Natural temperament is very different.

When we talk about temperament, we often think of a person's appearance. But in fact, everyone has their own natural temperament. Since it is a natural thing, it cannot be forcibly changed the day after tomorrow. And a person's character is determined by "natural temperament" and "acquired learning".

In the process of raising children, if we can know in advance what kind of temperament children are born with, we can find a more suitable way to grow up and reduce many unnecessary contradictions. Let children grow up happily, but also play their potential.

Actually, let's take our pets for example. We must also do our homework before choosing a pet. We must know what kind it is, what we like to eat, what we can't eat and so on. Even if you plant potted flowers, you should know that they need to be watered frequently and are drought-tolerant. Then it is even more essential to raise children and learn some scientific parenting knowledge.

Everyone has four temperament tendencies, but the proportions are different, and one of them will dominate our character. And age and gender will also affect temperament tendency. For example, boys will have more "cheerful" factors, while girls will have more "melancholy" factors.

Let's take a look at the differences between various temperaments.

One of the characteristics of this type is that it is used to seeing things from an optimistic perspective. They tend to focus on what they have first, not what they lack. In the process of doing things, we also pay more attention to the success side and ignore the failure or mistake side.

Such children are more positive and optimistic, and they don't care too much if they do something wrong. The bad thing is that it is easy to make mistakes again and again.

They are masters of interpersonal communication and have almost all the advantages in dealing with interpersonal relationships. Emotional and compassionate. For example, hearing a simple joke is the easiest way to laugh. Hearing other people's sad things, they are also the easiest to cry and the easiest to be moved by other people's things.

It will be easier to get along with them, because if there is anything unhappy, it will not stay in my heart for a long time. I was angry for a moment, but if I get angry again, the past will pass and I won't hold grudges. This is a great advantage in interpersonal communication.

For example, in various occasions, the happy type is the role of adjusting the atmosphere, and likes to attract others' attention and make others happy by telling jokes. They are really outgoing children, warm and enthusiastic, and like to contact others.

This temperament is very popular with parents.

But they also have shortcomings, that is, their self-control ability is relatively poor, and they like to live in the present, spend money and enjoy it since childhood. Similarly, when he grows up, he loves spending money and making money.

Therefore, parents can cultivate their children's management and planning of money from an early age, otherwise it is easy to develop the habit of spending money indiscriminately and spending money without a plan at all.

For the cultivation of self-control, children can also be guided to think twice before doing something, and be responsible for their choices after making decisions and choices. Learn to plan before you do something, and don't give up easily.

What a happy child needs most is affirmation, praise and recognition from people he values. What they care about is relationships. If the relationship is not good, parents can't teach him.

In many families raised by generations, children listen to their grandparents and ignore their parents. In fact, it is because parents lack their company that grandparents are the important people that children think.

Therefore, teaching such children must not be picky. We need to actively pay attention to him and guide him on the basis of good parent-child relationship. Learning to guide him with warm feelings will reduce many unnecessary disputes.

The only thing that can inspire a happy child and make him try his best to be self-disciplined is the warm feelings with others. For example, if a child hits someone, it doesn't matter if you say, "This is not right, no one will be your friend", but if you say, "Mom cares about you very much, I believe you can do it without hitting others", it will be easier for the child to listen.

From the outside, radical children are similar to happy children: they are more optimistic and outgoing, and they are friendly and open to others.

But in fact, the biggest difference between the two is that radical children have a strong sense of purpose and a clearer purpose. This is exactly the opposite of optimistic living in the present, lacking task orientation and paying attention to interpersonal relationships.

Aggressive children have goals. This goal must be set by the child himself. If they set a goal they want to achieve, then they will go all out to move towards it. Even if he is frustrated halfway and his goal is not achieved, he will continue to persist until he succeeds. For the purpose, you can choose not to care about the process.

Therefore, in the process of cultivating radical children, we must cultivate a correct view of right and wrong and morality. If their views on right and wrong are deviated, once they do bad things, their destructive power will be great.

Because they are goal-oriented, they are particularly motivated. In the process of action, their willpower, stress resistance and self-discipline are beyond the reach of other types of children. Many big entrepreneurs, revolutionaries and politicians are radical.

You can also call them natural leaders. Because their overall energy and vitality are the strongest, they are naturally energetic. Having a goal, being able to work under pressure, being decisive and persisting are all qualities that a good leader needs. In addition, they naturally like to control others, which is one of the qualities that leaders need to match.

In addition to establishing correct moral concepts, we should also pay attention to inspiring their sympathy. Because they don't have so much sympathy for the weak, if we help them gradually gain sympathy in the process of raising such a child, then his future behavior will be less likely.

Radical children are most afraid of meeting controlling parents. They don't like others to control themselves, but only like to do what they approve of. Therefore, parents who have raised this type of children should give their children more freedom to develop.

If you are a high-pressure parent, you have to let your child listen to yourself. If you don't listen, you have to fight until you listen. If your child is radical, his character will easily deteriorate: he can't help being beaten at home, so he goes outside to beat others and bully people who are weaker than you.

This is the most sensitive and fragile of the four natural temperament. As we just mentioned, girls are in the majority. This is the temperament of my child.

They see more, listen more, feel more and think more than other types of children, and are equally sensitive to human observation. When people get along with each other, they can naturally capture some subtle information.

For example, parents' emotions, needless to say, children can feel that their parents seem unhappy and will ask you what's wrong.

Melancholy children can sit still and concentrate highly from a very young age. A perfectionist tendency can make them study more carefully than others.

