Moderate safe distance for Swedes

At noon on Saturday, the light rain had stopped, and my husband went out to work overtime. When he left, he felt something was wrong. He said he would give you some time and I would take my daughter away. I lamented the growth of my husband, from a big boy to a father.

So I had a moment of private time to write this article, communicate with myself and make a record. Accustomed to literature and art, I am really comfortable. I have to say that as a happy hostess, it is easy to get separated from myself accidentally in this family. Her husband is warm and charming, and her children are smart and lovely. In addition to washing hands and cooking soup every day, not thinking about progress is to actively think about shopping strategies in the discount season of midsummer festival. ...

One term that I often think about this week is "comfortable and safe social distance", and one name that has been mentioned many times is "Linda".

Linda is a real Swede, with a chubby face and fleshy cheeks, so that the curve of the cheeks protrudes out of the nose. In addition, she has fat shoulders and an almost invisible waist. I first met her at the Ming Palace Chinese Restaurant in early May. I guess this is a middle-aged aunt who walked by, but she is very nice. I remember that day I wore an orange dress, amber earrings and a rather delicate makeup. I sat gracefully by the wall and patiently explained to Xin-er the patterns in China's paintings on the wall: Proud as a peacock, a crane spreading its wings, and a hundred birds flying at the phoenix ... Xin-er also read them clearly to me, perhaps because the picture was warm and beautiful, which attracted Linda sitting in the opposite position to cast envious eyes from time to time. In Sweden, it is very suitable for children. I have long been used to taking Xin Er out to win this honor, so I responded with a polite smile (domestic friends can imagine meeting a blonde doll with closed eyes in a restaurant, and everyone will not think I am talking big).

After dinner, Linda came up and said, "Oj, vad vackert spr? All right, what do you say? Lamig? " Translating modal particles into Chinese means: "God, what a beautiful language, can you teach me?" I was so flattered that I left her an email, which I didn't take seriously at first, because under such circumstances, if a Swede left me an email, I probably wouldn't reply. By the way, I met an old overseas Chinese who worked there at the United Nations Headquarters. I remember he was an old professor at Columbia University, and he left me an email. I thought I didn't reply.

A few days later, I received an email from Linda, one by one, about five or six, asking which cities I had been to in Sweden. What kind of activities do you like and when can you arrange to meet? To tell the truth, I settled in Sweden, lived in Lin Xue, and occasionally went to Beixueping for meetings and visas (because there is no immigration office in Lin Xueping); Have you been there once during the 20 12 master's exchange? In order to meet a professor of women's studies, Rebro also visited the Vasa Shipwreck Museum in Stockholm, the China Embassy in Switzerland, the British Embassy in Switzerland and aranda Airport. Besides, like Kant, I have been staying within five kilometers of my home. Planting flowers and grass, making good food in the library and squatting at home to watch movies are my biggest destination, okay?

Linda was promised a date at the espresso bar in the city center at the end of May. I just celebrated my 34th birthday. I remember very clearly that I bought a big red and deep V European retro dress on my birthday. People living in Sweden are always restless and eager for good weather in summer. ...

On the same morning, my neighbor Mary invited me to have a barbecue in the forest. When Zhang Lin happened to leave her daughter at my house and asked me to stay and look after her, she and two dolls spent a wonderful morning in the forest. At noon, Zhang Lin had to invite sushi in the city center to show his gratitude. There was nothing I could do, so I returned the invitation to their mother and daughter Fica. The afternoon tea tradition in Sweden is very intimate. Even if you add two happy pauses every day, the friendship that is not iron enough will be maintained. In order to fight, in order to eat together, we can drink coffee, eat kanelbulle and simply meet. I think this is also the tone I set for Linda. You know that Europe is not peaceful these years, so be careful when making friends!

Espresso house has just been renovated. There are many artificial ivy and olives, and the seats are mostly log texture, which looks fresh and tidy. I ordered a cup of green tea for myself and Zhang Lin, and a vanilla matcha dessert for two children. Linda seems to have spent a long time ordering food in Swedish. When she served the drinks, Zhang Lin and I had almost finished drinking tea. Later, Linda explained that her stomach was very sensitive and she could only drink something without calcium, which reminded me of Talat, who was sick downstairs all the year round. The habits of unhealthy people are strikingly similar!

Zhang Lin values friends a little. Her super husband (who used to be the department manager of Apple) came back from a business trip in America today. Before picking up her husband, she planned to take the baby to have her hair done to surprise her husband. So she said, "Libby, tell this little old lady first, I want to praise you." So she finished a cup of tea and left in a hurry.

Linda and I were left alone. She took out a sorting notebook and said, "Libby, are you going to give me a lesson?"

So it became my first Chinese class in Sweden. I helped her write down the Chinese pronunciation, Chinese writing and the corresponding Swedish interpretation of each phrase, and then kept practicing. Linda has learned how to dance, sing, drink water and drink water since Zhang Lin came back from beauty treatment? Here you are. Thank you. You're welcome. Xin-er and I danced with joy, only to see her tell our mother and daughter in sign language, "blomma (flower), fisk (fish), orm (snake), H? St (Horse) "I lamented the flexibility of her hands, and heard that she learned sign language because of her nephew, which really stunned me. In the next few meetings, she played sign language almost every time. I don't know if it was a gimmick or an unconscious behavior habit.

Zhang Lin came back and whispered to me, "Where hasn't this little old lady gone yet?" I said, "Swedes are so ugly. They are less than 33 years old and two years younger than you! " We are the youngest in our family! "Dear girl, as a new generation of women, it is meaningful to look at the figure and face, because the bloated figure and face will directly let you enter the wrong age range if you are not careful, and your self-esteem will be severely hit, and even you will lose your life because these excess fats hinder the function of the heart and brain. A few days ago, I heard a female scientist in the United States say that people with small waist-hip ratio are obviously more confident and decisive than those with large waist-hip ratio. Therefore, keeping in shape is not only the demand of beauty, but also a healthier and more confident body and mind.

