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Dear parents and friends, if you have young children at home, as a mother, you may be confused. Many mothers may feel some pressure and anxiety when their children face the upcoming primary school life. What preparations should mothers and children make and what measures should they take to help their children start their primary school life smoothly and spend the new period calmly?

Today, we will discuss these issues with you.

The child is going to primary school soon. What are the pressures and difficulties that children and parents may face?

First, parents are afraid that their children will lose at the starting line.

We should correctly realize that going to primary school is definitely not the starting line of children's life, and every stage of children's life is very important. From the day the child came into this world, from the day the child conveyed the message of life to his mother, he had already started his life. Why do we understand that going to school is the starting line for children? That's because parents misunderstand the nature of children's life growth and education.

In fact, education can't be completed only at school. All the details of family, society and life are education. Therefore, going to primary school is not the starting line of a child's life. Therefore, if there is pressure, it is not because children have to go to primary school. At this time, the pressure comes more from the uncertainty about the children's upcoming primary school life. However, it is certain that education and parents play an important role in a child's life. Of course, our parents can and should give some help to their children.

Second, children may face more and more academic pressure.

The courses offered in grade one include Chinese, mathematics, music, physical education, fine arts, morality and life, life and technology, and development courses. Life and technology will join in September this year. This course closely focuses on children's life experience, such as how to learn science, how to perceive things through eyes, ears, tongue and skin, how to know the weather and life, the science of stationery, including the science of tools, the science of diet of surrounding plants and so on.

Third, the life schedule is different from that of kindergarten, which is a physiological adaptation pressure.

Kindergartens usually have lunch breaks. Reading, calligraphy and communication between teachers and students in primary schools are arranged during lunch break, so it is very important for children to have a full rest at home.

Fourth, the pressure brought by unfamiliar environment.

When children enter primary school from kindergarten, they will face new classmates, new teachers and new places. All these will put some pressure on children.

In view of the problems listed above, how should children and parents deal with these difficulties and resolve these pressures?

First of all, there is no need to be too anxious psychologically. Parents must be calm, overcome anxiety and believe in themselves and their children, because these difficulties can be solved, not an insurmountable gap. Parents' emotional anxiety, which shows stress through words and deeds, has a bad influence on children, which will make children mistakenly think that going to school is a terrible thing and a very difficult thing. Therefore, parents should not inadvertently pass on their anxiety to their children.

Children entering primary schools have an adaptation period, just like children entering kindergartens. At this time, parents are often in a state of anxiety. It is not so much the lack of cohesion of children as the anxiety of parents. At this time, parents have higher expectations and a better mood, but the dolls may just be unable to find the north. At the beginning of school, I was fooled by winning at the starting line, striving to make my children tyrants and even feeding them unrealistically. Later, they found that everything was wrong.

Secondly, don't exaggerate children's abilities. Some parents, when they were students, were tyrants and were very successful at work. They feel that their children's learning ability is poor, the gap between them is so big, and their inner frustration is very strong. In fact, there is not much problem with the children themselves, but parents' expectations are too high, parents are disappointed, and children are under great pressure. In fact, parents have a problem with their mentality. Although the child comes from you, he is not you or a copy of you. He is an independent individual with his own thoughts and life path.

Before their children go to primary school, because there is no academic pressure, most parents don't realize the difference between their children and other children, and even many parents think their children are prodigies. In fact, there are indeed many very smart children in reality, but few of them can be called prodigies.

If parents can't correctly realize this, when children encounter difficulties in primary school life, parents' sense of loss and frustration is relatively strong, so as mothers, we must have enough psychological preparation:

1, accept the child's ordinary and ordinary or even imperfect, because imperfection is perfection.

2, allow their children to temporarily fall behind, in some ways, temporarily falling behind does not mean that children have no hope, which determines that children have no future. A large number of facts have proved that children who are temporarily backward in primary school are not necessarily children with weak ability.

Of course, it can't be said that parents don't interfere or help their children in primary school. Close communication and cooperation between parents and schools is very important. It doesn't mean that there is no responsibility for children to be handed over to teachers and schools. In fact, the burden on parents' shoulders is as heavy as that on teachers, and many parents are aware of it. In fact, if we want to trace the source, most of the problems that appear in children can be traced back to their families.

