When the weather is cold, children like to stay in bed. What should I do if I am late for school?

Early in the morning, I saw the news from my sweet mother: Tian Tian is almost five years old, and she is doing well in her self-care ability in kindergarten. However, at home, Tian Tian wants her mother to do everything. Even when she got up in the morning, she didn't lose consciousness. Usually, her mother is worried that if she is late, her children will get dressed. Mom, is this right? What would you do if your children were like Tian Tian? ?

With the constant change of temperature, adults still want to sleep in when it is cold, and it is reasonable for children to stay in bed. It is human nature for children to stay in bed. It doesn't matter if the baby can't sleep late, but for children in kindergarten or primary school, there should be a time range for staying in bed. It is ok to sleep for a while within the allowed time, but you will be late if you exceed the time limit.

What if the child is still lazy in bed in the face of being late? If parents can't handle this problem well, it will have a great impact on their children. Don't think it will be late to look after the children. It is a trivial matter for parents to dress their children, but it is actually very harmful to hide them. Parents care about their children unprincipled and help them do what they can, which will not only deprive them of their ability to take care of themselves, but also destroy their sense of rules.

According to the characteristics of three stages of children's growth, Montessori divides the process of children's growth into nine sensitive periods, among which the sensitive period of children's social norms is from two to six years old. At this stage, children can realize the existence of social norms and abide by them at the request of authoritative people, but they can't understand the significance of doing so. As the first teacher of children, parents should stick to principles and keep promises in daily life, so as to establish prestige in children's hearts. Children can only listen to their parents if they gain their trust. On the contrary, an honest and trustworthy parent cannot educate an honest and trustworthy child.

Now come back and take a closer look at the specific description of the problem by sweet mother, especially the key point: mothers often worry that their children will be dressed when they are late. ? I can't help but be happy when I look at it. Since children's self-care ability is very good in kindergarten, why don't they get up and get dressed at home in the morning? In fact, the inertia of children at home is cultivated by parents.

As we all know, what children should do before the age of 3 includes: in addition to intellectual development and the establishment of a sense of security, there is also the cultivation of ability. The cultivation of ability includes language ability and self-care ability. In this sense, there is no problem with the self-care ability of children who are almost 5 years old, which can also be seen from the description of the problem. At this time, parents also help their children dress, which is depriving them of their self-care ability.

Why do children behave differently in kindergarten and at home?

You know, although children are young, they know a lot. He knew that someone would call him if he didn't get up; If he doesn't wear clothes himself, someone will dress him; He knows everything about his parents' thoughts, so he will lead them by the nose. Anyway, I don't worry about being late for school, and I don't need to worry, because my parents will be more anxious than me. With this idea, will children get up and get dressed on their own initiative? Of course not.

What should parents do if their children get up and dress unconsciously when they are late?

1, planning with children

As the saying goes:? You can't make a square without rules? . The parents of a responsible person have cultivated their children's self-care ability before their children are 3 years old. Children can wash their hands and faces, drink water and eat, dress, wear shoes and socks, urinate and defecate, and so on.

When the child has the above self-care ability, it is necessary to set rules for the child from the first day of kindergarten. To make rules for children, we must make plans. Making a plan is not stipulated by parents, so let the children follow it directly. Instead, we should adopt a democratic approach and make rules with our children. For example: when to get up in the morning, brush your teeth, wash your face, eat, go to school, wash your face and go to bed at night. Set a time with your child, because the child is involved in the setting and the child is willing to implement it.

2. Tell your child that this is your own business.

Children are naturally spoiled, especially in front of their parents. Children all know that in kindergarten, teachers let them do things by themselves. Children understand that so many children will do nothing unless they are teachers. So the child obediently did everything he should do. As soon as I got home, the child changed immediately. Because children know that parents have always cared about them in details, they will be clever and charming and want their parents to help them with everything. Some parents have no position. They clearly tell their children to do their own things, and they immediately meet their children's requirements when they are spoiled. Over time, it not only develops children's inertia, but also teaches children to be duplicitous.

When children don't want to do their own things at home, parents just need to remind them that it's your own business and mom and dad can't help you. For example, if a child is going to be late in the morning and is not dressed in bed, parents will tell the child how long it will take to go to school, or he will be late if he doesn't get up. After my parents have said this, there is no need to say anything more. As for when he gets up and dresses, when he eats and when he goes to school, there is no need to ask. On the way to send your child to school, you should make it clear to your child why you are late today. If the teacher asks, you must tell the truth and do it once, and the child will probably change next time.