The solution to cold violence?

Domestic cold violence is very harmful, which will make young people present an old state, such as forgetfulness, insomnia and dreaminess. Even because of family unhappiness, depression led to suicide. My family used to have cold violence. Let me share with you how I solved it.

1. Both sides should understand each other.

Mutual understanding is the premise of solving any contradiction. If both sides don't understand each other, then the contradiction will exist forever and become more and more fierce. Both sides of cold violence should know that cold violence hurts not only one side, but both sides.

2. Use other communication methods instead.

Under the cold violence, the two sides basically do not communicate in language and body, but they can use other ways instead. When both parties are unwilling to communicate in words, information, letters and WeChat are also very good communication methods.

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He is also a way to start a conversation. Many times, it is not convenient for the parties to directly mention something, or directly mention the focus of contradictions between the two sides. They can talk about other things and find other topics to slowly resolve the "cold state." The search for such topics can be news, popular movies and TV series, and more importantly, what the other party is interested in.

4. Apologize as soon as you open your mouth

When the "cold state" is slowly resolved and the two sides need to communicate, it must not be accusations and complaints. If you still blame and complain, then the contradiction may intensify in an instant.

It is extremely important for the wrong party to apologize, because it can make the other party understand your inner thoughts and understand you. Apologize and then you can express your needs, which is what I want you to do, so that the other party can accept it more easily.

Take myself as an example. My wife and I have been married for 10 years, but in the seventh year, there is also a seven-year itch. At that time, due to the pressure of work, I liked to hang out with my friends and drink inferior wine after work. After a long time, my husband and wife gradually escalated from fighting to cold violence.

Later, with the intervention of the elderly in both families, my wife and I had a frank and profound talk and found that the biggest fault was me. Then, I quickly apologized to my wife, and then the cold violence was solved.

Looking back now, if there is cold violence, if both sides are unwilling to bow their heads and admit their mistakes, the final result will definitely be divorce, so sometimes they will admit their mistakes when they should. After all, they did something wrong.

Summary: Cold violence is very harmful, but after it appears, we must find ways to actively communicate and resolve it, and we must not let cold violence become a weapon to hurt each other.