What is difficult is not the thing itself, but the resentment that makes it difficult.

In many things, it is not the thing itself that is difficult, but the resentment that makes things difficult.

The moment I lost my mobile phone, I felt very wronged. A voice in my heart said: Is there something wrong with my state, should I be aware of it?

As soon as the weather is hot, my body begins to feel uncomfortable again, and my irritability increases, making it difficult to sleep. When sleep is not good, anxiety becomes more and more obvious, and so on. The instability of one's own energy state also brings the instability of working and living environment. I didn't want to clean up at home for many days, and the bookshelf began to accumulate dust. I don't want to cook at home. Lu Youhui and Li Lei want to do a lot of things in Beijing Station, but I don't want to move. I started to lose my temper with my boyfriend on the phone, blaming him for not being around. Team partners have also left the team. I especially wanted to support everyone, but at that time, I found that there was nothing I could do.

A voice in my heart keeps asking myself, what's wrong with you? You have studied for nothing for so many years. I also teach nonviolent communication courses so that everyone can discover their own beauty. Where is the beauty of your irritability? What are your needs? I also know that when I am upset, I should sit quietly and roll up my legs to check my breathing. It is difficult to roll up my legs. When I sat down to breathe, I saw two wolves fighting constantly. I didn't win or lose, I just kept fighting. ........

In everyone's heart, there are two wolves, one is warm, peaceful and peaceful; The other is upset, complaining and accusing. I know what I want is peace and tranquility. As long as I realize my irritability, I especially want to overcome it. I want to copy scriptures, practice breathing, and practice yoga ... The more I want to overcome it, the more I will cycle endlessly in this irritability. It seems that kind of irritability is not allowed by yourself. I don't care about nonviolent communication, breathing, scripture copying, meditation, insurance, or clubs at this time, and don't come to me. I'm just a mortal, especially ordinary.

Listen, God loves you very much. Since you don't want to care or do anything, go find a thief and steal your mobile phone. Less than five minutes after going out, the mobile phone was gone. I won't tell everyone where I am, no one can find me, and the freedom I want is obtained. Three days later, I bought a new mobile phone. What I want is inner freedom and peace. I am responsible for myself, and I am responsible for this fidgety self, instead of solving my problems by losing my mobile phone.

After studying nonviolent communication for two years, I kept learning, kept going back to the classroom to feel and adjust myself, and gradually found that I had learned a lot, especially breathing. When I am upset, when my mood is high, when others accuse me of not knowing how to deal with it, when I can't sleep, all I can do is feel my long breath, feel the slight bulge and contraction of my lower abdomen, and sit down, as if I had the supreme instrument in my heart. No matter who tells me anything, I want to be myself and feel the breath.

In the workshop of breathing tuning, I asked Sister Xuan why she didn't have a micro class first. I forgot Sister Xuan's answer, but I had the answer in my heart, "If there is no physical evidence, a truth can be said to be a lie to you", and the part we feel physically needs that field and energy, and needs partners in the same industry to help us find the physical answer. "Tao", the body knows, with awareness, there is action, and knowledge and action are one.

I am also asking myself, why should I learn nonviolent communication after studying for so long? In the past two years, the changes brought by this course have been personally felt by myself and my friends around me. The power of peace and warmth brings the smooth work and harmonious relationship. The more you practice yourself, the more you discover. This is a lifelong learning. The deeper you learn, the more subtle you learn.

"People's hearts are in danger, but their hearts are weak; Only the best, let it be stunned. " Participate in 14 workshop, bring more than 30 sharing sessions, and really begin to understand the change from "skill" to "mental method". These two days, I began to prepare for the workshop on May 28-30, and when I saw the article "Non-violent communication, why should I go to the intermediate level" again, I gradually understood the deep meaning behind it. Only by gaining subtle understanding can we make better use of nonviolent communication to solve problems in our lives.

Now looking back on these things during this time, I began to pay more and more attention to my intention, which was a matter of losing my mobile phone. Why should I record it in such detail? The more detailed the record, the more you can see your changes and inner strength during this period.

May is full, and something will happen every weekend.

On May 6-7, a group of Li Lei Xi 'an weekend experience camp will go to Xi 'an from different places to wholeheartedly prepare for the experience of more than 20 players in Xi 'an.

May 13- 14, the primary course of nonviolent communication, I want more people to know their emotions, how to open their hearts and establish real trust and intimacy between themselves and other forms of relationships;

On May 20th-2nd1,Li Lei, as the general manager of the project for the first time, did something for this changed charity, and discussed and prepared for the wonderful experience of 50-60 people.

May 28-30, intermediate class of nonviolent communication, intermediate class of Beijing Luyou Club in the first half of the year, how to make everyone practice, share and support each other better after the course, it is easy to gain in class, and it takes time to apply it after class, which requires constant cognition and learning.

At the end, my heart was full of strength, and the anxiety caused by things was no longer peaceful and full of strength. I deeply realized that "it is not the thing itself that is difficult, but resentment that makes it difficult."

Finally, in addition to recommending non-violent communication, I especially want to recommend a girl's official WeChat account "Guishu Xiao Yuan". The warm words of this post-90 s girl make people like it, that's all.

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