Provide emotional value correctly and give girls the feeling of love!

Provide emotional value, so that chat has the feeling of love.

Whether you are making friends or falling in love, if you want to get each other's favor, you must make them feel that you are unique]

The first thing to do is to provide emotional value to each other. So what can be done to provide emotional value? What are the replicable dry goods chat skills?

R three strokes, perfect to provide emotional value

Provide the essence of emotion

Make each other's chat more interesting, even exaggerated or a little exaggerated, as long as it makes both people feel happy, it is a good chat mode.

First, laugh at yourself moderately.

The simplest and best way to use humor is to laugh at yourself. Appropriate self-mockery can adjust the chat atmosphere and provide emotional value to the other party.

Self-mockery is not a simple self-denial, but a kind of self-confidence that dares to face one's own shortcomings and make fun of them. This kind of self-confidence can also bring happiness to people around you.

Specific practice: when you find your own shortcomings, accept and admit them frankly, and then explain them in a rational way.

Formula: admit shortcomings+reasonable association+explain amusement.

take for example

It didn't hurt at all to fall when walking today, but fortunately there was so much meat to cushion ~

I'm not RMB either, so it's normal that not so many people like it ~

This kind of self-mockery is mainly to face your own shortcomings frankly, admit that you dare to face the humorous explanation in front of everyone, make everyone feel confident, dare to face your own shortcomings, and make everyone laugh.

Don't laugh at yourself too much, too much will become self-harm. That's very PS: it's easy for others to think that you don't respect yourself, so the effect is counterproductive. Just laugh at yourself once in a while.

Emotional ups and downs

Secretly tell you: the secret of love lies in the ups and downs of emotions, and the answer can be found in the field of psychology.

Suspension bridge effect: When a person crosses the suspension bridge in fear, his heart will beat faster involuntarily. If she happens to meet another person at this time, then she will mistakenly think that the heartbeat caused by this situation is the physiological reaction that the other person makes him move, so she breeds love for the other person.

Emotional ups and downs

It's like bullying a female classmate when I was a child and accidentally making her cry. I feel sorry for all the coaxing, giving gifts to make her happy, and so on. Finally, you made up. At this time, you will feel the relationship between each other. There is an inexplicable sense of closeness and affection, and the flame of love was born.

How to do it: Your expression gives the other person a feeling of ups and downs.

Formula: first deny, then affirm.

take for example

Man: Haha, you are so stupid, but you are still cute. W: Hum, what do you think?

Deny it first, then say yes.

The resulting emotional ups and downs are like walking on a wide suspension bridge. If you can't guess whether there is danger in the next second, this insecurity will lead to heartbeat, heartbeat, thus sparking the spark of love.

Benefits: The uncertainty you bring to the other party is like watching an unknown story in a movie for the next second, which will make TA involuntarily concentrate.

Ps: Take the other person up and down emotionally. Be sure that the other person will find you boring. If you are too negative, you will easily feel that you are attacking TA.

Of course, the most important thing is that we should all say these things on the premise of sincere respect and comfort to each other, not offense.

Provide value

Third, provide value.

Providing value is to make use of the T tendency of human nature to seek advantages and avoid disadvantages]

Because people like to get it for free, they will automatically guard against what they have to pay for.

It's like: you just joined the new WeChat community and want everyone to notice you quickly. It is better to send a red envelope, even if it is only a few dollars, someone will rob you.

By taking advantage of people's extensive interests, you can mobilize their willingness to interact with you.

Specific practice: In the process of chatting and interacting, you actively provide positive emotional feedback. Even the attitude of the other party. Generally speaking, you can also keep a calm mind. When chatting, give the other person a sense of identity, or praise, and make the other person's chat atmosphere better, so that the other person will be willing to interact with you.

Give two examples.

Woman: t Oh, [well, [hehe] Man: I'll tell you a secret. The man who told me before has been killed by me.

Provide positive emotional value

Woman: Ah, I'm exhausted. Man: Come on, sit down and give you a hammer ~

Woman: Ha ha ha.

Provide behavioral value

Provide value purposefully.

In other words, when we provide value, we should not be swayed by considerations of gain and loss, but feel that we need to get some feedback. We just need to grasp:

I just miss you in Doby. I don't care whether you are happy or not, so I can easily let go of my burden.

But many people here will make a mistake-provide value and then ask for it, which becomes purposeful provision of value. This is a big mistake. Once the other person realizes that you have a purpose, they will think that you are insincere.

The wrong way to provide value purposefully.

Female; Ah, I'm exhausted today.

