Say the weather is fine.

Speaking is a science.

A word can chat to death, so that others do not want to associate.

One sentence can make life easier and save yourself a lot of trouble.

Why do some people say and some people like to listen? Why are you so annoying when you talk?

The difference is that you can't talk, and you can't talk well.

Whether a person can speak depends on these ten points:

Sincerity is the key to 1 communication

Sincerity itself is not talking, but the way you talk can tell whether a person is communicating sincerely.

"Should I take the postgraduate entrance examination or find a job?"

"See for yourself."

"Someone confessed to me. Should I promise TA? "

"Don't ask me."

"I heard that I have just been informed to work overtime. Do you know about this? "

"I don't know"

People ask you questions and ask for advice because they want to hear your thoughts, not your "I don't care" attitude.

If you can help others, communicate with them sincerely and help them solve their problems. Don't be impatient.

Even if you really can't help, please tell your reasons sincerely. You can tell the other party that you really don't know the specific situation and can't provide relevant solutions.

If you can't help, your attitude will be perfect and the other person will feel much more comfortable. If you are perfunctory to others, after a long time, no one will care about you.

Think more about each other.

People who can talk have a universal nature, know how to think of others, and have an empathy.

Classmates are lovelorn, friends and family members are sick, colleagues are criticized for their work mistakes, and their partners have been having a bad time recently. ...

People tell you these bad things, not to let you watch the fun and listen to jokes. I regard you as a person who can tell the truth and want to get your encouragement and comfort.

"Don't give up, I believe you can succeed."

"Everything will pass, and it will be fine."

"Don't be afraid, I'm here."

These are not insincere, not empty words. It is the temperature of human nature emitted by an empathetic person.

When others encounter obstacles and are in adversity, please learn to put yourself in others' shoes. Think about how others comfort you when you encounter difficulties and setbacks.

From each other's point of view, comfort and encourage, say something warm, and try to solve it together.

Don't gloat. If you hit a person when he is down today, there will be no one to help you tomorrow.

3 Master the one-second principle

The one-second principle means that when others have finished speaking, you should pause for one second before answering, and don't answer the phone right away.

As soon as someone else's "period" is over, you are eager to reply. It won't show how witty you are, but it will make the other person feel that you didn't listen carefully just now, as if you can't wait and want to interrupt the other party at any time.

Some people are impatient, some people are "intelligent", and some people know the full text in just three sentences. I can't help but blurt it out.

Even if you understand each other's meaning, TA's story has been told many times. Please don't be so impatient.

Waiting for one more second is a kind of respect.

A second's detail will make the other person feel that what you say next is based on full listening and processed by the brain, rather than perfunctory.

Be good at listening

If you want to speak well, you must first be a good listener and learn to be obedient.

"Go ahead, I'm listening."

"Yes, I feel the same way."

Effective communication and dialogue are sometimes like cross talk. Others are "funny" and you are "funny". When someone chats with you, you need to respond appropriately according to what the other person says.

Let others know that you are really listening, so that you can have a sense of trust and talk.

Meanwhile, please don't "steal the show". When others have something to say, let them finish first, don't interrupt, and give them room for full expression.

It is especially impolite for a monkey to interrupt others in a hurry.

You can express your opinion, but please listen carefully first.

People who see through but don't see.

"Don't you see, are you stupid?"

As far as your wisdom is concerned, as far as you know, everyone else is stupid?

If others see through it, they will stop talking.

Some things, see through, don't say. Adult world, leave some room for yourself and others.

Generally speaking, don't try to highlight yourself and give others some privacy and reservations.

Especially in the workplace, what you can see, others can see, don't bother, don't be stupid, but leave room for others.

There is no need to find out about other people's affairs and save face for others. In the world of adults, there is room for speech to leave friends.

6. Speak on the basis.

"What is a blockchain?"

"I know, just connecting a certain area."

"Have you ever had cat excrement coffee?"

Cat shit? That thing tastes disgusting.

The way you talk nonsense exposes your knowledge.

Don't talk about things you don't know, the address is unknown. Don't pretend to be an encyclopedia in areas you are not good at.

Learn to be modest when you don't know.

When someone says something strange to you, silence can't answer, or admit that you don't understand, so it's not shameful. Tell jokes and others will laugh at your ignorance.

You are talking about your temperament. If there is no basis, don't say it, don't wait to be hit in the face.

Speak tactfully and comprehensively.

My new dress, is it nice?

Ugly, you put it on, it's a bucket of essence.

Do you think I can succeed in the interview tomorrow?

Your stupid school, who wants you?

If you are so mean, no one will like to be your friend.

You think it's honest, but it hurts.

"I don't think this dress suits you. You can change it to a loose style. "

"Come on, maybe your school is not a famous brand, but your ability is beyond doubt."

This is the correct answer.

I don't want you to lie with your eyes open, but it's easier for others to accept it if you know how to express it euphemistically. Learning to speak tactfully will make people more willing to associate with you.

8 learn to find topics

In life, it is inevitable to chat face to face with unfamiliar people, have nothing to say and feel uncomfortable all over.

The weather is not bad.

Well, the weather is good.

I am most afraid of chatting suddenly. When you meet people you don't know very well, the conversation often falls into awkward chat, and the air is quiet and super embarrassing.

How to avoid embarrassment?

Villagers talk about their hometown, neighbors talk about their communities, classmates talk about their studies, colleagues talk about their work, and they can also talk about scarves and take photos with seven aunts and eight aunts.

Talk about the road you have traveled, the books you have read, and ask each other what their hobbies are.

The topic was found out of nothing.

We are all earthlings, and there is always a problem that you share.

Walking out of your comfort zone and learning to find topics will expand your circle of friends.

9 Chatting is not stubborn.

What you said is wrong. Listen to me.

Do you stay up late every day because you are anxious?

He is so poor, why do you want to be with him?

Heaven, earth and air.

Bar people, bar things, bar world.

As long as you are happy, others are unhappy.

You won the chat, but lost the feelings.

Chatting is not a lawsuit, so we have to argue that you are wrong and I am right.

If you lose in the chat, you can't lose a house.

If you win an argument with others, you may lose a friend who once supported you and a lover who loves you.

Have something to say. Even if you are right, you are right, please be gentle with others.

Use humor to solve embarrassing situations.

How fat again!

Why don't you get married?

In life, you will always meet people who love to make fun of you and make fun of you to enliven the atmosphere. They always catch your "shortcomings" intentionally or unintentionally and make you a "joke".

There's no need to be a bad COP. I really don't care. Embarrassment can be solved through proper humor.

When others make fun of you, you respond with jokes. Others hack you, you can hack yourself.

I am fat, who let me have Yang Guifei's genes?

I'm still single because the man I married was caught in a traffic jam.

Resolving jokes with jokes will let everyone know that you are an interesting person and show your humorous side. More people will like to get along with you and listen to you.

Talking is not necessarily innate. Talk well or practice the day after tomorrow. Doing the above ten points can make you more comfortable in interpersonal communication.

What you say determines who you are. Don't let your inability to speak hinder your life.

Talk if you want.