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Buddhists say that "birth, old age, illness and death" are four sufferings in the world, but I have a different view: life and death are only in an instant, and we have no time or ability to take care of them; It is always the law of nature, and no one wants to pay attention to it deliberately; As for illness, not everyone is unfortunately terminally ill. There are four hardships in life, which are called "food, clothing, housing and transportation". We often hear elders talk about the hard childhood life of not having enough to eat and not wearing warm clothes, which makes us unable to understand. Modern people are busy solving the problems of living and traveling. Although the house and the car are two mountains that weigh on us, with the development of China's economy, it will naturally follow. The four kinds of sufferings I mentioned are four kinds of sufferings that we often encounter in our daily life, and it is not easy to solve them. They are four kinds of mental pain ―― loneliness, emptiness, fear and depression. Let's talk about loneliness first Modern people are mostly one-child families. They have been praised by their parents since childhood, and most of them are self-centered. They always feel that others should care about me and take the initiative. You can't make friends with this mentality. In modern society, interpersonal relationships are so utilitarian and vulgar that it is difficult to find true friendship, because most people are involved in interests. Modern communication equipment is so developed that it is only a moment to meet each other from a distance. It seems that you can know countless friends immediately on the Internet, but it seems to aggravate the devaluation of "fate". After being rich, modern people will have a terrible sense of loneliness, feeling that no one can listen to their worries, feeling that their future is hopeless, feeling that their emotions can only be deeply buried, and a deep sense of loneliness will haunt them. In addition to the sense of emptiness, the mainstream value of this era seems to have been devalued. The so-called "truth, goodness and beauty" are just hypocritical jokes in the eyes of many people; And the whole society doesn't know which direction to go. Most people feel at a loss except making money to support their families after work. Emptiness is caused by people who don't know how to spend their spare time This country is essentially lacking in faith and art. Without faith and art, emptiness will naturally overflow. In this way, modern people always feel that the future life lacks meaning and direction, and life is as dull as machinery. Emptiness often occupies your heart and makes you feel at a loss. Then there is fear. Fear is a terrible sight of the future. Because of lack of experience or help, but also because of inferiority, people often have a fear of the unknown, such as treating love. Although everyone yearns for love, when love is really in front of you, you will have an inexplicable fear. You don't know what will happen with him, and you don't know what will change in your life. Not only in love, whenever we want to go to a new place, whenever we want to meet a new person, whenever we need to deal with a new challenge, there will be a fear of disaster and failure, and you will be nervous and hope that you can escape from this world at once. Finally, there is a sense of frustration. Frustration is a feeling of no achievement after hard work, a feeling of being denied self-worth, a feeling of hoping for good but ultimately failing. As the saying goes, people are more angry than people. There are comparisons everywhere in this society, in study, performance, height and appearance; Ability, taste, family background ... Our mass media are sparing no effort to publicize the meaning of wealth and success. Under all kinds of pressures and comparisons, people naturally often feel depressed and feel small and ordinary. Over time, it becomes an inner inferiority complex. Although people's psychological quality is high or low, no one can completely avoid these four kinds of sufferings, even if you are very successful, great and have many friends ... these four kinds of sufferings are something that modern people must bear, no one can escape and no one can overcome at one time; The more you read, the more lonely you will be, and the loneliness of genius is the deepest; The more pragmatic and willing people are, the more empty they feel, and the emptiness of people with lofty ideals is the most pecking at the heart; The more imaginative you are, the more afraid you are. Artists are often afraid that their works will be rejected. The higher your ambition, the more depressed you will be. People who pursue perfection are often troubled by setbacks. People with good psychological quality will try their best to resolve these psychological pains, or turn them into motivation to purify and sublimate themselves; People with poor psychological quality are autistic because of loneliness, degenerate because of emptiness, cowardly because of fear, and conservative because of failure. In recent years, the endless stream of suicides in colleges and universities is by no means because of material poverty, but precisely because these four kinds of sufferings make it difficult for him to face the world, so he would rather end up dead. You know, when a person is frustrated and then has no companion, he is still a particularly sensitive person. These four kinds of sufferings invade at the same time, and even an iron man is hard to deal with. I believe that these four kinds of mental pain will become more and more serious in the future. I also believe that a group of people who study psychology and society will pay attention to this problem and provide us with a solvable prescription.