Reflections on adopted daughters

The original intention of buying the book "Adopted Daughter" is to make up the accounts. I bought it for more than a month and haven't turned it over yet. Until this morning, I began to read this book in a quick way. After reading it, I think speed reading is not enough. I must read it carefully. By reading this book, I have broadened my horizons on the road of educating my daughter.

? In today's society, women are required to work to earn money to support their families, take care of their children and be beautiful. I also agree with the author's point of view that the living space of girls is becoming more and more complicated and full of crises, and their present and future are destined to be richer and more difficult than ours. So I agree with the author's goal: to cultivate a girl with a strong heart.

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The author said: Although every girl is unique, she wants to grow physically and mentally, so all girls will go through a similar process. This journey is divided into five stages. Daughter only 15 months, phase I and phase II. Today I will try to rewrite my feelings about the first and second stages.

The first stage: sense of security-whether I am safe and loved (born 1 ~ 2 years old).

? Babies, who have just come to this somewhat cold world from their mother's warm, comfortable and safe belly, will naturally feel insecure. They need our comfort to control their natural anxiety. We should provide emotional support to the baby at any time.

Support and establish good contacts. One more thing, children will not adjust themselves into our lives. On the contrary, we need to adapt to her and be prepared for life to be completely changed. Accept this, and we will get more happiness. In our daily life, we can bathe, dress, change diapers and so on. Let the baby not be so anxious, even think these are very interesting. Then it's easier to bathe the baby, get dressed and change diapers.

During the period from my daughter's birth to 15 months, I feel that I have done a good job in providing emotional support and establishing contact with my baby, but I still seem to lack some happy elements, probably because I am a person who lacks a sense of humor. If we are happy, she will be happy, too. In the future, we should strive to change ourselves, cultivate our fun mood and bring some happy elements to our children. )

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? The second stage: exploration-is the world a happy and interesting place? (2 to 5 years old)

? Children aged 2-5 are curious about everything. As long as life and property are not endangered, children should be encouraged to explore (for example, children should step on mud pits or walk barefoot). And don't be so afraid of children's clothes getting dirty. The more you explore, the more you will help to cultivate happier children.

It is worth mentioning that the article mentions a research finding: parents are completely unaware that the focus and content of what they say to boys and girls are completely different.

If it is a boy, parents will say: Look! There are three rabbits over there.

If it is a girl, parents will say: Look, how cute those rabbits are!

If it is a boy, parents will say: Wow, you built a tower with 10 fast building blocks.

If it is a girl, parents will say: Wow, the tower you built is really beautiful.

Can you tell the difference? Boys are numbers, girls are feelings. This unconscious suggestion has a powerful influence.

I'm sure that no parents will intentionally weaken their daughter's math ability, but we inadvertently start to pay attention to the rational feelings of boys and the emotional experiences of girls. Maybe we can try to reverse this situation. Girls are naturally sensitive to emotions. We can encourage her to develop this ability, but we can also talk to her about numbers often. "Look, how many rabbits are there? Boys already have a good sense of space, so a conversation like "those rabbits are very nervous, looking at them, their ears pricked up and listening to our voices" can make boys feel emotional.

? Regarding the choice of toys, you don't have to buy pink dolls for girls, bake, clean up the house, love decoration, hairdressing and shopping. Maybe she will like rockets, castles, guns, truck farms and so on. . In short, you can give her more choices, and don't set limits on her by sex.

? I usually take my daughter out when I explore this area. When I go to the park, I will take my daughter to observe the ants on the ground, or the flowers on the trees and birds. I will use some beautiful and lovely flowers. What color are these flowers? These statements, but never introduce numbers, and try to use numbers slowly in life later)

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The third stage: interacting with people-can I get along with others? (5 to 10 years old)

The fourth stage: intimate-whether I can find my hidden self and know what can give me real happiness. (10 to 14 years old)

Stage 5: Step into the adult world-can I be responsible for myself? (14 years old to 18 years old)

? Although this book is specially written for girls, many contents in it are also applicable to boys.

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