Is it really unfilial to marry far away?

I think so.

In the past two days, a reader asked me very tangledly, is it okay to marry far away? Some people say that they are most afraid of quarrels and have to bear all the grievances by themselves. They hide and cry with tears in their eyes. The phone calls can only report good news but not bad news. Of course, parents also report good news but not bad news. Some people say that a girl who marries far away is the lost child of her parents. Maybe one day, her parents will not be able to see her for the last time before they leave. Some people say that if you marry love far away, you will never be able to return to your hometown if your love is gone. A foreign country is no longer home.

Some people say that they have experienced the pain of marrying far away, so in this life, no matter what method they use, they will prevent their daughters from marrying far away. In fact, the scary thing is not marrying far away, but that you married the wrong person in the first place.

I met a girl named Laura, who was 1,400 kilometers away from home and had been married for 5 years. I asked her, what do you think is the best love? She thought for a long time and said with a smile, after many years, you still have a little girl in your heart, but your husband did not laugh at you for being naive. Instead, he let the little boy in his heart play with you all afternoon. I asked her, do you regret marrying far away?

She said that a girl who was bullied when she married far away would also be bullied when she married close by. Is it possible to ask her mother-in-law’s family to fight her back? So do you still want to live your life? A girl who has lost her independence in love will find it difficult to be happy no matter who she marries. One day, my best friend said that she was a bit unfilial to marry far away and could not go back home more than once a year. In fact, the growing distance between us and our parents did not start from the day we married. You see, when we went to college, there were only winter and summer in our hometown, no spring and autumn.

Sometimes, it’s not that you don’t want to go home, but that you can’t bear the money for the plane ticket. When I was in school, my mother was most afraid of me calling and asking for money. Now when I call my mother, she is extremely happy every time. Either I send her clothes or delicious food, or I send her clothes or delicious food. Just give them living expenses during the holidays. Because my mother knows that I am living a good life, even from a distance. It was precisely the way I lived my life that later broadened my parents' world.

My dad became accustomed to watching the weather forecast in my city. They would come to my city to stay for a while as a tourist. They also tried to fly and see the underwater world because of me. Eat food in the revolving restaurant. In fact, they are just honest farmers who may never leave the village where they live for the rest of their lives. They chose to let me go to college. I think I should have the confidence to show them how beautiful the outside world is.

The day my husband married me, he said something to me. He said that from now on, our parents are not our retreat, we are each other's retreat. I didn't understand what retreat meant before. One day, my mother-in-law came to our house and got into a little mood. My husband asked me, "Do you feel uncomfortable or wronged, but she is my mother, please wait." After a long time, my husband came back and said with a smile, you know, my mother is stubborn and refuses to admit her mistakes, so she had to cook your favorite braised fish.

When my mother-in-law left my house, she was wearing the new coat I bought for her. She smiled like a flower. She held my hand and said, I still kiss my daughter. My husband said aggrievedly, Mom, I gave you money! In fact, she will know if you are nice to someone, but everyone treats someone differently. Once you understand the other person's temper, you will find that everyone is very cute.