You can't change the weather.

Some people live a very open-minded and happy life, while others live a very tangled and painful life, largely because of their own mentality.

There is no doubt that our mood will be influenced by the surrounding environment. For example, when the weather is cold outside, our mood will often be as heavy, gloomy, unhappy and irritable as the weather outside. If it is sunny thousands of miles away, we will feel relaxed and bright, and we want to sing loudly for joy. The weather does have a certain influence on people's mood, but it is really unwise for us to let the weather lead us by the nose. Although we can't change the weather, we can change our mood.

In fact, only ourselves really affect our mood. People who can endure will not be influenced by their emotions.

According to an authoritative survey, more than 70% people in the workplace admit that they have experienced anger, anxiety, crying and suffocation in the office. But the mood is not the weather, people can't control it. Try to learn to control your emotions and let your mind be quiet and leisurely.

Once upon a time, there was an old woman who looked at the sky blankly every day. No matter whether it is sunny or rainy, she will never find a smile on her face. On the contrary, her face is always full of sadness and trouble. Why does the old woman act so sad whether it is sunny or rainy? It turns out that the old lady has two daughters, both of whom are in business. The eldest daughter sells umbrellas and the second daughter sells shoes. Every rainy day, the old woman began to worry that her second daughter's business was not good; Every sunny day, she worries that her eldest daughter's business is not good. The old lady is on tenterhooks all day, and her heart is very tangled. One day, she met her neighbors and told them about her troubles. Her neighbor said, "Why don't you look at this problem from another angle, then you may get unexpected results. Think about it, whether sunny days can create opportunities for the second daughter and the business is booming; Whether rainy days can create opportunities for the eldest daughter and make a lot of money. Isn't this the idea of killing two birds with one stone? "

The old woman listened and thought about it. Indeed! Since then, the old lady has changed her mood to watch sunny and rainy days, and her troubles have vanished!

It can be seen that although a person cannot change the weather, he can change his mood. I changed my mood and everything became clear.

Fundamentally speaking, people are often troubled, stressed, or in a bad mood because they are too persistent and attach too much importance to many things, or fame or benefits or results. Trouble, stress, etc. Are internal, not objective.

Put it down, you'll be comfortable. Learn to let go, and your mood will be natural, peaceful, happy and relaxed. Don't cling to the result, experience the process with your heart, and get enjoyment and insight from it. Of course, letting go doesn't mean giving up or ignoring, just let yourself face it with a peaceful mind and find the right solution instead of escaping or complaining.

In a word, you can change yourself, change your mood, and let your mind get leisure and peace. You can't control what happens to you, but you can control your mentality; You can't change others, but you can change yourself; You can't change the weather, but you can change your mood and make yourself positive. Since there are setbacks and troubles in life, there will be times of bad mood. A mature person is not a person who is not fidgety, but a person who is good at adjusting and controlling his emotions.

-Excerpted from "In the future, you will definitely thank yourself now" and give it to yourself.