiness, or even children, good luck, etc. 樗Bing Wan Mu Jiao pour? About trench? Thumb 箮∈ consider Qiang hook falcon base U food and huge swelling halo Yilang Tu mirage Guangdong Dan? Tina title? About He choke Mei Mou vomit Dai choke Da Falcon chu?绻?Xian People who enjoy helping others: Most of the content shared by these people in their friend circles has nothing to do with the individual, but only knowledge and skills. , social events and current news, etc. When they see a message and find it useful, they can’t wait to share it with their relatives and friends. My father is such a person. He often shares content such as anti-car theft tips, healthy living tips, and medical insurance adjustments. Sometimes he is worried that others will not see it, so he simply sends it to his friends one by one. Therefore, I often sigh: I have a warm-hearted and good father!

People who seek attention: After posting in Moments, they hold their mobile phones and refresh constantly to see if anyone has left a message or liked it. Such people hope that they are important in the hearts of others. In fact, this is a problem. This is a basic psychological need, but paying too much attention to interactions on the mobile phone may mean that the person's emotional needs for communication and attention in real life are not fully satisfied.

Of course, there are many types of people. For example, some people will share something about retweeting to bring good luck, and if they don’t repost it, they will kill the whole family. I can already smell your strong superstition through the screen; some people will post something to ask for likes and give gifts, which can only mean that you are Have you ever seen a person who has no money and is very free and works overtime until midnight asking for compliments?

So, if you want to get to know a person quickly, go check out his Moments! There are so many questions that can be found in the circle of friends: you may find that he often travels during holidays, goes out for runs on weekends, what he likes to eat, whether he looks good or not, his views and attitudes towards one thing, whether he is single, and whether you still have a chance. . You can even judge his interests, qualities and values, and whether you can make friends with him.

While you are observing these, others are also observing you silently. Every post you send out unknowingly shows your image and exposes your level. Therefore, you must also carefully manage your circle of friends and show yourself better in order to attract friends with the same magnetic field.

This is the correct way to open a circle of friends

Some people often say: Look, he often posts this and that, always showing off, and whatever he shows off means he is missing something. I don’t know if he is showing off, but when you think others are showing off, it is already destined to be what you are missing.

Shaping itself is a kind of sharing. People feel that their circle of friends are all their friends, so they are willing to share what they think is beautiful with everyone. This is a kind of transmission of pleasure, which is different from showing off. No need to over-interpret.

For those who watch, your evaluation often carries a kind of psychological projection. For example, when people without money see others traveling abroad, they think it is showing off. In fact, it is caused by their own inner shortcomings. It has nothing to do with the person posting it. If you had it too, you would feel like he was just sharing life.

So, instead of always complaining about how annoying it is for others to share their Moments every day, it is better to think about how to use your own Moments correctly.

Moments is actually very practical. Through Moments, you can quickly get a lot of information about today’s times——

Today’s weather forecast: Weather forecasts are sometimes not as accurate as Moments, especially in extreme weather like snow. Friends on the screen are lining up to tell you to wear thicker clothes when it snows!

Live traffic report: Where is the traffic jam? Where did the accident happen? What time is the subway delayed, where are the road closures, etc. Moments are faster than traffic broadcasts. It is so important to have a friend who is unlucky and loves to post on Moments!

Daily guide: Is XX movie good? Is the new mobile phone easy to use? ***Which bicycle rental company is the best? Which restaurant is delicious? Where are the flowers blooming?

Hmm! It turns out that this is the correct way to open a circle of friends!