I'm not used to sitting with people I met for the first time for too long, so I suggested that Zhang Lin talk to this new friend and I take my two children out for ice cream. The late summer in Sweden makes the Swedes who love the sun involuntarily stay in tr? g？ There are many piles in rststall square. Men and women are drinking coffee and eating ice cream. Occasionally there will be snuff and lip smoke on some small tables. I heard that Emmaljund or Bouriaud's stroller was parked next to the nurse. One or two babies were crying, and the young parents around them freed a hand to push the stroller back and forth. Everything is calm again. 5: 30, Lin Xueping train? g？ Forget, the sun hasn't set yet. The sun shines on the faces of Swedes who want to enjoy the summer sunshine, as if their faces were the favorite brown in an afternoon. I think it is no exaggeration to say that the sun is a totem in the hearts of Swedes. People's satisfied faces seem to worship and appreciate the generosity of God and Apollo, the sun god. More spectacular scenes. If you are interested, you can go to tinnerb when the weather is fine. Please don't be surprised to see cksbadet's outdoor swimming pool. Why are there far more people lying on the terrace and beside the grass in bikinis basking in the sun than those swimming in the pool ... Sometimes I think that the Swedish who looks aloof and arrogant actually has a much more natural relationship with nature and animals than with people, and I, a girl from rural China, have the same view on the behavior of this country and have a seamless connection. From villages to towns, to second-tier cities, to Beijing, the capital, and then to Sweden, I am floating like duckweed, flying freely in the sky like a bird, struggling and enjoying this infinite world. The result and possibility of all this, traced back to the source, reminds me of that endless field, which once gave me freedom, wildness and yearning. Maybe that's why I like the controversy in Gone with the Wind.

I saw Linda again on the National Day in Sweden. There is an unchanging tradition in Sweden, that is, God always gives the Swedes the best weather on June 6, and it rained cats and dogs on time on the midsummer festival on the 23rd.

Every year, Lin Xueping's celebrations are held in the forest where the Valla Automobile Museum is located in the old town of Lin Xueping. At that time, there will be exquisite classic cars of different ages on display at the outermost part of the venue, music played by honor guards in Swedish military uniforms, publicity by different local enterprises and organizations, and a Swedish band will be specially invited to perform. Most Swedes will take a blanket, sit on the floor and listen to music, and sing or dance with the band when bathing in the sunshine. I have to sigh that Sweden is really a country obsessed with music.

As soon as Linda saw me, she said that Zhang Lin and I were so real and sincere. We were very, very important to her, and she couldn't help hugging me twice. Her sudden enthusiasm surprised me, and at the same time I hugged and smiled. I am willing to bring happiness and joy to people, and the feeling of being trusted really intoxicated me, especially in this foreign country. Occasionally, everyone needs a hug, I think. The first time I saw Linda's Sambo, this is a unique name in Sweden, which means cohabitation protected by law. Swedes are very open about sex. If you don't consider getting married, even if you have three or four babies together, you can still have a triple gem relationship. Linda's three treasures are called Bj? Rn (meaning big bear), sitting in a pile of old cars with a recliner, turned and pointed to a 73-year-old yellow car as a sign to stare at the auto show. When he stood up and shook hands with us, I found that although he was lame in one leg, his face was very confident. Later, Linda visited my house and learned about Bj? Rn has represented Sweden in the Paralympic Games for many times, and won a certain air rifle championship and third place. The former Paralympic champion is six years older than Linda. She likes Linda very much. Even if it is 5000 meters away from home, as long as Linda calls, the man will definitely drive to pick her up. It is terrible for me to rely on one person so much.

Linda lost her father when she was a child and was born with several disabilities. For example, mild autism, and so on, one of which made me lament the magic of the creator. I promised him that I would never tell anyone ... At present, she is waiting for the results of the skin test in the hospital because she really doesn't want to pass on these physical defects to the next generation. She expressed this and couldn't help crying on the way. I gave her a big hug and comforted her not to be too worried and afraid. Everything will be fine in the end.

Linda obviously got used to my emotional dependence quickly and asked me how we should celebrate her upcoming birthday in person or send dozens of messages. Ask me if I can help her exercise to lose weight, because she doesn't like her bloated figure but can't take the initiative to participate in sports; Ask me if I can teach her to cook healthier dishes, because she cooks and eats green vegetables so badly; She must send messages every morning and evening to confirm that she still has my friendship; She makes an appointment with me twice a week, because she needs someone to lean on. One night when I went out with my family, I forgot to bring my mobile phone. She was worried that something would happen to me. ...

I finally couldn't help writing an email to this poor friend, admitting that I can't be the closest friend in her mind, because I am used to inner independence and enjoy a certain range of undisturbed time and space for thinking and writing, especially as the mother of a baby girl under two years old.

As a Swede, she doesn't know a word called a reasonable safe distance, which surprised me; She has a beautiful voice, but I am surprised at her arrogance. She is penniless because she has no college degree and is disabled. And the hidden flaws in her mouth look like flowers to me. What a strange body she has! But without a complete and healthy personality and the ability to think independently, how much love can you embrace to fill a heart's fear?

My dear friend, I hope that one day, you can stand on that branch alone, even if there is no audience, you can stretch your beautiful voice to the fullest! Because of you, it is really special! ! Maybe you have many friends, of course, it may be a little distant, because your big bear can only have one!

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