Congenital temperament-lotte type

One of the characteristics of optimistic personality is that they are used to looking at things from an optimistic perspective. They care about what they have, not what they lack.

First, what are the characteristics of lotte temperament?

1, positive optimism: Happy people usually say that they can do it, and so do people. They usually see advantages and seldom see disadvantages. They can usually tell many of their own advantages, but not their own shortcomings, and are good at finding the good side of things. For example, if you give him half a glass of water, he will say, "Wow, I have half a glass of water." Usually depressed people will say, "Why is there only half a glass of water?" They only remember the successful experience, but forget the lessons of failure. For example, if you ask him when he failed in life, he will say no. They don't regard failure as failure, but talk about successful experiences over and over again. Therefore, happy people usually make mistakes once and will continue to make mistakes next time. As if there is nothing wrong, they often forget that the same thing has failed several times. They will accept it with humility, but they will never change.

2. Pay attention to the relationship: Happy people are particularly enthusiastic and can make you feel good together. They care about their friends, like to contact others and make many friends. If a friend offends him, he will be angry for a while, but he will soon forget and accept and forgive others easily.

3, like to enjoy: happy people enjoy the present, easy to indulge in sensory pleasure, lack of restraint, so don't let happy people catch bad habits, especially it can bring him a lot of sensory stimulation, such as gambling, playing games, they are difficult to quit, if you can quit, it is entirely because of the improvement of interpersonal relationships.

4. Longing for affirmation: the orientation of life is what is the most important consideration every time he wants to make a major decision. The most important consideration of lotte type is the relationship. They won't do anything to hurt the relationship. If they establish a good relationship with happy people, they will usually work hard to cooperate and change for things, but the relationship, because they want to get the affirmation, praise and recognition of others they think is important. Therefore, happy people are not very particular about rules. They usually break the rules for the sake of relationships, such as helping their friends at work regardless of their boss's objection and going out to help their brothers drive in the middle of the night regardless of their wives' objection. Because they do this, they can get positive praise and recognition, and they like to be noticed, so all their decisions are driven by interpersonal relationships.

Second, how to get along with happy people in marriage, interpersonal relationship and parent-child relationship?

Generally speaking, happy people are warm and optimistic, live in the present and don't care about what happened in the past or in the future. For them, how to live today is the most important thing. They like colorful life and are most afraid of boredom. They can't do one thing over and over again. For example, let happy children find pleasure in learning while playing. Happy people like to change, but they don't like to stay the same. They want to have fun at work, otherwise they will give up easily. For boring and stressful things, the lotte type will choose to give up directly. No matter what you promise, the advantage of lotte type is that it won't make people exhausted, but the weakness is also obvious, that is, you can't stick to it. So, if your children or partners are happy, then we need to give them targeted education and get along:

What should a happy person pay attention to?

1, need a lot of love, give him a lot of hugs: happy people are thirsty and need a lot of physical contact. They usually regard physical contact as a way of love, and give birth to happy children, especially in need of hugs and contact, and simply hope to get a lot of energy from physical contact. In marriage, happy people rarely marry happy people, and they usually become friends rather than partners. The highest probability is that Lotte marries Melancholy, but Melancholy can't meet Lotte's demand for affirmation, praise and recognition, which is prone to problems. In reality, Lotte's best partner is typically calm, likes Lotte's liveliness and cuteness, and is full of tolerance for them. Lotte is the most romantic, and calmness has the lowest requirements for partners, but even so, typical calmness can't meet Lotte's emotional needs.

2, affirmation, praise, recognition: for example, happy children write, they may just write it down and hand it in. If you say to them, "What do you think, it won't be serious?" Words like this are useless, but what we can do is to establish a good relationship with them and give them affirmation, praise and recognition. For example, "I see you have finished writing, and you are very responsible." Can you tell me which word is good? " They usually answer, "No." If we say, "There must be, find a few." He can really find relatively good ones, wait until tomorrow to ask questions, and continue the day after tomorrow ... and then his handwriting will get better and better; If a happy husband helps with housework, we should always say, "Thank you for helping me today. How can I have such a good husband? " In the long run, improve or enhance the relationship between husband and wife.

3. Learn to plan and take responsibility.