Man: Come on, sit down and give you a hammer. Come out on a date with me after hammering tomorrow.

Woman: Yeah. ......

Feel it, the difference between the two is still obvious! !

Fourth, the collision of emotions sparks love.

However, many people don't know how the spark of love comes into being. Here, from the perspective of [brain science], give everyone a wave of cognition ~

In order to adapt to survival, early reptiles evolved the original instinctive brain, but the instinctive brain only has instinct, either fighting or flying, without any emotion or thinking. Then, mammals began to appear, not only retaining the instinctive brain, but also evolving the R emotional brain. ...

Then gradually produced anger, boredom, happiness, pity and so on. Finally, human beings appeared and gradually evolved into rational brains]

Spark love.

Love is an emotional change in the [emotional brain], which makes us begin to have feelings for another person.

(unique to human beings)

Rational brain: Originated from primate era, it is in charge of cognition.

Emotional brain: Originated in the era of mammals, it is in charge of emotions.

Instinctive brain: Originated in the era of reptiles, it is in charge of instinct.

When you feel comfortable with someone, she can make you happy, make you angry and make you sad. When you are worried, you will subconsciously throw yourself into your emotions, and this person will often become the beginning of your feelings.

So you will find that it is difficult for people who are not easy to fall in love to put their emotions into others. They all look at things rationally, objectively evaluate right and wrong, and judge right and wrong, which is meaningless to the progress of feelings.

If you want to fall in love easily, you have to mobilize your emotions and mobilize yourself and her emotions.

Then the feeling of love was there, and finally the door closed. How can we promote the relationship?

Fifth, promote relationships, and love will come naturally.

You can use these skills to pave the way for love when you have fallen in love with each other and are in the ignorant stage.

Reverse tracing

You like each other, so you can put yourself on the passive side.

Enhance relations

Giving each other the initiative to pursue their feelings and exchanging the status of men and women will increase each other's sense of ignorance.

Specific practice: when the atmosphere is warm and ambiguous, put yourself on the pursued party and pave the way for the other party to get close to yourself, which will deepen the degree of warmth and love will naturally arise.

public

Type: when the other party needs you+humorous refusal+conditional consent.

take for example

When the other person wants to ask you to go shopping.

M: No, unless you praise me as handsome/cute.

When someone wants to invite you to a movie:

Man: Of course, then you can't secretly hold my hand.

Give the other person a hint that he wants to chase you. When the real atmosphere is in place, everything will happen naturally. Needless to say, many things in love have created a sweet love.

Implant intimate expectation

After the relationship is in place, you can use the preset language with intimate scenes to create more intimate expectations for both parties, pave the way for the love atmosphere and let the other party look forward to the sweetness after being together.

How to do it: describe some intimate details and action scenes in the chat.

public

Type: Details+Intimate Scene Action

Enhance relations

take for example

Describe ambiguous interactions:

M: It's a good thing it's not my girlfriend. If you keep looking at me like that, I really can't help kissing you.

Describe the scene:

M: You can cook in the kitchen in the future, and I can hold you from behind. .....

This kind of scene can be seen from daily love movies and love novels: no one is born romantic, and it is based on the usual life materials and romantic plots. Make yourself a romantic person.

Misunderstanding:

Many people don't understand the importance of providing emotional value, so even if they spend a lot of time chatting with each other, they will still have two impressions:

1) Talking to you [boring]

2) We can only [talk about it, and the chat has turned into a debate.

Chatting is a matter that both sides need to pay time and energy. If both sides can't feel happy in the chat, it is better to end the conversation and do things separately.

This has produced two phenomena:

A. The other party sees your message, but doesn't reply.

B. Talk slowly and coldly, with a ending and words.

Conclusion: I haven't heard from you for hours. I haven't heard from you for a long time. Uh-huh, ah, oh, hehe.

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Finally, in fact, so much has been said above. Looking down, you have also gained a lot. However, to be honest, these are the simplest, not the most powerful.

What I want to teach you next is:

1, how to meet a strange girl and ask her to add your WeChat, what to talk about specifically, where to ask her to go, what to do, what to talk about, when to hold hands and kiss, how to propose to establish a relationship with her and let her be your girlfriend, and what to say specifically?

2, in any different occasions, different scenes, office, school waiting, online, friends gathering, etc. How to attract women?

3. How to have a deep conversation with a woman, so that she can completely fall in love with you and feel that you understand her?

It is not the most important thing to know what women are thinking, but to let them dare to show their most intimate thoughts and true side in front of you and quickly build a strong sense of trust. This is a truly powerful "weapon".

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