Daily greetings of social etiquette

Daily greetings, greetings and conversations in social etiquette are important contents in social and business activities and a way to express feelings between people. Greetings are the opening remarks at the reception and the prelude to the conversation; Conversation is a connected conversation between people. It is an important way for people to enhance understanding and friendship, and it is also an important form for people to convey information and exchange feelings. In order to achieve the expected communicative purpose, we must follow certain etiquette.

Types of greetings

There are many kinds of greetings, and the common greetings are as follows:

Greeting type

In our country, greeting is a sign of friendship or concern for others, and it is the same in other countries. The purpose of greeting is to make interpersonal relationships harmonious.

Greetings seem simple, but whether a person is vulgar or humble, beautiful or elegant, can often be seen in a short time. Therefore, business people should use polite language more and make good use of it in social greetings. It is a means to respect others and oneself, and it is one of the indispensable ways to show personal manners and abilities. Greetings Greetings are complicated and can be summarized as follows:

(1) is a polite greeting. Such as "Hello", "Good morning", "Happy holidays" and "Happy New Year". The speaker can greet people differently according to different occasions, environments and objects. For example, considering age, he should ask the child, "How old?" Or ask, "What grade are you in?" Ask adults, "Are you busy at work?" From a professional point of view, you can ask the teacher, "Is there a class today?" Ask the writer, "Are there any other masterpieces?" Greetings to friends, neighbors and colleagues are more abundant. If used well, we can maintain a close relationship and enhance friendship. Greetings should also keep pace with the times, otherwise it will not only fail to achieve the desired effect, but will introduce the unhappiness of the people who communicate with it. For example, people in China like to greet each other with some words about fat clothes. "Xiao Wang, I haven't seen you for a few days, and I'm fat again!" The other party will feel uncomfortable after listening to it; "Xiao Zhang, the clothes you are wearing today are really fashionable!" I don't know if the other person is flattering or sarcastic, and I feel very uncomfortable. Another example is "Have you eaten?" "Where are you going?" It seems very specific, but it loses its aesthetic feeling and greeting effect. With the development and progress of society, people are more and more fond of using "hello" to express joy and courtesy when meeting.

(2) Greetings expressing thoughts. For example, "Long time no see, how have you been?" "I haven't seen you for days, but I miss you!"

(3) show concern for each other's greetings. For example: "How have you been recently? ""How long have you been here? Are you used to living here? " "How's your work recently? Is it smooth? "

(4) Greetings expressing friendly attitude. For example, "Is business good?" "What are you busy with?" These seemingly inquiring words do not mean that they really want to know each other's daily life, but often just express the speaker's friendly attitude. The listener regards it as the beginning of a conversation, or regards it as a greeting without a detailed answer. It is just a medium of communication.

The content of greetings is rich and colorful, but it varies from person to person. Most general greetings are to wish you good health, a happy life, a smooth career and a happy holiday. Special greetings should be treated according to specific objects and situations, and cannot be mechanically copied. For business partners, I wish "prosperous business, abundant financial resources and prosperous career"; For government departments, we should wish "happy holidays, all the best and good health"; Greeting classmates and friends of the same generation can pay attention to work, study and career, and give encouragement and support; For the elderly, we can focus on health, diet and daily life. , showing concern and support; For relatives and friends in trouble or close business partners, you can give spiritual comfort or material help.

Pay attention to avoid some taboos in greetings. For example, in Arab countries, it is impolite to talk about or greet the hostess. In some countries, even the children of the host family can't be mentioned. If you see an Arab wife, you can say hello to her, but don't shake her hand.

Speak in different ways

"It's a nice day today" is also a common greeting in daily life. Especially when strangers meet, it is difficult to find a topic for a while, and they will say something like "the northeast is very cold", which can break the embarrassing scene. When meeting for the first time, talking with others is a good way to greet.

Touch the scene and feel love.

