What's the biggest lie you told in an interview?

If you find your social friends, write "cheerful, optimistic and easy to get along with" in your recent resume.

And before going out, I repeatedly performed the warm greeting words of "hellohello, wow, so happy, I really want to join your company for a long time" in front of the mirror.

At that moment, please don't disturb ta and don't poke ta.

Because ta is practicing the necessary skills of every mature social horror-pretending to be cheerful.

Two days ago, an entry named "E for I" suddenly rose to the top of the hot search list, and the reading volume soared to 200 million.

Click in and see, it is full of tears of social fear.

I and e are a kind of personality classification in MBTI psychological test, which can be roughly understood as I introversion and E extroversion.

People who are unsociable prefer quiet solitude, but life does not allow it.

People always have to push themselves.

Even if you are praying in your heart, an asteroid will destroy the earth now and all human social activities by the way.

On the surface, it is sunny and cheerful, and the only specialty of self-brainwashing is smiling.

0 1 Every social fear that pretends to be cheerful is half the battle. There are countless moments when people have to pretend to be happy.

And you never know how much acting a person who pretends to be proficient in diplomacy consumes.

Upmaster @ Qu Lei _ Some time ago, I had a whim to hold a challenge activity to invite strangers to sing K.

The original intention is to observe what happens when a group of introverts get together. In imagination, the scene will suffocate with a little laughter.

There is nothing wrong with his imagination. From the beginning, this activity was full of suffocating and funny breath:

Because the number of people who signed up for the event was 36, only 9 people actually arrived.

As soon as everyone entered the box, they subconsciously bowed and greeted everyone, as if they were seriously looking for a job.

I don't know what to say after sitting down, and there is no topic to talk about at all. I can only give each other a business smile that is embarrassing for adults.

Finally, I talked about the weather like an Englishman: "It's so hot today."

I was so nervous that I completely forgot that the temperature was only 18℃ that day, and the spring breeze whistled.

During this period, there were two Northeasters, probably because of the call of blood, they couldn't stand the lifeless atmosphere in ktv.

Both of them picked up the receiver and said that they would heat up a venue for everyone.

The background color of social fear makes them instinctively push each other away, and finally they sing humbly.

If you still don't understand what "e for me" means, then this is a typical example.

When a group of I people have reached the limit of silence, there will always be the first I people who can't stand the embarrassment and try to break the deadlock and enliven the atmosphere.

For other I people, these two Northeast I people became E people.

Even if you are embarrassed enough to pinch your hands and legs unconsciously, you should finish singing that hot folk song.

After watching this video, I can't help thinking about whether the life of the northeast people will be harder than that of people in other regions as a whole.

Because their fellow countryman Li Xueqin often seems to fall into the dilemma of "doing e for me".

It is difficult for her and Mao to host Mao's heart-to-heart talk show together. Both of them are social terrorists, but Li Xueqin is always the one who is responsible for finding topics and breaking the ice.

Once the guest of the program was Long Danni, and the chat with Long Danni was very fast. By the second half of the program, the topic seemed to be almost gone.

At this time, Li Xueqin looked a little tired, feeling that she was relying entirely on the instinct of the Northeast people, and she unconsciously continued to find a topic to stop Long Danni's words from falling to the ground.

Seriously, when I watched this program, I was worried that Li Xueqin would fall asleep.

People who are afraid of society also fantasize about an ideal life;

I stay in my own small home and only go out when I want to chat with my close friends and family.

And all uninterested social activities can be put off with "Oh, I'm sorry, I have something to do temporarily".

Via@ 嗬嗬嗬嗬嗬嗬嗬嗬, but as long as you enter the society, you will find that this fantasy is so fragile that it is easily shattered by the word "good at communication" in the recruitment demand.

I also need a job, so I can only lie to HR with a smile. "I am gentle, good at dealing with colleagues and can communicate with colleagues in time."

Then, when you need to contact a strange colleague, try to get online and you won't go offline.

Online communication can also use "hahahahahaha" to pretend to be cheerful, and offline, you can only bite the bullet and pray for Deng Chao's possession.

As long as people live offline, social interaction is inevitable. Even if you go out for a walk casually in T-shirts and shorts on weekends, you may meet acquaintances.

When they met on a narrow road, I could only smile, but I still mobilized my whole body and tried to say hello.

After the fight, I had to reflect guiltily: "Was my performance ok?"? No one can see that I don't really want to say hello? "

When via @ Xu Jieer realized how much I needed acting in my life, she could immediately understand why she was worried that Tony Leung Chiu Wai might be the best actor.

There are too many moments in life that need to be disguised. Just act them out.

Every time I pretend to be cheerful, I want to dig a hole for myself. If pretending to be cheerful is described as a disaster, then the harm it brings to people in social security is undoubtedly progress.

When people just realize that they need to enter social mode, I feel flustered, embarrassed and helpless.

Just as it is difficult for Mao to describe himself resting backstage, if he meets other artists giving gifts to everyone, he will be ready when he hears something in the lounge next door.

My mind began to imagine the other person coming into my room, thinking about how many "thank you" words to say and how many bows to bow.

Countless ordinary social terrorists will also experience similar experiences when their colleagues distribute snacks and specialties, quietly observing where their colleagues send them and when it is their turn.

