Psychological analysis of long-distance love

"I am obviously a lover, but I live like single dog."

"It's raining. I want to remind him to bring an umbrella, only to find that our weather is different. "

"He hasn't returned my message for an hour. What is he doing? "

Long-distance love is probably

With you, you are the world;

Without you, the whole world is you.

The problem of long-distance love is really difficult, but it has been solved by people who have perfect scores in love.

In fact, a study on 3 1 1 college students found that occasional long-distance love is very similar to couples who are close to each other (hereinafter referred to as city love). No matter how satisfied they are with this relationship, their trust and commitment to each other are very similar. And there are more people who have been in long-distance relationships for more than two years than those in the same city.

Why does long-distance love have no natural advantage, but stronger feelings?

In love relationship, there is a very important theory, Uncertainty Reduction Theory (URT). In order to maintain the relationship between two people, two people must constantly update their understanding of themselves, their partners and their relationship to reduce uncertainty.

Relationship uncertainty is a basic factor in love relationship, which will affect the quality of relationship, mood and communication process.

"Relationship uncertainty" is the uncertainty about the state or future of love relationship.

Two main factors will increase the uncertainty of the relationship. One is the physical distance of external factor 3354; The other is the internal factor of the unequal level of commitment between the two sides ("I have you in every step of my future, and you don't have me in your future")

Because of the natural disadvantage of long-distance love, the physical distance between two people is hundreds or even thousands of kilometers, so the uncertainty of long-distance love may be much higher than that of urban love.

However, long-distance lovers are a group of people who work hard for love.

"The whole world is yours."

When we are not in long-distance love, we are like soul mates. What the body can't touch, the spirit will touch.

The process of two people's heart-to-heart communication is a process of self-exposure, so that the other party can see their vulnerability. Thinking and working hard on the relationship can narrow the psychological distance between two people. Because only when the opponent is his own armor can you see your weaknesses.

However, if people in long-distance relationships are afraid of having a heart-to-heart relationship because of the distance and avoid the topic of conflict, they can only have a good fantasy about this relationship. Once the long-distance relationship ends and becomes a love affair in the same city, the inevitable conflict will make this long-term relationship collapse.

That's why some people have a good long-distance relationship, but they break up when it's over.

"You are the whole world"

"I climbed the mountain for you and didn't want to see the scenery, because you are the most beautiful."

Although it is difficult for long-distance lovers to accomplish one thing together, as long as they are together, they are happy to do everything. Every encounter is precious, so everyone goes all out to show their best to each other.

Therefore, the uncertainty of long-distance love that can meet regularly will be reduced more than that of long-distance love that can't meet all the time.

Every time I don't see you and want to break up, I disappear without a trace at the moment I meet you. The infinite expectation of the next meeting gives hope to life.

It turns out that long-distance love also has its charm.

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I hope this tweet can give you some confidence and strength in a long-distance relationship. Welcome to talk to your uncle about the sad moment of your long-distance relationship in the comments. Uncle is here to listen to you ~