Touching the scene is a temporary greeting to a specific conversation scene, such as what the other party has just said, what he is doing and what he will do, which can be used as a topic of greeting. If you ask "good morning, are you at work?" at your door or on the road in the morning. Ask in the library or classroom, "Are you still studying?" This greeting comes casually and naturally.

Praise style

Psychologists have come to the following conclusions according to human nature: the simplest rule to make people live a happy life in a peaceful mental state is to give people praise; As a member of society, everyone needs others' affirmation and recognition, and needs others' sincerity and praise. For example, if your colleague wears a new dress, you can say, "Xiao Zhang, you look more beautiful in this dress!" " "Xiao Zhang will be very happy. Lao Li shaved this morning. You can say, "Lao Li is getting younger and younger. "Lao li will be happy.

Climbing recognition type

As the saying goes, "mountains don't turn into water." In interpersonal communication, as long as we pay attention to each other, it is not difficult to find that there are "relatives" and "friends" between the two sides, such as "fellow villagers", "colleagues", "classmates" and even distant relatives. Meet for the first time, greet each other and recognize a relationship. As soon as we met, it immediately turned into an opportunity to establish exchanges and develop friendship. When he met Zhuge Liang in the Three Kingdoms, Lu Su's first sentence was: "I am a friend of Yu." (Yu Zi is Zhuge Liang's brother Zhu Gejin) This short sentence established the friendship between Lu Su and Zhuge Liang. This kind of comparison recognition thing in real life.

Examples abound, such as: "I was born in Wuhan, and I am a fellow countryman with you!" " ""You study drugs. My wife works in a pharmaceutical factory. We are close relatives! " "Oh, you graduated from Peking University. Speaking of which, are we still alumni? "These examples show that in the process of communication, it is very important to be good at discovering opportunities, discovering similarities between the two sides, and emotionally bringing each other closer.

Admiration type

For people who meet for the first time, this is a sign of respect, admiration, enthusiasm and politeness, such as: "I've heard so much about you! I've heard a lot about you! I have read your masterpiece and benefited a lot! " "You are much more energetic! Your temperament is really good. What do you do? " "The public relations plan you designed is really good." The use of greetings or courtesies should be selected and adjusted according to the environment, conditions, objects and feelings of both parties when meeting. There is no fixed pattern, as long as people feel natural, friendly and strange when they meet.

Matters needing attention in greeting

1. Sincere attitude and appropriate language.

Polite language should be appropriate, natural, sincere and sincere to lay a harmonious atmosphere for each other's conversation. Avoid rude words and excessive compliments, such as "I've heard so much about you!" "How lucky I am to see you today!" This is extremely unnatural.

2. It depends on the object

Different people should use different greetings. In communication situations, men and women are different, young and old are orderly, and their familiarity with each other is different. The tone, language and topic of greetings should also be different. Generally speaking, if the communication between superiors and subordinates, elders and juniors is the main person, it is best to make the other party feel that the master is approachable; If the latter is a master, it is best to let the other side feel the respect and admiration of the master.

3. Greetings should be appropriate

For example, people in China are used to using "you have gained weight again" as a compliment when they meet. Nowadays, people are trying to lose weight, so it is probably not appropriate to take it as a compliment. When people praise Miss West for "you are so beautiful", she will be very excited and politely answer "thank you". If you say this in front of Miss China, you should be very careful, otherwise it will cause misunderstanding.

It depends on the occasion.

Use different greetings in different places. To be humble when visiting others, you might as well say "sorry to bother you"; You should show enthusiasm when receiving visitors. You might as well say "welcome". Pay attention to discretion in solemn occasions, and you can be casual in general occasions. Some people ask people "have you eaten?" regardless of the occasion, time or even when they meet in the toilet, which makes people laugh and cry. Of course, there are also greetings and thanks that are widely used in occasions, such as "hello" and "thank you", which can be used in a wide range of people.