Discover the natural temperament of children through reading-1

I finished reading the book Discovering Children's Natural Temperament in four mornings.

First of all, look at the cover of this book with reading psychology.

Words:

What is this? "discover the natural temperament of children"

Why? Because "every unique life needs a unique upbringing." What parents need to do is "help their children to be the best themselves!"

What do we do? "Uncover the talent code and teach students in accordance with their aptitude". Every child is born with his own unique talent code, that is, "individual differentiation". We should find out and adopt different educational guidance methods according to different children's innate and different gifted passwords. This is similar to our medical "individualized treatment".

Color: The book revolves around children of different countries, sexes, skin colors (races) and hair colors. From the appearance, every child is smiling, and it doesn't look much different, because their innate talents are different, which leads to their different personalities and temperament. The background color of the book is pure white, which symbolizes that the child is like a blank sheet of paper when he is born, while the colorful skin color, hair color and clothing represent the changeable temperament and personality of the child during his growth.

Situation: Every child has a unique talent password from birth. We should use love to discover their passwords through continuous learning, and adopt the methods that are most suitable for him, most acceptable to him and most stimulating his potential to accompany her, guide him and inspire him to progress and grow, so that every child can enjoy the natural nature of live high and enjoy the unique brilliance of live high! This is something worthy of every parent's heart.

Next, read the contents of this book by reading the mind.

This book is divided into three chapters. 1 chapter generally talks about "what is it", that is, what is temperament, and also answers the question of "why". Because although temperament belongs to nature and is greatly influenced by heredity, it does not mean that nurture is not important. The influence of parents and acquired environment is also very important to help children adjust their natural temperament. The interaction between innate temperament and acquired environment forms a person's character. A person's personality will not take shape until he is about 20 years old, so children still have room for adjustment before puberty. To achieve this goal, we must first understand him, accept him, and then guide him in a way suitable for him, so as to have an effect.

The second chapter describes the dimensions of nine temperaments in detail. Through nine tests, let's preliminarily determine which temperaments children and parents belong to, and see if the temperaments of parents and children are the same, similar or opposite. And we have made some conceptual descriptions of these nine temperaments respectively, which makes us deeply realize that all temperaments are not good or bad, that is to say, there is no good or bad temperament, and the key to determining good or bad is whether a child's temperament can be in harmony with its environment.

Chapter 3 mainly answers "What to do". Generally speaking, understanding children and their own temperament is conducive to better understanding children and themselves. When the child's performance is different from our expectations, we can understand the root cause behind it, not because the child wants to confront us. Knowing this, we can have some concrete methods and measures to guide children to make the right choice and develop in the right direction. This is the so-called "teaching students according to their aptitude".

Conceptually speaking, temperament is everyone's own behavior style and temperament when interacting with the external environment, and it will also affect the way others react to themselves. In fact, every child is not born with a blank sheet of paper, but inherits a unique set of genetic codes from his parents from the moment of conception, so he has a unique personality and ability, and some parts cannot be completely reversed and changed because of upbringing. At the same time, the book points out that parents should turn themselves into a blank sheet of paper, so that they can completely and unconditionally accept their children as they are. Children's temperament is innate, mostly from heredity, but also from the influence of mother's pregnancy and childbirth. By understanding the innate temperament of children, we parents need to adjust our expectations and organize ourselves, which can help children adjust their own direction.

Then it summarizes nine dimensions of temperament, including children's activity, regularity, avoidance, adaptability, reaction intensity, emotional essence, persistence, distraction and reaction threshold.

Judging from the temperament type. According to the difficulty of raising children, children can be divided into three types, namely 1 type, the second procrastination type and the third happiness type. Then according to the growth process of our children, I think our children belong to temperament type when they are young, with high activity and low regularity. They shrink back a little and react strongly to new people, and then go to kindergarten and primary school with her. I think this type of her has changed, and now she belongs to the happy type. Regularity is characterized by high regularity, high adaptability to environmental changes and moderate reaction intensity. Most of her emotions belong to cheerful and friendly positive emotions, and she will also take the initiative to approach the new environment. Therefore, in the process of education, this state is more relaxed and happy in most cases.

1 Item is activity: Does your child belong to a lively monkey or a quiet kitten?

The first is a quiz. In fact, I can probably understand that our children must belong to the active type without doing this quiz. Because she is very energetic every day, she wakes up in the morning and opens her eyes to play all kinds of games. In kindergarten, she hardly sleeps at noon. Until the evening, she was in this high-energy state all day and kept moving. Only when reading, playing the piano or drawing, will she be quiet.

After testing, it is sure that our score is in such a highly active area, and the total score is 13~ 16, which belongs to high activity. Our children's score is 15. According to my parents' test results, I belong to the category of low activity, so I always feel that I don't have enough energy when I take care of my children. My child is very active all the time, so I often feel that I don't have enough energy when playing with her. For children in this situation, it is suggested that parents and the elderly can take turns to play with their children, which can ensure that her energy is fully released. For children who have a lot of activities, it is better to make rules to limit them and give them a list of what they can do. In addition, for example, taking children to restaurants and visiting art exhibitions, we must discuss what we can and can't do in advance. Please pay attention to parents, it doesn't end with an agreement. Children are especially forgetful. They must stop and continue to review with their children before they can enter our agreed place. These rules we have formulated before have given children a particularly clear reference standard for their behavior and revived their memory of the rules.

to be continued ....