Proactive-"If you don't have it, create it"

Take the initiative to attack, how many people will think this is unnecessary nonsense, I am still making up such a passionate theme after work, and I am really afraid of jokes. Let's first quote Victor Frank's definition of "initiative": initiative means taking initiative, which means that people are responsible for their past, present and future actions. In the face of external stimuli, they abandon the passive role and face everything positively. It not only refers to the attitude of doing things, but also refers to that people should be responsible for their own lives, and human beings should have the enthusiasm and sense of responsibility to create a good external environment. "

Simply put, it is optimism and positive energy.

What is the nature of initiative? Grace, the goddess of positive energy, used her case of establishing a reading club in Singapore to illustrate.

With a proactive attitude, you can grasp the initiative at any time first, and you can grasp your emotions and attitudes without being influenced by the outside world. For example, some people will feel bad because of the weather. When the weather is bad, their mood will be super low. When the wind is sunny and the sky is blue, you will be in high spirits; But a proactive person has a piece of weather in his heart, whether it is windy, rainy or sunny, it won't affect him.

Secondly, when facing setbacks and difficulties with a positive attitude, I will find "Mom, there are opportunities everywhere. Looking at difficulties rationally, setbacks are also opportunities. " When Grace shared it here, I couldn't help laughing. What a ghost, I finally survived setbacks and life crits, but I feel grateful and feel a fart. (? )

In order to convince us, she shared how the Singapore Reading Club broke through the tight encirclement to gain attention and audience without resources and attention, because the influence of the reading club was small at first, and it was the first time for them to hold a cost-sharing meeting ("all the efforts were worth paying"), fearing that it would not be done well and that fewer people would attend. They sent a private letter to a friend, inviting them to attend. Unexpectedly, all their friends were very interested and the sharing meeting was an unexpected success. This is the audience they actively strive for when they encounter insufficient resources and attention. So sometimes it's not setbacks, life crits and lack of resources that trap us, but our response to setbacks, life crits and lack of resources. Although these things will really make people feel uncomfortable, we can totally deal with them positively.

I also want to share a TED video that moved me very much, Grandpa Mars's "Don't just watch' Nothing', I want to borrow something from your predicament". He's really great! ! This is his TED talk. You must watch it.

Grandpa Mars, whose real name is Xu, comes from Tainan City, Taiwan Province Province.

Worked for Citibank, Rolling Stone Records, Sweet Potato Teng, HSBC and TV Bean;

Do marketing at work and write stories after work. It doesn't seem much different from us.

But! He got polio when he was 8 months old; Can't walk before the age of 7; Due to muscular atrophy caused by polio, he will need crutches all his life. Originally a disabled person's life, but he

Crossing Sun Moon Lake twice.

I often travel abroad by myself.

I have made microfilms and acted in MVS.

I wrote five books after work and won the Red Dot Design Award.

His physical inconvenience did not stop him from enriching himself; He said: "Nothing has never trapped us, but how we view it."

So in fact, the more difficult the experience, the more you can hone your will, develop your potential and improve your ability to cope freely. Seven habits "Adversity can often stimulate the change of thinking, making people look at the world, themselves and others from a new perspective, examine the meaning of life, and then think about how to deal with it", which is a positive attitude and values. (Do you feel very enlightening? )

Come on, make a list for a proactive attitude. Let me show you one of my homework first.

The essence of human beings is initiative, because human beings not only choose the appropriate response to a specific environment, but also actively create a favorable environment. For example, actively strive for resources and actively change the working environment.

Proactive people don't shirk their responsibilities, but pay more attention to their own "circle of influence" rather than "attention circle", and listen carefully to their own language to see if they can use "If, if, I don't have time at all, I can only, he is driving me crazy ..." This is a kind of shirking responsibility to others, and it will also lead to their changeable and negative emotions. Try to change your behavior and language "from the inside out", use more sentences like "I can …, I prefer it, I plan to, I can" and take a proactive attitude.

The circle of concern is what you are interested in; Circle of influence is a circle he can override; Proactive people who pay attention to "circle of influence" will concentrate on what they can and expand their circle of influence through positive strength and attitude.

Why are people who focus on their "attention circle" negative? Because he has been staring at things beyond his control (such as global warming and other people's bad temper), it is easy to blame others, regard himself as a victim, make excuses and ignore what he can do, and the wrong focus will also produce negative energy.

Look at Grandpa Mars. Although he suffered many setbacks (he couldn't walk, which was inconvenient), he focused on "change" (circle of influence) instead of "nothing". He borrowed something from "nothing" (attention circle). But he has experienced enough "nothing" and setbacks. He published a book and stood on the platform of TED to share his positive story with us.

The positive way is to change "from the inside out", change personal behavior, make yourself more substantial and creative, and then exert influence and change the environment.

Forgive sb. for his past misdeeds

One of my life beliefs is written in the parting list, "The past is the past, you should control your emotions." Learn to explain yourself when complaints and negative emotions erupt. In the face of external stimuli, we are free to choose our own emotions. "What hurts us most is not what others have done, nor our mistakes, but our responses.

If you are bitten by a dog, you should clean the wound and get an injection. Instead of fighting it, take a bite.

Try it with me this week and use "I can", "I want" and "I'd rather" to see if my circle of influence has changed.

Hu Hongmei, who was moved by Grandpa Mars (if you think my writing is not bad, please enjoy the reward).