The biggest setback in life

When people reach middle age, their mentality has been much more stable. No frivolity in youth, no impulse in youth! It may be a little early to talk about life, but looking back, I suddenly found myself going through many vicissitudes!

It was noon in winter, the sun was shining warmly on the earth, and my children and I were still playing in the house. When the TV was on, a neighbor came over with a child of the same age and said that my twin brother was running around other people's children, and the second one was far away, without looking or paying attention. A person is too arrogant!

At noon that day, grandma said angrily that the child was so "rude" (in dialect, it means ignoring people) that he must be allowed to play with the child. But no matter what you call it, the second is to ignore it.

Grandma was anxious, so she took the "gong" that had not been moved for a long time at home and knocked hard. The second child is still standing in front of the closet alone, playing like nothing happened!

Unwilling grandma was afraid that her child would be deaf, so she began to try all kinds of things! I first knocked with a gong, then came closer, slapped him hard, and then let the child walk up to him and yell at him. The result is no response.

Grandma is in a hurry. What if she's afraid he's really deaf? There are still advertisements on TV that nobody likes to watch. The second child went to the yard to shit, suddenly magically ran into the house and stared at the TV: weather forecast!

Later, after several experiments, the second child could hear it, but he was particularly sensitive to his favorite sounds, such as the weather forecast. Even if the sound is very small and far away, he will come to see it quickly, but he just ignores people!

We all find children a little strange, but we don't want to admit that there is something wrong with them! At this time, the child is one and a half years old, and the boss is not as good as the second child. We all think the child is late!

When I was two years old and three months old, the boss began to talk. Since the word "ancient", I have expressed it one by one. The second child is not silent, but there is no communication voice. He will say "Mom, Mom, Mom …" like a machine gun, and he will learn "Grandma …", but he can't help but be speechless.

Two and a half weeks later, we went to Hebei Children's Hospital, and the second child was diagnosed as autism by the doctor! Immediately asked if it could be cured, the doctor gave us some drugs to improve our intelligence, and said that this disease is accompanied by life! You can go to them for rehabilitation training, one class lasts for half an hour, and one class costs more than 200 yuan!

At that time, I suddenly felt that the sky was falling, and we didn't know what to do when we got home. At that time, my husband earned two or three thousand yuan a month to support our family of five or six people. Economic pressure also makes us breathless!

I hate myself! I hate everything around me! Naively thought that as long as the child can go to kindergarten at the age of three, I can go to work in a down-to-earth manner!

I was wrong! I was completely wrong! During that time, I was even more depressed than when I was confined! Why did you put me through this torture? What did I do wrong? What should I do?

Back to my hometown, my husband and I separated, and this day lasted until my child was four and a half years old before I decided to take him to rehabilitation training!

During this period, I tried children and small classes. In the past, other hospitals tried treatment, and they were all cheated of the treatment fee. Besides, children have suffered a lot, which has caused a series of psychological shadows.

After stopping treatment for a period of time, the child slowly returned to the state where he could receive normal medication before! It has been more than three years since I took my children to a professional institution for rehabilitation training.

During that time, my state of mind changed from full expectation at the beginning to hope that children can take care of themselves when they grow up. I am trying to change. I study rehabilitation training knowledge and practice skills with my children at home. I have devoted all my energy!

The second child is getting better gradually, but you can tell his abnormality as soon as you open your mouth! I was in a hurry and hit him. I regret it! Later, I met another parent and went to work in the institution he opened, taking care of the children while working! Our life has also begun to improve gradually!

Looking back now, the road I walked was the most difficult and helpless, and the setbacks and sufferings I experienced gradually made me learn to forge ahead from then on.

In those days, I understood a truth: it is useless to cry and complain. Only by doing it myself can I help myself stand up and help my children out of trouble bit by bit!

This story has always been in my heart. I couldn't help crying when I wrote about my whole story today! As a mother, tears do not bring progress to children. Only with unremitting efforts and correct love can children go further and further under my leadership!

The biggest setback in life is the moment when I learned that my child had autism and was told that there was no cure!

How to get out? Time will tell us the answer! We also try our best to accomplish our mission! There is a belief that can support us to move forward, that is, everything will be fine!

Really, everything will be fine! As long as you don't give up, your child's future can be expected!