When parents can provide a stable and positive growth environment, depressed children can learn and absorb new information as quickly as possible.

Therefore, parents should give their children adequate psychological nutrition. Give children unconditional acceptance; Meet children's needs for safety; Give him the confirmation that "you are the most important in my heart"; Give children affirmation, praise and recognition; Set an example for children.

They are not the kind of children who need a lot of guidance from their parents. As long as there is a stable and harmonious family environment as the backing, they can mobilize their greatest potential, keep learning and make progress.

However, it should be noted that they are prone to "excessive introspection" and "excessive self-blame". Children don't need parents to teach them when they do something wrong. They may already know where they are wrong and how to improve next time. There is another important principle when reminding him-the right thing, not the person.

Another point is to convey negative emotions to such children as little as possible. When children have emotions, we should provide them with good ways and means to ease their emotions. Prevent them from feeling too much and too deep to let go of their emotions.

Melancholy children can never make many friends like happy children. Although he has no problem getting along with most children, he only chooses a few people as his good friends because of his high standard of choosing friends. I like the way he treats his hobbies. As long as he chooses good friends, he will start a lasting relationship and have deep ties with them.

So this part also needs parents to help children understand. When there is a contradiction between children and children, we should guide him to understand that every child has his own shortcomings, but this does not prevent him from having many advantages. He is also a small partner to play with.

Just as girls are born with more "melancholy temperament", the proportion of "calm temperament" in boys is greater. This is because women have more natural feeling factors, while men have more thinking factors.

Calm children are usually used to doing more, planning more and thinking more. Taking too many risks is definitely not his style. They are naturally cautious. For example, other children are willing to do something with three or five points of certainty, and they will not try until they are seven points sure.

For example, the state in the crowd can also reflect the cautious character. I hope no one in the crowd finds them and pays attention to them.

One of the great personality advantages of calm children is that they are emotionally stable, not easily influenced by the outside world, and have a sense of boundaries. For example, if there is a conflict between parents, depressed children will involve themselves and feel depressed and nervous, while calm children will think that this is their parents' business.

Calm children are also willing to follow the rules and regulations. In the face of such children, we should be clear about what we expect them to do.

When psychological nutrition is insufficient, they also have the best self-adaptability among the four types. Faced with an unsatisfactory family environment, a calm child will think, "What should I do?" He can find some ways to clean himself up and enjoy himself. So they belong to the type that parents don't worry about.

Moreover, calm children will get better grades in mathematics and physics in the future, and their financial management ability is incomparable to other types of children.

The only thing that may drive parents crazy is that calm children are slow to do everything. Of course, the reason for slowness is cautious personality, and it takes more time to think and prepare for anything.

Therefore, parents should accept their children's slow pace and don't always urge their children to get faster and faster, otherwise they may be more procrastinating.

And compared with radical children, calm children always seem to lack energy. Because they think too much, most of the oxygen is sent to the brain to think, so he is really tired.

This kind of child looks not very lively, a little lazy and often needs to have a rest. Because the body is intelligent, knowing that there is too much energy to consume in the head, they will automatically rest and protect their energy.

If we want our child to do well in any aspect, we can recognize and praise him when he does well in that aspect. Only through positive affirmation can children be motivated to take positive actions and become more powerful and motivated. Constantly urging will only backfire.

Calm children are raised well from childhood, and there are few problems, but parents should also pay attention to guiding their children to express their feelings from childhood. Encourage him to try to get along and communicate with others, so that the child will gradually be willing to open his heart to more people and expand the people he trusts.

Each temperament has its own characteristics and needs to be supplemented. If we can know more clearly what kind of children our children are and what special needs they have, the parenting process will be smoother and easier.

In fact, natural temperament tells us what a person's specialty is. For example, when a person chooses a job, his natural temperament also has a lot to do with it.

People who are depressed at work are partners that many bosses like to invite. The most important thing for them is to finish the task seriously, because depressed children don't like being supervised by others, they like to think for themselves and improve themselves. Is a perfectionist, in the face of a job, we must put him in a good attitude. If you don't do it well, you will have anxiety.

But it is not suitable for the work of facing strangers every day. For example, sales, when he sells things, he doubts his own products. Melancholy people are naturally more picky, so melancholy people can identify traps very well and are less likely to be deceived.

Although they are not very good salesmen, they are the people who have the most feelings about art. Such people are special, for those artistic jobs and aesthetic jobs.

If we are in sales, we can find a happy person to do it. Happy people care about relationships. They want to help people. When they sell things, they believe in their products wholeheartedly, and the whole person is devoted. Happy people are suitable for all relationship-related industries, such as sales staff, public relations, psychological counselors and so on.

In short, it is easy to face strangers, strange things and happy people.

In fact, everyone has every innate temperament in his heart, but which one suits me best. If I am good at using it, then I can present my best part with half the effort.

Everyone should know that innate temperament, like both sexes, is not hereditary. It's not that mom and dad are calm, but that the children are calm. Therefore, when raising children, we can't start from the direction we are most familiar with. Therefore, it is very important to understand the natural temperament of children.

Don't let children fall into the strange circle of family origin;

When I was a child, I was accused, scared and didn't want to hear it. I'm a little old, poor and slowly indifferent, and I like it very much. During adolescence, my anger slowly rose, and I became rebellious, anxious, irritable and aggressive. With children, all this is vented to children, creating a new life inheritance like yourself. The cycle of life, if not changed, will be repeated from generation to generation. ……