The above is psychological construction, and then talk about some specific coping strategies.

What should parents do first when they are young?

Because parents are anxious at this time, it is often irrelevant to do something in their minds to help their children, and it is hard to say which is the most important, but there is one thing that must be beneficial at this stage, that is, reading with children. I believe everyone knows the importance of reading for children. Reading at this stage can open children's wisdom, accumulate language, cultivate children's sense of language, and enhance children's observation, thinking and expression skills. Don't show your children too many cartoons at this stage, and don't let the Ipad become your child's nanny.

Many parents stay with their children, watching mobile phones, brushing WeChat and watching news. It is a pity for parents to see such a scene, because the good time with their children has been wasted, good educational opportunities have been missed, and there are many things to do with their children. Reading with children is one of them. We should let children read those beautiful books in the most precious initial stage of life.

There is a famous saying that a child is moving forward every day. When he saw the first thing, he became that thing, and that thing became a part of the child.

So we should choose some good-looking books for our children, and the beauty in these books will become a part of our children. But children at this stage can't read independently. This requires parents and children to read together, so-called parent-child reading. When children enter the primary school stage, those children with good expressive ability and thinking ability often have a good habit of reading at home. At present, the Chinese textbook for the first grade of primary school is specially designed to read such courses with adults, which is actually advocating parent-child reading.

Those wonderful times of reading with children are precious, which children and parents will never forget. Such times are gone forever, because children will grow up soon.

Giving children classic books is an important principle and the first principle. On this premise, we should pay attention to the interests of each child and the different needs of each age group. Every child likes different books, and the books to be read at every age are different. Don't use the eyes and judgments of adults to force children to read any books.

Picture books are of course a very good choice. Picture books are graphic ensembles, which are naturally suitable for children. Besides picture books, you can also read some myths, fairy tales, folk stories, nursery rhymes and so on. Be sure to read it with the children, not just throw it to them. Not only should you read to your children, but you should also let them read to you. This helps to cultivate children's interest and expressive ability. Even unconsciously, children learn more words without any burden.

2 Young convergence, should children recite poems and Analects of Confucius?

What is certain is that children at this stage will recite some ancient poems. In primary school Chinese textbooks, there are ancient poems in the first grade. In the sixth grade 12 volumes, 24 ancient poems12 were selected, accounting for 30% of all selected articles.

Reciting poems is not limited to ancient poems, modern children's songs, folk proverbs, simple and interesting couplets, etc. It can help to cultivate children's literary accomplishment, cultivate their spiritual world, improve their thinking ability and expression ability, and cultivate their sense of language. This is the purpose of making children recite poems, not to cultivate another Wu Yishu.

It is very important for parents to choose some high-quality ancient poems instead of blindly pursuing the number of recites, because blindly pursuing the number of recites is harmful to children's intelligence. Choose short, popular, interesting, rhythmic and picturesque Tang and Song poems. The content of the expression is understandable by children, and can be supplemented by expressions and actions, but don't exaggerate. Nature is most important.

Parents' simple explanation is very important. It is important to prevent children from memorizing, which will increase their mental burden, lead to the expansion of brain neurons, reduce or cut off the connection between brain cells, and lead to children becoming stupid. There used to be a saying, whether children understand it or not, recite it first and then understand it later. This statement is actually taken for granted, seriously misleading, ignoring the present and the basic laws of children's physical development, brain development and thinking development.

3 young convergence, should we teach children to start writing?

Don't teach your child to write too early unless parents are sure that the posture, order and strength of your pen are correct. At this time, children can't connect the sound, shape and meaning of Chinese characters. Even if he can write this word, it doesn't mean that he has really learned it, because learning Chinese characters requires not only reading and writing, but also understanding its meaning. How to combine the three is very important for children at this stage, life experience and real life situation. Parents should not be too demanding in writing.

Parents should be aware of this. In the first semester of senior one, children are required to write 100, know 300 words, write 200 words and know 400 words in the next semester. They advocate reading more books to increase life experience. Unconscious literacy is the best way in life situation and language environment.

Should children be taught pinyin in advance when they are young?

Non-professional parents are not advised to teach Pinyin to avoid pronunciation errors, and at the same time, children are also prevented from being afraid of difficulties and even starting to hate learning before going to school.

