Talk to people and create an atmosphere.

Can create a good atmosphere. A good conversationalist will relax himself when talking with others. He can add some humorous language or self-deprecating words from time to time to enliven the atmosphere. Let me tell you, let's have a look.

1, add humor

No one will be interested in monotonous and boring conversations, especially in meetings, where boring content can easily make people sleepy. If the speaker says something humorous at this time, the meeting will come alive immediately. So when the conversation seems a little boring, we should pay attention to using some vivid and humorous language to * * * the audience and enliven the atmosphere.

Once, Zhang Daqian, a master of Chinese painting, wanted to go back to his hometown in Sichuan from Shanghai. His students held a farewell dinner for him and invited famous Peking Opera artist Mei Lanfang and other celebrities to accompany him. Zhang Daqian has always been aloof, and everyone is a little stiff after sitting. At the beginning of the banquet, Zhang Daqian raised his glass to Mei Lanfang and said, "Mr. Mei, you are a gentleman and I am a villain. Let me propose a toast to you first. " The guests were confused. Mei Lanfang didn't understand what it meant and asked, "Sir, how do you say this?" I saw Zhang Daqian explain with a smile: "You are a gentleman who sings and talks, and I am a villain who paints and hands-on." A word caused the whole audience to laugh, and Mr. Mei also smiled and drank a glass, and the banquet atmosphere suddenly warmed up.

Seeing that everyone was very formal, Zhang Daqian swept away his usual aloofness and skillfully adjusted the dull atmosphere with humorous words.

When talking with people, proper humor will not only damage your image, but also enliven the atmosphere.

/kloc-0 February 9, 930 is Mr. Cai Yuanpei's 70th birthday. When thanking all the people who came to celebrate my birthday, he said humorously, "When you come to celebrate my birthday, you always ask me to work for another few years. Living to 70 years old, I feel that I have done something wrong in these 69 years. If you want me to live a few more years, you want me to do something wrong for a few more years. " The guests burst into laughter, and the whole banquet was full of joy.

Mr. Cai Yuanpei skillfully set a relaxed and lively tone for the birthday party with his humor. If he had put on a serious face and made a serious speech of thanks, I'm afraid he wouldn't have received such a good result.

Humor can make you live more easily and make people feel your cuteness and humanity. Humor is a wonderful way to enliven the atmosphere, whether it is a big person or a small person. However, we should be careful not to make fun of others and enliven the atmosphere, which is easy to make people feel disgusted and may even make the situation stiff.

Step 2 find the topic

Topic is very important in conversation. Without a topic, a conversation can't last. In conversation, we should learn to have nothing to say and find topics of common interest. This is like writing an article. A good topic often makes people feel very thoughtful. If there are good topics in the conversation, it is easy to continue the conversation. A good topic is the medium of conversation and the basis of in-depth conversation. A good topic is usually a topic that one party is familiar with, both parties are interested in and can discuss.

Once the topic is found, it should be skillfully brought into the conversation, so as to ensure the smooth progress of the conversation and receive better conversation results.

Queen Zhao loves her youngest son Chang very much. Once, Qin sent troops to attack Zhao, and Empress Zhao turned to Qi for help. Qi promised to send troops, but the condition was that they were often taken hostage. Queen Zhao loved her son so much that she refused to agree. She also said to the ministers who advised me: "If anyone dares to advise me again, I will spit in his face!"

For Zhao's future, Zuo decided to persuade the Queen Mother to let Chang go to Qi. He didn't ask the queen mother directly, but said something irrelevant at the beginning, and finally the topic turned to his son's pain. Touching the dragon, he said, "You love your daughter more than your son! True love should be for the future of children. You see, although you miss Yan's daughter, you still won't let her come back to see you, and you are bent on letting her have children in Yan and be king from generation to generation. This is for her long-term plan. But you told Chang that you loved him, but you prevented him from making contributions to Qi. In this way, even if you give him luxurious food and land titles, he will accomplish nothing and everyone will be dissatisfied in the future. Over time, his life will be difficult. So I think you love your daughter more than your son. "

Zhao thinks it makes sense, so he often goes to Qi. Qi sent troops to help Zhao repel the attack of the gnats.

This story tells that Touchdragon won the emotional approval of Empress Zhao by loving her children, and finally promised to send Chang to Qi as a hostage. Therefore, when talking with people, we must find a suitable topic, which should be considered from the other side's point of view in order to arouse the other side's interest.

In the modern society where the pace of life is very fast and the pressure is very great, not everyone is willing to open their hearts and speak freely. As a young man, if you want to be a good talker, you should actively encourage the other person to speak. When expressing your opinions, you must be sincere, be cautious about the questions raised by others, and learn to change the topics that may cause quarrels. But it is inevitable that there will be nothing to say in the conversation, which will make the conversation silent and embarrassing. At this time, you need to find the right topic to break the silence and let everyone continue the dialogue.

When looking for a topic, we must choose the events that everyone cares about and aim the topic at everyone's excitement center. In this way, everyone can have something to talk about, and everyone can talk about it, which will naturally cause everyone to talk and speak, making the conversation atmosphere warm and lasting.

Mr James is a computer expert. When he came to China to give a speech, he was warmly welcomed.

Once, during the lecture break, everyone was chatting together. A young scholar sincerely asked, "What caused the space shuttle Challenger to crash?" Unexpectedly, James hesitated for a long time and said, "Sorry, I'm not sure." It turned out that the expert didn't care about non-professional questions, so he couldn't answer the questions, which made the scene very embarrassed.

This is the inappropriate topic, because I didn't fully understand the situation and asked a question that the other party was very unfamiliar with, which led to obstacles in the conversation.

Therefore, no matter where you talk, good topics should make your conversation go smoothly. As long as you think from the perspective of others, you can pay attention to the interests of others. Don't always talk about topics that the other person doesn't know much about. If the other party is not interested, it will be cold.