It's very cold. I'm not talking about the weather. What do you mean?

Maybe I think you are too cold to it, or your relationship is deadlocked.

Reasons for emotional deadlock or cold war:

Some people don't like to talk about unhappy things when they are angry and relatively irrational, so they tend to treat them coldly. After distancing themselves from each other and calming down, we can talk well, without saying anything wrong in a rage and avoiding unnecessary conflicts and quarrels that hurt our feelings.

But this kind of cold treatment may be that the topic between two people is not finished at all, or the other party has not set foot on the road home, just bought a movie ticket an hour later, and so on, and the other party will turn around and leave. If you know that you or the other person is such a character, you should stop at the beginning of the unpleasant atmosphere and change the subject. Don't let the atmosphere go downhill and stop pursuing, which will hurt both sides.

When the cold war begins, or the other side is forced to leave a sentence: "You should think calmly first!" Most of the cold war parties at that time felt that they were right, and it was useless to talk more. When the two sides think it over, the wrong party will apologize by itself (of course, the cold war parties will not feel that it is their own fault). Because I think I'm right, even if I don't answer the phone or read the text message, I can be excused.

Using the cold war to express one's dissatisfaction actually has a punishing mentality. If the other party doesn't make mistakes or be stupid, he doesn't need to be angry, so all the mistakes are the other party's fault. But after the anger subsided, was the other party really wrong? It should be said that even if the other party makes more mistakes, you should take some responsibility yourself, right?

How to resolve the cold war;

1. It's not wrong to bow your head.

"As long as I bow my head this time, I will apologize first." During the cold war, it seems that both sides are waiting for each other to admit their mistakes first, but neither of them wants to show weakness first. The cold war will continue to lengthen and prolong indefinitely. Don't fight silence with silence. I believe that both sides had a hard time during the cold war. It is the best way to talk to each other first and open a friendly bridge.

Let's see if the other person has settled down, or are we still pretending that we don't care and have nothing? After realizing that bowing your head is not a mistake, open a topic that he may want to respond to, such as: "Are you still angry?" "I'm so hungry. Do you want to eat first? " See how he will react.

2. Give each other a step.

I don't know if you have heard the truth that love is compromise. During the cold war, did you feel more tired than quarreling? Isn't it difficult to pretend that you are doing well, but from time to time you want to know what the other person is doing and repeatedly confirm whether he has updated the circle of friends of social software?

It is suggested that whether you are attacked by the cold war or initiated by the cold war in a quarrel, after a period of calm, it is better to take the initiative and give the other party a step down with some words! For example, "Will you do this again?" "Do you know I'm sad?" Class line, let the other side respond to you, break the cold war and get back together quickly!

3. Set the time limit for slow cheeks

I know you are angry, but during the cold war, you still have to set a deadline in your mind, whether it is "in another hour, if he doesn't knock on me" or "if he doesn't reply to me before tonight, I will hack him!" Even let the other side know that they are waiting for him to stop fighting, and both sides have deadlines.

Otherwise, the cold war will be inexplicably prolonged, and in the end, I don't know what I'm angry about, and it's simply not worth the candle. As a result, they were all carried away by their sad fantasies and exhausted.