You should know that Chinese Pinyin is only an auxiliary tool for learning Chinese characters. Even if the children's learning ability is weak and they can't catch up with the big troops, it's not a big problem. Through experience and observation, children will always master pinyin learning, and it won't take too long to catch up, so they don't have to worry too much about pinyin.

5 Young convergence, how to help children prepare for math learning?

The mathematics textbook of the first semester of senior one reflects the gradual process. At the same time, we attach great importance to learning from children's life experience, and learn specific contents, mainly including understanding the front, back, left, right, up and down directions, three-dimensional graphics and plane graphics, clocks and watches, numbers within 1-20, addition and subtraction of 1 to 10, and the most difficult rounding up to 20. At this stage, we should pay attention to increasing children's life experience and pay attention to children's life experience.

The law of children's thinking development is from intuitive action thinking to image representation thinking and then to symbolic abstract thinking. The calculation of quantity is a highly abstract thinking process, characterized by digital symbols. It requires children to accumulate rich experience about the relationship between quantitative changes in real situations. Only on this basis can the symbolic operation ability be gradually formed and developed.

Do not deliberately raise the requirements, do not deliberately raise the difficulty, and cultivate the concept of the number of children in life and games. For example, tell your child that you are going to get two oranges for your mother. Do you want to eat two pieces of sugar or three pieces? How many small goldfish are there in the fish tank at home? How much is red? Take the children to the zoo. How many monkeys are there on the mountain? A monkey went down the mountain. How many? For example, by bus, dad drives in front, and mom and baby sit behind, knowing each other before and after. What floor does our family live on? What floors are above and below our house? Play with building blocks, spell Rubik's cube, and exercise children's finger coordination ability. In short, in my life, I have accumulated a wealth of knowledge about numbers.

6 Young convergence, how to help children overcome their fear of unfamiliar environment?

When it is convenient, parents accompany their children to the primary school campus where they are about to enter school to have a look and experience the route from home to school. Parents can also take the initiative to establish contact with teachers and meet and chat. Increase life experience and improve children's adaptability to strange environments, such as taking children to libraries and museums to help them adapt to strange environments.

⑦ Children are small and have many contacts. What preparations should be made for physical function?

Children's wisdom is within reach. Parents teach their children to control their hands and brains by heart. Hand-brain participation in some activities plays a very important role in catalyzing and awakening children's brain development, such as paper cutting and making toys, strengthening the coordinated use of hand, brain and eyes, and encouraging children to do more. Only in the process of hands-on, the most creative areas in the child's brain will be activated, otherwise the brain will miss the important development period of the child.

Paying attention to health is the primary job of educators. Children's spiritual life, intellectual development, knowledge consolidation and confidence in their own strength all depend on whether they are optimistic and energetic, so children's physical health must be placed in a very important position.

However, in reality, we don't pay enough attention to children's health. Compared with the part we really spend on children, we turn the time and energy spent on children's study into an amateur life, which is at best an adjustment and supplement, and can be largely ignored. Some teachers spend hours tutoring their children, but they don't want to take them to the playground for 10 minutes. Some parents can spend the whole weekend taking their children to various interest classes, but they don't want to take them to the playground or swimming pool for half an hour. As long as the children are not sick, their goal has been achieved.

We don't care about children's health as much as we care about their studies. In fact, it backfired. Many children are in poor health, and the weather changes easily to catch a cold.

The general principle is to do more exercise, do more outdoor sports, and have a regular schedule. We must pursue children's health as we pursue high scores.

What stationery should I prepare for my children?

In view of this problem, we suggest that parents and friends should buy at the teacher's suggestion, not blindly pursuing high-grade, and in line with the principles of environmental protection, applicability and moderation, the stationery, schoolbags and pencil boxes they buy should be environmentally friendly and light, so as not to cause harm to children's health and personal safety.

Parents should carefully buy stationery with rich fragrance and bright colors.

Finally, I want to give you a passage from Ji Bolun.

Ji Bolun, a great Lebanese-American poet, painter and philosopher. He is the author of Prophet, Sand and Foam, etc.

Your child is not your child.

He is a child who yearns for his own life.

They were born to you, not to you.

Even if they follow you, they don't belong to you.

Parents can only help their children, not replace them. Children have independent thoughts and life paths. Parents can't do everything, they should be respected.