The reason why I observe from the corner of my eye is that I am afraid that if I pay too much attention, it will appear as if I really want that specialty or snack.

The hardest part of this step is to know that colleagues are distributing specialty products, but also to ask questions when receiving specialty products and pretend to be surprised:

"Wow, what is this! Thank you, thank you! "

I tried to pull out a cheerful and ignorant smile at the corner of my mouth, praying that my response was polite and enthusiastic enough.

After the embarrassment, the torture of social disaster is not over yet.

For introverts, what is more painful than pretending to be cheerful is post-traumatic stress disorder:

Every time I pretend to be cheerful for a minute, I will fall into at least 10 minutes of regret, self-blame and irritability.

And you need to be alone for at least ten hours to calm your inner embarrassment and anxiety.

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They found a bench to rest, but never thought that their friend was so tired that he fell asleep on the bench.

Therefore, every passing park worker and some tourists kindly came forward to ask if they needed help, because they were worried that their friends lying on the bench would faint.

She has now forgotten how many people laughed and explained that her friend was sleeping that night, and also forgot the specific wording. Later, because I was afraid of waking my friends, I saw someone coming towards her, so I took the initiative to meet her, pretended to be a social cow, and tried to say in a funny tone, "Don't worry, she's just sleeping."

But she still clearly remembers that when she watched the light show later, her whole portrait fell down, and she didn't even lift her mobile phone to take pictures and punch in. ?

I kept asking myself questions in my mind, such as why I pretended to be a funny girl, why I was so upset when others noticed me, and so on.

Moreover, after returning to China, I did nothing at home and lay down for two days at the weekend, only to feel a little social vitality.

A cruel fact that will torture introverts for a long time is that no matter how many times you pretend to be cheerful, you will still feel more or less irritable and resistant afterwards.

Because for I people, socializing is basically a pure process of consuming vitality, and they can only get vitality from solitude and inner world.

Pretending to be cheerful countless times may make you practice various scenes more smoothly and make people look at the flaws.

I still don't like those occasions in my heart.

However, the more cruel fact is that the only child can avoid visiting relatives and friends and making new friends on the grounds of introversion.

And adults, there are always various reasons to escort them. They had to smile and pretend to be happy.

There is a concept in the psychology of adults' social irrelevance preference, which is called "shallow social expert".

It is about a group of people who can only cope with superficial interpersonal relationships, but are not good at dealing with deeper social interactions.

When you get along with your colleagues, you can make fun of each other at work. You look happy, but you can't really make friends with colleagues who get along well.

I can chat with enthusiastic strangers for a quarter of an hour on the train, but when I was in college, all my classmates were sitting next to me, but I was afraid to start a conversation.

On the other hand, this is not a moment when socially fearful adults pretend to be happy.

I'm just using my social skills mechanically to achieve a certain goal.

Sometimes this purpose is to take care of others, such as going out for dinner. In a noisy restaurant, you need to call the waiter loudly to rush the food.

If it is a person, there is a high probability that someone will sit in the seat silently waiting for the waiter to pass by, and then stop each other.

But if you are having dinner with an introverted friend, then many introverted people will eventually choose to "do e for me" and raise their voices to shout at the waiter in the distance.

Pretend to be mature, steady and comfortable, and then don't embarrass your friends.

Sometimes, this purpose is for the collective atmosphere.

Lareina, who has always been regarded as a lively personality, once revealed in the program that he is not really a social bull.

She is just afraid of society to the extreme and can't stand the embarrassing atmosphere. Finally, she chose to tell her worst appearance and make an opening joke so that everyone could have something to say.

Just like a comedian selling ugliness on the stage, it is a seemingly harmonious atmosphere.

More often, the purpose of pretending to be cheerful is completely forced by life.

Sometimes work needs to go out to study, building a group needs social friendliness, renting a house needs to fight with an intermediary, and selling things needs to take the initiative to shout. ...

There are countless social scenes in life, and in most of them, people will prefer a skilled and enthusiastic person.

Over time, cheerfulness has nothing to do with personality and preferences, but has become a social etiquette.

Pretending to be cheerful has become a compulsory course for people.

In fact, many people themselves can realize that pretending to be cheerful is a bit clumsy.

Experienced HR can tell at a glance who is a fake social cow and who is a real social fear; In daily life, most people can also feel whether the other person is really talkative and happy or gentle.

But all this is actually harmless.

Showing an enthusiastic candidate in the interview can at least make the other person feel sincere and polite at the level of social etiquette.

Being a conversationalist trying to find a topic in daily life can at least avoid the bad end that the other person thinks disgusting.

In a sense, pretending to be cheerful is a way for me to deal with the outside world.

Socialization, like typing speed, video editing and calligraphy, is an ability.

As it happens, there are always some people who are not familiar with this ability, so they can't cope with the ever-changing social scene in Qian Qian easily and without burden.

So I learned to pretend to be cheerful and have the ability to be loved and recognized.

Maybe after much experience, everyone who pretends to be cheerful and painful will eventually reconcile with it.

I will still pretend when I socialize, and I will still be a little excited afterwards.

But gradually, I tend not to think that it is my fault, but only regard it as the secret of my getting along with the world.

After all, the older you get and the more experience you have, the worse you will find yourself.

There is nothing wrong with pretending to be cheerful, and society has to force everyone to pretend to be grandchildren together.